This is not an image of the author’s Vajazzling experience
Late last year, I was vajazzled against my will.
I was at a beauty salon in my home town and I was booked in for a Brazilian wax.
As usual I hadn’t requested a particular beautician. I’m not one of those who says “Oh I always go to so-and-so”. I quite enjoy the veil of anonymity that comes with a different person dropping hot wax on your lady parts every couple of months. I’d prefer not to be buddies with the person who gets that fun-fun job.
A quick and crucial bit of background before I continue with the story: I am not good with pain. In fact, I am a giant wuss bag. I don’t like blood, I don’t like needles and I cry liberally and tell everyone around me when something hurts.
So when I’m having a wax, I try and pretend I’m somewhere else. I go into the ‘happy place’ (sometimes a vaguely inebriated place), I close my eyes and let the beautician jabber on. I don’t concentrate on what’s happening. I don’t pay attention in the slightest.
On this one particular occasion – I was on the home stretch to being hairless, when I felt the weirdest sensation and realised very quickly that Something. Was. Not. Right.
I sat up abruptly and to my horror saw this woman using this tiny tube of glue to affix these sparkly diamante things to my lady parts….
“Ah, WhaTtheF*#kDoYouThinkYou’reDoing?”
“Oh didn’t we tell you?” exclaims 19-year-old super perky and excited beautician lady. “This month we’re doing a FREE vaazzling for all our regular customers!”
Vajazzling, anyone?
“I don’t want vajazzling thanks. I’m quite happy living a vajazzle-less life. Please take, um, just take that off. Now,” I said (trying to remain calm in the face of my newly-sparkly vagina).
“Oh no, don’t worry! It’s totally FREE!” she responds. As if somehow that makes this okay.
“Yes. But I don’t care that it’s free. I don’t want it,” I confirmed.
“We can switch shapes you know? If you don’t like the love heart, we could try a butterfly instead?”
Seriously. Do I look like the kind of woman who wants a butterfly down there? A butterfly?
To cut a painfully long discussion short, she ended up removing the offending sparkly things. Not before suggesting a myriad of little sparkly pictures (including the word SEXY) as alternatives for me.
I do not tell a lie. This actually happened. I am still in recovery.
Dear Mamamia readers – help me to realise that I did not go through this horrific experience alone. Surely, there are others?
What’s your beauty horror story?
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I can’t understand why you girls prefer the painful regular sessions of waxing ‘down there’ over the handful of ‘yes still painful’ laser sessions required for the same thing?? Can someone please explain? I have been to an awesome laser removal salon and for less then $300 for 5 sessions – the hair is gone!! Full stop! I appreciate that it is not as effective for fair hair, or dark skin – but all you others? Why not?
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Hi Anon, normalising the act of waxing your bikini hair off to look like a pre-pubescent girl is just as disturbing to me as pasting diamontes on there. How do you position one as normal and the other as not?
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Wow, this sounds mortifying! Also some of stories on here. Just wow. I feel you need to do your research when it comes to these things, perhaps ask a friend or something. You need someone with a good rep, just not ‘anyone’ you can burn and bruise you.
I would never get vajazzled seems like a total waste of time and money (even if it were for free). Just seems so silly. Just… Why would you want that? I don’t know do whatever you want with your vulva. Wax it. Don’t. Whatever. Totally up to you. It’s your body afterall.
I get it waxed about every 2 months just to neaten up. I like the way it feels, also makes it neater when you get your period amongst other things.
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I find it so ridiculous that people are judging each other on their waxing preferences….
I have never had a Brazilian or waxed anything to be quite honest. But I do like the idea of trimming and tidying up an even shaving. This isn’t something that I would do because I feel pressure from society (believe me, I’m not letting society hang out I. That area!) and my boyfriend doesn’t care.
I prefer the way it feels. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. But I dot think there’s anything wrong with leaving all your hair au naturel!
I’m not sure why people have to attack one another because they have a different point of view about this. Surely in this day and age we can accept that people may prefer something other than what we prefer….and support each others choices to do what we want in that regard!!
