Welcome to the end of the week and another round of Best and Worst. It’s your chance to come together and talk about the highs and the lows of your week, as well as anything else that’s on your mind.
You might have noticed that for the last few weeks, we’ve handed Best and Worst over to you. It’s our way of thanking you for being a part of this great tradition.
(Remember that you can have a chance to host – just email info@mamamia.com.au with your full name, headshot and a short bio (include any links to your blog/Twitter etc), and we’ll take it from there.)
Now – introducing Jo. She writes:
Worst: I was a celebrant for a friend’s brother who asked me to go past her home, and pick up a spare jacket, bra and heels for her as a last minute change in outfit because the weather had changed. There was no spare key – so all frocked up in my highest heels and hair and make-up done, my friend asked if it would be okay to just prop myself up on a chair and break into her bedroom window. In pouring rain, I dragged the chair along, pried open the window, stuck a high heeled leg in, only to see two intruders sleeping in my friend’s bed. It turns out the “intruders” were my friend’s new housemates – who had decided to throw a secret house party instead of going away like they told my friend! The moral of this story is – don’t agree to be an intruder, even for a fashion emergency; don’t have a secret house party, you will always be sprung, and always keep a pant suit in the car, as it’s far easier to break into homes in.
The best: It was little things this week. Three girlfriends and I got together for a Veuve night. Easy rules – come along with a bottle of Veuve Clicquot, be prepared to talk love and loss and everything in between and then get your kitchen karaoke and dancing on. I finally found time to do some exercise and went on some lovely strolls around my area. I met lots of new couples and re connected with others and talked fabulous wedding ceremonies. I found that I have the ability to really belly laugh about the predicaments I sometimes find myself in (N.B – my intruding efforts). And finally, I married two people so clearly in love that had a beautiful and passionate reading that really touched everyone, including me, and believe me, these readings can sometimes be very hard to come by!
Jo is a young and smiley celebrant in the Geelong/Melbourne region. You can find her blog here, her Twitter here and her Facebook here.
What were your best and worst bits of the week?







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I’ve moved to the country!!! Never lived in the country before and it was a very sudden decision. Not missing Sydney one bit and, altho still in shock, am loving it. Good days ahead I think ………
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Damn, late!
BEST:
- Helped my boyfriend with an assessment for TAFE he was struggling with. He loved the results.
- Dyed my hair dark brown. Looks better, except for the dye on my hands and face as partner attempted to do a DIY job for me.
- Baked a chocolate cake like a boss
WORST:
- Late shift nearly all week. Yuck.
- PMS symptoms this month were horrendous. Had cramps all week when I normally only have them on the first day as a signal. Nothing but Mersyndol helped.
OMM:
Applied for an internal position last week, and the applications close on Friday. I am so very nervous and excited, I can’t wait to see if I get an interview. I just need to get out of this department, you can almost see the cobwebs on me in here! It’s boring as I know the job inside and out, and my boss treats me like a doormat.
#endrant.
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Best: My parents 25th wedding anniversary! It was so awesome to celebrate with them. I feel like I have had a pretty privileged upbringing so it was also a great chance to let them know how grateful and lucky I am to have them.
Worst: PMS. Enough said.
OMM: Pretty stressed at the moment and can’t seem to manage it effectively.
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Best: did my second glucose test on Monday and results came in on Thursday that I do not have gestational diabetes! So relieved.
Worst: Feel like I don’t belong in public service “Comms and Marketing” anymore. I’m a part-time worker with two kids and about a decade older than all my colleagues. Feel like with baby no. 3 coming along in May, now’s the time to find a new career or business while on mat leave. But what??
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Best: Having a fantastic week at work! I love my job!
Best: I have done some fantastic reading this week. I loved Jessica Rudd’s Campaign Ruby! JR I have already sold 3 copies this week and my manager ordered more for me to sell before I go away!!
Zoe Foster, I also placed your book in prime position and have sold heaps of copies too
(I am going to read it soon too) And Sandra too (le petit chou)!! Very proud to be able to share your books with other people!
Best: 24 sleeps to go until my trip. WOOHOOOOOOO!!!
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Best: it is my 40th birthday today and I feel very calm about being in my 40′s.
Worst: the hangover I plan to have Sunday after my party on Saturday night.
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Happy birthday. Xxx
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Happy Birthday! Mine today too – and I’ll be joining you in only a few short years. I think it will be a good decade
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Bad: Not really for me, but watching my 15 year old daughter being so hurt by teenage girl friend stuff.
Good: Being stunned by her grace in dealing with it all. Also, learning that I’m going to be an aunt again.
