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"My fiancé is refusing to get a second job." A bride quit her job to plan her $80k wedding.

Planning a wedding is a lot of work, sure.

There’s so much to think about: The venue, flowers, guest list, food, cake, music, dress… you get the point, and it’s all going to be very time consuming.

It’s also stressful and can become very, very expensive.

Taking all this into account, most people would advise quitting your job to plan your very costly wedding is not… wise. Then, if you did that and then demanded your husband-to-be get a second job to support you while you plan said wedding, full-time, most people would think you were joking.

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For one upcoming bride, this is no joke. That is exactly what she’s done, and she sees no issue with it.

“HELP I NEED ADVICE,” the bride shared in a Facebook post uploaded to Reddit, adding that she and her fiancé were fighting a lot.

“I quit my job because wedding planning was taking up so much time, and my fiancé is refusing to get a second job.

“He doesn’t understand that I don’t have time to get ready for work, drive to work, be somewhere else all day, and drive home. I need to be HOME to plan this wedding,” she said.

…Oh.

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The bride said she'd been searching for a job that would allow her to work from home but it was proving difficult, and she just couldn't understand why her future husband was not open to the idea of getting himself a second job.

"It really pisses me off because we are spending $80,000 on this wedding and he keeps saying that we should spend less," the bride wrote.

"UH, HELLO, NO. This is MY WEDDING I have been dreaming of since I was little and I REFUSE to have anything but my dream wedding."

She requested advice from fellow members of a closed wedding Facebook group: "How can I convince him to work a second job to pay for this?" What happened to 'happy wife, happy life'??????????"

On Facebook, the post garnered more than 120 comments from members who mostly suggested that the bride needed to get back to work, ASAP.

"I would reply but I can’t say it nicely so I’ll just observe," said one member.

"I can't believe you quit your job just to plan your wedding. You both should be working together. If you can't afford a 80k wedding on his one income then stop acting like a spoiled brat, either downside your budget or get a job... it's not that hard," said another.

Mainly members were dismayed by the bride's use of the word "my" instead of "we", pointing out that it was also her husband's wedding.

Reddit users were, ahem, less-than-complimentary about the anonymous bride, pointing out that her post was one heck of a red flag (or five).

"If you have the money and want to spend it on your big day, good for you. But demanding your partner work two jobs to afford it (especially because she doesn't want to work) is crazy!" replied one user.

"I think most girls dream of their perfect wedding day, but if I suggested spending that much and I quit my job while insisting my partner get a second job I’m pretty sure marriage wouldn’t be on the table anymore, and I wouldn’t blame him. This shit is ridiculous. I’m assuming there is love there, but after these red flags I hope he at least postpones the wedding until she comes back to reality," wrote another.

And then there was this apt description: "This isn't just a red flag. This is a strobe light with a few fog horns attached to it."

No word on whether the bride has managed to solve her problem, but we are hoping for a juicy follow-up ASAP.

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