Honestly, comments about future jobs, family etc reading it…I can’t imagine who would care!!! It’s an interesting little story that is written well…and it’s obviously got people talking…what more could you want as a writer!!
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Anon, I challenge you to TRY THE VAJAZZLE!
I’m booked in for a brazillian + vajazzle tomorrow & picking a heart or a star is pretty much all that makes it bearable.
I see it like wearing a pair of lacy undies… Only I know of its existence, but I just feel that little bit more sexy knowing it’s there (and my bf does love it).
For the record… It usually goes top left of right of your ‘triangle’ and doesn’t get in the way during sex (for those who mentioned this below!)
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Thanks Simone, youve confirmed my thoughts on the placement of the jewels. Go for it!!! On reading this article might even try a tasteful vajazzle after my next Brazilian.
Mamamia- can you please use the correct name for body parts. The vagina is the internal part and it is NOT where the bling goes!!!
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I, MANGUEST, am squeamish about the idea of diamantes rubbing loose during the day and ending up in vagina-town instead of Pubic Moundsville.
Sand is bad enough, right?
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Much as we look back on foot binding and corsets as being ridiculous things women did for ‘beauty’, I am wondering if future generations will look back at vajazzling as a nonsensical thing that only happened in the early 21st Century.
Or – maybe more likely – are we witnessing the start of the next step? After tattooing came hair removal to show off the tattoos. After Brazilians, now add vajazzling. Coming soon – the ‘new look’: permanent, allover hair removal for men and women becomes common. Artistic full body tattoos, enhanced with the strategic placement of studded jewellery or metallic textures – embedded, not glued on – scarification made mainstream. Then we might get clothing designed with openings at, say, the shoulders, or across the back, to allow the bejewelled artwork to be seen.
I reckon this could be just the beginning. Body art and personal expression taken to its natural extreme. If it’s possible, today’s babies will grab this and run with it when they hit their teens!
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I would not go out to get vajazzled but if I got a freebie why not. Where’s the harm? Not too different to wearing nice lingerie. Just adds a bit of sparkle. It is a bit odd that she did not ask you first though. And correct me if. Am wrong, but it is not your vagina that gets blinged. Dont they stick them on your undies line (or mound)?
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I attempted a home g-string wax with wax strips once. I managed to remove most of the hair AND skin and couldn’t wear undies for days! Now I stick with salon appointments to keep the garden tidy!
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Years ago I booked into a new salon (in Sydney) for a facial.
I arrived expecting to be pampered but as soon as I saw the “treatment room”
I re-adjusted my expectations. Anyway, the lady proceeds to give me the facial and whilst the face mask was on – she went out the back to SMOKE!
I heard the lighter and her inhaling and thought surely not…
What’s worse is she came back straight afterwards, having not even washed her hands. The stench was unbelievable. I got up, rubbed the gunk off my face and left.
I’m still so pissed that she thought this was acceptable.
On a positive note, I had a beautiful facial and micro derm yesterday.
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I don’t mind braz waxes. I get the whole thing off but my eyebrows I’m extremely CAUTIOUS and nervous. I like to have tidy thick-ish eye brows as I think thin eyebrows make me look older than 24 and sick.
Anyway I had one beautician, who didn’t understand obviously what I meant by THINK NATURAL looking eyebrows, her idea of natural eyebrows was thin tiny horizontal lines that don’t look remotely anything like an eyebrow. I nearly screamed in horror when I saw the finished look in the mirror.
It took two months to grow back and I watched it everyday praying for fast regrowth
Since them I’ve become an over-controlling customer to beauticians waxing my eyebrows. I remind them at least 20x during the process “Remember THICK NATURAL eyebrows!”
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Why don’t you just tweeze them yourself?
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I’m the same, I like a thicker more dynamic brow, I shape them myself between appointments but that only goes so far, nothing competes with the perfect curve that waxing achieves.
I’ve been given straight line eyebrows, I have a natural curve, its not that hard to stick too.I’m going to learn how to do my own.