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Best: hard to think of a best this week. Probably the amount of money I have been able to put towards clearing debt while staying at my mums instead of paying rent.. Good feeling!
Worst #1: getting my son circumcised on tuesday. I cried. Then a cried every time I changed his nappy and saw how huge his pecker was. Lucky I have my mum to pick up the peices when I can’t!
Worst #2: husband hasn’t bothered to see or even ask about our son this week. Seems he is happy to remain irresponsible and not care about us at all. He still refuses to speak to me…
OMM: how on earth am I going to get through 12 months of doing nothing but take care of my son? I miss working (actually i just want to distract myself so i dont constantly think about husband leaving us) but also don’t want to miss the first year of my sons life.
Also OMM: do I find a new home and start moving on without husband or do I wait for him to wake up from his fog? I know he will – it’s just a matter of time. So how much time do I give it? Agh!!!
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I know this is a terribly distressing time for you, but please do not wait around for your husband to come out of his fog. The very fact that he would leave you with a tiny baby means that you should not be waiting for him to snap out of it. Start making small decisions that will benefit you and your son, without factoring him into the equation as this may hold you back. Start being the strong, amazing woman you are for your son, and most importantly, for yourself! Your husband does NOT deserve you – you are amazing!
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Brilliant advice.
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Nice one, Anonymous.
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Hey Sezzard, I’ve been wondering how you are going and hoping you’re ok.
I agree with ANonymous’ comment below abt not waiting for your husband. As much as you love him he has behaved irresponsibly, terribly selfishly and with no care or concern for his tiny baby or you, a brand new mother. Do you really want that in your life?
YOu need to focus on yourself and your son and your future. Leave the ex out of it. That he hasn’t contacted you or his baby son is extraordinary. Yes he may grow up but what he has put you through is unforgivable or at least unforgettable.
I hope you can work it out and stay at your mums until you are ready to make moves for your new future. We will all be here to support you xxx
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Best: $1 IKEA hotdog
Worst: $1 IKEA hotdog
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Worst: I was told at five to five today that I shouldn’t bother coming in on Monday as you are no longer needed. It really sucks I find that I can’t stop crying. Oh how I wish I wasn’t attached to that job.
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Oh Anon that sounds awful. Big hugs to you
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Hi Jo,
Thanks for a great B&W. I find it very interesting to get an insight into someone elses profession and especially since yours is so different from mine. I love that you get to participate in spreading the love around!
Now onto my week, it’s been long but good.
Best: Saturday night I came to Sydney after a long-haul stretch from Oslo. My boyfriend picked me up from the airport looking completely gorgeous and he had bought me a welcome home balloon. We went home, ordered Thai takeaway and watched Charlie and the chocolate factory on tv. Not quite the Mardi Gras night the rest of Sydney was having but it was perfect for us.
Worst: I went back to work on Sunday and it’s been going really well (my colleagues have been super-supportive too), but because my body has been catching up on sleep I haven’t had a chance to unpack yet. I am feeling slightly unorganised but tomorrow I can finally get my act together.
Worst 2: Missing my grandpa so much and realising how much will be changed when I next go home. He was such an amazing man and I was lucky to have him as one of the special men in my life.
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Thank you so much for your kind comments, I love hearing about others work lives too and believe me, being a celebrant certainly keeps it interesting!
Ps – I bet your Grandpa is missing you too xx
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Best: today was a good day. The fatigue has been bad this week (not a tiredness, just that my whole body is heavy and doesn’t want to move) but today was good.
Best: actually played with the kids all afternoon. That hasn’t happened in a while. Miss C got a new playdough kit of a soft serve icecream factory and for 2 hours straight she has been making playdough icecreams! Master A has then been trying to eat them. oops. Glad it’s non toxic.
Best: My prize from the Angelina Jolie compeition last week arrived and I feel very spoilt!
There’s probably some other stuff happend this week but it doens’t matter, today was a good day
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I have just been reading through best and worst, and every comment you made on a post was so reassuring and genuine. You commented on my post about being a stay at home mum.
Thankyou for being so positive and kind!
(enjoy playing with your kiddies, they are so lucky to have a mum like you)
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aw shucks, that’s so nice of you to say (some other people may say I’m opinionated lol). Thanks for brightening up my day (sadly today isn’t such a good day sigh. Blobby is kicking my arse but we’ll get there!). Hope you have a good day today
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For me, only a Worst unfortunately: After reading Meshel Laurie’s post the other week re being a head dweller, I was inspired to book in for a pap smear (my first, I am embarrassed to say, I’ve always been PETRIFIED of them). So yesterday, after the smear my doctor offered to do a breast check. I said sure, I thought I had been pretty good with self examination, but she found a lump. Today I have had a mammogram (another first, I’m 36) and an ultrasound and now we wait for the results.
