We see a lot of engagement rings. Social media is flooded with images after a proposal.
We talk about the size, shape, weight, clarity of the diamond. The way it might match a wedding band. We see how it looks in different lights and settings. Instagram brings us photographs of engagement rings on hands in front of the Eiffel tower; atop the cliffs in Santorini; wrapped around the hands of their fiance, holding little jewellery boxes.
But once the wedding band is added, maybe even an eternity ring as well, the photographs stop. The rings fit together. They are there on the third finger of the left hand, and serve as a more private reminder to the couple of their commitment, their wedding day, their life together since. They’re no longer anyone else’s business.
Because of this (the lack of twenty-years married-and-the-rings-are-still-here photographs on Instagram and Facebook), it seems there are quite a few of us not wearing our rings "correctly".
We're not being shown examples, and we're no longer quite sure exactly which order the rings should be placed in.
Should it be engagement ring, wedding ring, eternity ring? Should they be on different fingers, on opposite hands? What order? How should so many rings fit in the one place?
Turns out, there is a specific way you should be wearing your engagement and wedding rings.
The wedding ring should be the first on third finger of the left hand. It should be closest to the heart.
The engagement ring should come next. But, traditionally, it doesn't have to be worn all the time after the couple is married. It might be put on for special occasions or to "dress the hand up".
Finally, the eternity ring can go on the outside of the engagement ring. Or, if your poor finger is getting a little crowded, the eternity band can be be worn on the third finger of the right hand.
For the wedding day itself, you're meant to take off your engagement ring and wear it on the third finger of your right hand. That means you and your significant other can exchange wedding bands during the ceremony without you fumbling to remove your diamond first.
Then you add the engagement ring to that finger and ... voila ... wedded perfection. For those who like to follow the rules.