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I just pluck my eyebrows for that reason. I don’t want enough hair removed to really need waxing, and I just don’t trust anyone else with something that could really change the look of my face. Have you tried threading? I never have but I’ve heard people say good things about it and seen some really beautiful results.
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I get it done every 6 weeks, and whilst I DONT love the pain and how odd the whole experience is, I DO love the after effects… I love how clean and fresh it feels. Hair is a natural “Barrier”, some people like to remove it, some people dont… removed, it increases the sesations in relation to other, say, enjoyable activities… ;- P
If you have never had a brazillian, I recommend it at least once but go to someone reputable, do your research – Give it a go, life’s too short.
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I`ve learned a new word “vajazzled” Oh my goodness, I would have been horrified, then again I won`t even let anyone near my private bits to preen them. Daughter sometimes calls in to say hello, “On my way for a Brazilian” too much info daughter lol I do get the scissors to mine, come Spring, a bit of pruning the bush. Mine stays hidden in my full briefs, out of sight out of mind lol. I might make myself sound trendy and modern and suggest a vajazzle to daughter when she next pops over to say hello on way to get the Brazilian (joking) I`d get so flustered I`d say the wrong thing.
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That is what us lady internet writers do. We overshare! And I like it x
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I was always intregued – I had one about 3 years ago as i was sick of shaving – it hurts! OMG it hurts… but the results were quite worth it i think! The smooth clean soft lovliness of it all was worth the pain (like childbirth i guess)
I would do it every month or so if i wasnt so scared of the pain!! I have had two children naturally and needed over 7o stitches for each so you would think i would have something much worse than that to brace against but no – I wish i could but i just wooss out every time!!
Although hubby would probably be over the moon – the one time i did do it he thought all his birthdays had come at once.
Re the bling bling on your thing thing – WTF?!! Its a vag not an iPhone case. What happens when they start to fall off? What if they fall in your undies and get eaten up into your love tunnell and you then have to deal with hybrid baby crystal children with no child support. geez
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“Its a vag not an iPhone case”. That cracked me up.
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Love Tunnel. HAH!! Hybrid crystal babies with no child support. DOUBLE HAH!!!!!
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I have to be honest here and say that even though I have read so many comments on MM about women being pubicly hairless, that photo above is the closest I’ve ever seen of what it looks like and I find it really disturbing. I am a different generation to the majority on here but please tell me not all young people like this look (women & men)?
This is just my honest reaction. Women can do whatever they want. I’m just a bit O.M.G.
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No, plenty of us Gen Y are also opposed to the idea of hot wax on our bits, or sparkly things for that matter… cant imagine anything worse!
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I prefer to go the close-shave option than the full wax. I can do it at home with my special lady-bit clippers, it’s free and I do not have to make small talk with a lady inspecting my vagina at close-range.
I’d like to say it was pain-free but sadly, I’ve had one too many nicks from the clippers to claim that..
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Years ago in Japan I taught a female student who had had tattooing done on her eyebrows, except the tattooist must have slipped or something as she had a weird couple of extra tattoo spots and dots beside the eybrow it looked awful.
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i went to a place that 0ffered $20 full brazilian. they didnt speak english properly i shouldnt have gone there in the first place they burnt me. I prank them from pay phone to get revenge from them and bag them to everyone so they lose customers
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Will never forget the wax I got immediately preceding what was to be the first night on the love nest with my then-boyfriend-now-MrSeahorse.
I’d just started a new job in a satellite (far west) suburb of Sydney. Only one waxing joint in suburb. Dashed there on lunch break. Place was dirty, beautician too chatty, drew quite a lot of blood in process, and THEN a drunk/high lady barged into the salon, ripped back the curtain (revealing my lady parts to the footpath traffic outside) and proceeded to harass myself and beautician for money. O. M. G.
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I think it’s what she was thinking, rather than saying out loud.
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After reading all these brazilian wax horror stories maybe I was right being too scared to have one! My generation were nervous & embarrassed to go to a doctor for a Pap Smear! I can’t believe most women of the younger generation think it’s ok or necessary to pay a lot of money every month to have a stranger peering at their intimate bits & inflicting lots of pain ripping out all their pubic hair! Have you no modesty or is that an old fashioned trait? Have the younger generation become too desensitised, both mentally (by seeing so much sex & porn everywhere) & physically. Seems they don’t mind pain with all their tattoos & piercings & hair removal!
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Seriously??
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Yes seriously – I think Sienna’s raised an important question.
Much the same as most people over a certain (not old) age recognise that a fluoro bra under a white shirt isn’t the best of looks. Just because it seems to be the done (and sadly it would appear expected) thing for younger women doesn’t mean it’s right or that others should be comfortable with the idea of doing something voluntarily that most people only do at the doctor because they have to.
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I have regular pap smears and I have all the hair down there lasered off. I find both of these events pretty mortifying, but I like the idea of a hair-free vagina so I do what needs to be done. Just because I do it doesn’t mean that I am comfortable with it and desensitised (I don’t even watch porn), and it certainly doesn’t mean you should be comfortable with it.
If you’re not comfortable, then don’t do it, I’m not sure what the problem is?
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Sorry Kris, I just noticed you wrote it seems that this is also what’s expected these days. Is this really people’s experience? If you’re having a one night stand and have pubic hair, has a man actually walked out refusing to sleep with you because of it? Or even worse, if you are in a long-term committed relationship, does your partner pressure you to have everything waxed? Does this actually happen? I am just curious where this pressure comes from as I can’t imagine most men would care.
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Yeah, Jess it’s the fact that it’s expected that is the problem for me.
And going by a recent post about this stuff, yes it would seem that it is expected, yes blokes have given girls shit for not being completely smooth, and yes there has been pressure from partners.
And before the vulva police jump on you – your vagina is hairless anyway, it’s your vulva that’s being waxed/shaved/lasered!
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To the person puzzled about how the author can write about getting a Brazilian: some of the best writing crosses boundaries, talks about taboo subjects, and says what the rest of us dare not. We may want our elected representatives, teachers and business leaders to maintain respectable decorum; but it’s narrow-minded to insist our writers and creators do too. Not to mention boring
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So true, Jamila’s article not only serves as life humour but it also shares truths all women can relate to (whether we wax or not). Vagina’s are a part of life. Nothing to be ashamed of. Good on you Jamila!
Oh, and some of these comments are the most interesting and funny I’ve read on here for ages.
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When I was in my clubbing phase I thought “the more sparkle the better” and used to love glueing diamontes to the corners of my eyes.
Unfortunately I used too much once and glued a third of my bottom and top eyelids together. My best friend was on hand to pry my eyes apart and I had to wait a good month or so for the lashes to grow back.
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Oh god, yes. There was the elderly Polish lady who, after traumatising me with a painful wax, squeezed some ‘soothing gel’ onto my bits and told me to rub it in. She watched me so intently as I timidly stroked myself, that I got a bit shy and apparently didn’t rub hard enough – so she grabbed my fingers and proceeded to give me a very intense hand job! I’m talking – well, if I’d been attracted to her, we could’ve had a situation!
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Not a beauty horror story so much as a ‘down there’ horror story. When giving birth to my son I tore badly (in multiple directions). That was unpleasant, but far worse was what I heard the doctor say to one of the midwives when examining me prior to stitching it back together – “I just can’t figure out where it all goes!”
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Oh you poor thing – I was a bit disconcerted when I had the student doctor do the stitching up on me. Luckily he seems to have done a good job.
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Oh my god that has traumatised me!!! oUCH!
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I remember my first ever wax. It was horrible! I passed a little shop that had a sign for $35 Brazillian waxes – should have been the first sign it was dodgy, right? I walked in on an impulse and had one done. The beautician spoke broken english, but every time she ripped out a strip of my pubic hair she showed it to me and said “ooh, WOW! hahahahahahaha!” or “So much hair! hahahahahahahaha!” or “OUCH! hahahahahaha!”. AWFUL! I’m still getting over the humiliation!
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Kind of an off topic manscaping comment but thus morning when my husband got out of the shower my three year old had a pretty funny conversation with his dad:
Master 3- daddy what is that funny stuff on your face?
Dad: it’s hair. It’s called stubble. I’m about to shave it off.
M3: oh. Are you going to shave the stubble from your doodle too?
Don’t think he got an answer we were laughing too hard.
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My beauty horror story would be going to any salon to have a brazilian wax! I’ve never had one because I’d be too embarrassed & it would hurt too much! It would be good if you could have a local anaesthetic like at the dentist or laughing gas!
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Well if that photo where nothing is actually visible is explicit to you then I’d hate to be you’re kids learning about anatomy or heaven forbid sex ed and anyway if it’s such a big deal to you maybe learn to close your facebook…
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Hm, Anonymous, I wouldn’t teach my kids about adult anatomy using that photo. It depicts nothing resembling a normal adult female pubis.
Kids should learn hair is gunna grow there. If they want rid of it they can get a job and pay to have it removed, but I hope they can find better things to spend their money and time on!
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The running joke with my hubby and I is that every single time I go to get my eyebrows threaded without fail they always say “and top lip too”. Makes me feel like I have some raging mo action going on when in fact I have probably 3 blonde hairs you can barely see. I would never ever get my lip threaded.
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Haha! That happens to me too! Every single time without fail…and I refuse every time too
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haha. My beauty horror stories both involve wax. One was a selfie – was using hard wax for the first time and left it on too long – went hard as a rock and I couldnt get it off myself, and every time I moved the hair pulled. LOL. Had to cut it off chunk by tiny chunk with scissors.
Other was at a beauty school – thought I’d save some money (eek never again) – had one student on either side – one pulled UP instead of ACROSS and I had the hugest bruise I’ve ever seen. The other one burned me. So I was red and flaky on one side, and black-and-blue on the other. Didn’t walk straight for weeks. *cackle* ohhh the agony!
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Well I just went in to get a tidy up on the sides( – I do not care for brazillians, arse waxes etc – we have hair there for a reason ) and the beautician went nuts! My bits are all waxed within an inch of my life, my bits have been sticky ever since. I like my pubic hair where it belongs, but definitely not hanging out of my knickers and I refuse to join the bald brigade – it seems another unnecessary thing women think they have to do. Sorry to hear about the vajazzaling, but I reckon if you’re going to take it all off – whats the diff adding some sparkle – its all very unnatural anyway. Each to their own!
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Haha, love this post. Also reminds me I’m due for my next one!
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I had a g-string wax last week and the lady, who has only ever done my brows and bikini line, was very complimentary on my pain threshold saying “You didn’t even flinch”! She tells me next time we’ll do a brazilian lol. Ironically, my eyebrows hurt 100 times more than anything down there, which sucks given my eyebrows are a must since far more people see my eybrows than my hoo-ha.
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That happens to me too, I cant even pluck my eyebrows because it makes me cry but down there is fine!
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I had a g-string wax last week and the lady, who has only ever done my brows and bikini line, was very complimentary on my pain threshold saying “You didn’t even flinch”! She tells me next time we’ll do a brazilian lol. Ironically, my eyebrows hurt 100 times more than anything down there, which sucks given my eyebrows are a must since far more people see my eybrows than my hoo-ha.
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OK, I give up. What on earth is threading?
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It’s an eyebrow-hair-removing-shaping thingy… I think that’s what you’re talking about anyway!
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It’s hair removal with thread. Youtube it.
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I think I actually heard of it years ago. Some sort of Asian/middle eastern technique that sounds horrendous.
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It’s actually not horrendous at all! It’s pretty painless, very quick and I’ve always been super happy with the shape
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Agreed. Threading is amazing. Beats waxing anyday!
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Check my reply comment to someone else on the next page (made today 4 September). Another reader asked me a similar question.
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Here’s a vid about threading – http://youtu.be/pBWsIItNHas — that’s me in the chair
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Ahhh the Brazilian….!! Went there, tried it for a while, but nope, like it the way it should be. I should point out…NO guy I slept with during my Brazilian days (from memory, it was 3) actually even liked it! My now husband hates them!!
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That was a funny read anon – thank you!
This is not as funny but the worst thing for me was a bad eyebrow was once. I have fair eybrows and not much to wax, but I just like all the little fuzzy bits to be gone. My skin is sensitive and I always ask therapists to please not wax between my brows (there is no hair there anyway) as I get a huge bump that stays for a few days!
Anyway, one day a therapist still waxed there AND waxed ABOVE my brows (definitely NO hair there!). My forehead swelled up so much I could actually see my own forehead – if that makes sense?! I looked like bloody Herman Munster and when I arrived home, by daughters screeched with fright!
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Oh good lord, what an experience…time to renew your love with the hairy muff!
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Last wax I had I got a new beautician, who was so rough:
* I was left with welts and bruising under one arm;
* while I requested a bikini wax, got a brazilian;
* then she tried to ‘thread’ my eyebrow WTF, I told her to wax them;
* finally to insult to injury she told me my eye lashes were very small (never been told this in 20+yrs of getting waxed/tinted), I know they aren’t super long but they look just fine with mascara.
Only good thing was I was charged for a bikini wax, rather than brazilian, I didn’t correct them, figured it was compo for the bruising, welts & insults.
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Gah! This sounds horrible! Worst I’ve had is the waxer leaving clumps of wax all around my bikini area (including my butt crack!), pouring baby oil into my hands when she was done and asking me to wipe myself off! I was picking clumps out of my lady bits for hours afterwards! I don’t know if this is standard procedure in most salons as I usually only go to the same lady, but if it is, I’m never leaving her!
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this sounds like my idea of a nightmare.
i am still deeply disturbed that as women, there is becoming more and more expectation in society that we should not only shave it all off, but [and this is a BIG 'but'] start sticking sparkly things everywhere as well?! whatever happened to just a bit of a trim!
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I’ve had skin from my lady bits (and one time, inside my bottom) ripped off by stupid, young beauticians
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I once went to a beautician to get a G-string wax. The beautician who at the time I got along with really well, decided upon herself to just start giving me a Brazilian because according to her there was hardly any difference in the pain. Yeah – frigging rigght!!
I got so distressed when she poured hot wax straight on to my lady parts that I started sweating profusely and the massive amount of sweat prevented the wax from “grabbing” the hair. So she was only able to do half a job.
Therefore she had to try to remove the wax numerous times and it made it much worse. The more she tried to remove the wax, the more I sweated.
I left with bit of wax stuck to bits of tuffs of hair. It was absolutely horrible.
Needless to say, I haven’t been game to have another one since!
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Oh my goodness – what part of “No thank you” did the child not understand? I am tired of being told that I want things because they are free – like the salesman who came to the door offering a pay TV package. I said, let me save you some time, the landlord said I can’t install a satellite dish (not true – but I don’t like door to door salespeople). The salesman replied – but it is a really good deal and you get month for free. Sigh
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I have found that, after my polite “no, thank you” to free pay TV hasn’t worked, a cross “for goodness sake, I’ve got better things to do than watch TV!” works a treat!
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I once visited a spa after work in rush and got a new girl… thought I’d give her a whirl.
Well. She spent the entire appointment complaining about shitty pay and her horrible colleagues, whilst simultaneously ripping my lady garden in two. Funnily enough, trying to be sympathetic about someone’s issues whilst they attack your pubes like a crazed maniac is harder then it sounds.
She then after about ten minutes of random wax slopping and ripping admitted defeat, because my hair was too difficult – um okay, no one has ever had issues before. I was too mortified to say anything and of course left her a big tip.
When I got home and tried to inspect the damage, I stripped off only to find my asshole was completely stuck to my knickers.
One to tell the grandkids.
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Oh, f#$ me Cat, that’s hilarious!
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the first time i ever go a brazilian was when i was in first year uni. The waxxer was a chick i went to high school with (AWKWARD!) and the wax got stuck and matted and it took her ages to get it all fixed up. Ouch!
Another time i went for a wax and the beautician asked me if i wanted my ‘flaps’ waxed. it was v awkward. didnt go back.
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Perfect Monday arvo read!
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Not so much a ‘horror story’ (I remain diamante free, and happily so). BUT, a couple of years ago I got a Brazilian – after quite a decent hiatus – at a beauty clinic I had never visited before.
Here is how our conversation started:
Beautician: (poised with a paddle of hot wax in hand, ready to apply) “Have you had one of these before?”
Me: “Yes, although it was a while age” (about a year ago, to be precise, as I only get them in summer and then just, ah, tend to the area myself throughout winter)
B: “Yeah, I can see that.”
Argh, SO rude! I probably wouldn’t have minded so much if it was my regular waxer and it was said in a joking way rather than snarkily.
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Well..it is pretty obvious. They are, after all, pointing out that having it done regularly is for your benefit if your pain thresholds are low..!
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Oh, I didn’t mind her asking for that reason, but she was quite pointedly referring to the fact that it looked like it hadn’t been tended to recently – she hadn’t started the waxing process so I wasn’t showing visible signs of being in pain.
Thankfully I have a high pain threshold!
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Also if you leave it too long, the hair can get too long, to the point where sometimes they need to clip it first before waxing so it doesn’t hurt more than it already does. I had this experience after waiting three months between jobs.. fail!
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Is there something wrong with looking after yourself? Why is it embarassing or shameworthy to talk about being waxed? Now *I’m* genuinely puzzled!
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Because I wouldn’t want anyone I work with, future employers, current and future clients, family or my future children reading about my pubic waxing experiences online….just saying.
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Good job you didn’t write the article then – it seems Jamila’s opinion is different from yours
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I have to say that I resent the implication that, by *not* waxing, I’m somehow failing to look after myself.
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Have to admit this was weird to me too. Most people my age (40s) don’t do brazilians and I think we look after ourselves just fine.
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I wasn’t implying that. “Looking after yourself” comes in all different shapes and sizes, in my opinion. For one person, doing something that makes her feel cleaner, sexier and better IS “looking after yourself”. For another person, “looking after yourself” might be going for a run, and for another it might be settling down with a good book.
No judgements implicit.
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But why do so many women feel that having no pubes is cleaner, sexier and healthier? Obviously you do. This is definitely implicit in your posts, even if you don’t recognise it as such. What does it say about women and society that so many young girls and women hold this view?
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If you read what I wrote, I alluded to a woman doing something that makes HER feel cleaner, sexier and better. Healthier never came into it. And I am all for women doing whatever makes them feel better about themselves.
I do grasp your point but I disagree with your accusation that my posts in any way imply that women who don’t get Brazilians done are not looking after themselves. It’s just ANOTHER way of altering one’s appearance and “grooming” in such a way that it makes someone feel great, but if it’s not up your alley, that’s fine too. I genuinely do not level ANY judgments at women who choose to go au naturel. Believe me, in my line of work I come across sooooo many bodies, there is seriously no room for judgement.
For what it’s worth, I’m a bigger woman and people probably assume that, by not hitting the gym, I’m not looking after myself. Whereas to me, I feel like I look after myself perfectly well. Everyone is different and I would never presume to judge the way in which someone self-nurtures based on the state of their vag.
My response to this original post was a reply to the assertion that it is somehow embarassing or shameworthy to admit to being waxed. I hope my original point has not been lost.
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When did the Brazilian become equal to being hairless down there? That’s what I would like to know…
Weren’t Brazilians named after the Brazilian ladies who had their neon bikini bottoms so high up their crotch that they just had a minimal landing strip, they were not hairless!
But now everyone thinks it means having no hair…but many years ago when the term started circulating it simply meant a thin strip of pubic hair…but now it means no pubic hair!
When did things change?’n
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Yeah.. I thought nothing is a “Hollywood”….
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being a brasilian myself i can offer you an answer that we prefer to be hairless men and women.
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