I’m trying not to worry but I’m a single mum, my daughter is only 2 and a half so if anything happens to me…..
Surely everything will be ok and the worry will have been for nothing but it’s going to be a LONG long weekend for me.
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My thoughts are with. Fingers crossed everything is fine!!
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Thinking of you Liz..
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Hugs and prayers and thoughts and crossed fingers, Liz
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A family member of mine had breast cancer a few years ago, and they called her straight after the test to let her know it was bad news. So hopefully if you haven’t heard from them yet it’s good news for you. xx
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Thinking of you. Hopefully, they’re just being extra careful. xx
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Best – have been kicking some serious ass at work! Finished up today feeling like I’ve really achieved something this week.
Worst – increasingly concerned about my chances of being able to get pregnant. I’ve never had a regular cycle and am now a year off of depo with things only just slowing returning to normal. Anyone out there have any advice or been in a similar situation?
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I took me nearly a year to get back to normal after coming off the pill, and another 6 months before falling pregnant & am now pregnant with no.2, which was a lot quicker then round one
hang in there & good luck!
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It took me 8 months after coming off depo to conceive. My following 2 children took no time at all. Hang in there xxx
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took about a year after stopping depo to conceive ( had been on it for about 15 years all up) and have 2 wonderful kids. but if like me time is against you, talk to your GP and a specialist. good luck!
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It took me a year, but after 6months I started acupuncture as well! Now i have a gorgeous energetic toddler! Goodluck xxx
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OMM: Everything just seems so hard and difficult..I don’t bring value to the world. I wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
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Yes, YOU do bring value to the world and it is worth it. xx
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This really worries me. You are a one of a kind, unique individual. You are of value and worth and the world would be WORSE OFF without you. Please please PLEASE call lifeline 13 11 14. Please. I am thinking of you and praying for you and loving you, so even if you feel alone you are not. You are not alone. I am here for you. So are so many other people. Please call lifeline even if you think you’re not sad ‘enough’. God bless you.
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You are worth it. Life is hard, trust me I know. But within the hard times there are moments that are worth it. Please make a contract with yourself, with all of us, that you will go to bed tonight, and wake up tomorrow, and smile at the sky (whether it is blue, grey, black, or anything in between). Then keep taking one day at a time. Please talk to someone, lifeline, your gp, anyone. Hugs to you.
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I know this train of thought, I’ve had it myself, so I think you might be depressed. Please go see a doctor, counsellor, Lifeline, SOMEBODY about it. I’ve been on antidepressants for 18 months and that + psychology sessions was the best damn thing I’ve ever done for myself.
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Best: Its the weekend.
Worst: I love my new job but really cant stand the women working there. They say nurses eat their young and Im beginning to think it is true. The average age on the morning shift is approx 60 and I have never come across a more gossipy bunch of women in my life, every day this week I have turned the corner to the nurses station and they have fallen silent, one day I even said “oh dont let me stop you talking”…..crickets. One asked me why I didnt do XYZ and I said I was never shown that way, my so called educator later on said to me in a pitying way “oh it must be hard taking in all this information because you I did tell you in the first week to do XYZ”. Which of course is bollocks but she’d rather make me look like an idiot again than have her friend think bad of her mentoring skills. (and then they probably gossiped about me later on with the other witches about how “these young ones have so much to learn” – even though Im 37!!)
Sorry for raving on, I just look foward to afternoons next week when its a younger crew on and then only 3 more months till I move to another ward rotation.
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Its true… nurses do eat their young BUT the isolating behavior you are experiencing is not on (or allowed quite frankly). If you are a first year grad, then speak to you FYG coordinator, if not, speak to the nurse manager about the behavior. I worked in an intensive care unit 20 yrs ago that was absolutely vile with the same sort of behavior you describe. I just held my own until I was able to get out. Don’t give up – nursing needs people who are caring, compassionate and passionate advocates for their patients and I’m certain you are one.
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It can be very hard to find a ward that “fits”. I remember as a casual going home in tears from staff in some wards. Other places have nurses that like to “suss you out” until they know you. It’s not fair, but it happens. Nurses are good at “eating their young”.
I hope your relative maturity (as compared to a 21 year old graduate) can help you. My 34 year old is in her final year at uni. I hope she doesn’t have too much of a hard time.
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Thankyou both so much for replying, it was just what I needed to hear. And my lovely SIL (13 year nurse/midwife) said pretty much the same thing when I was venting to her last night over a few wines, so you all obviously know the system very well.
Next week is a new week
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A good friend of mine worked as a nurse for a few years and then quit her job and became a librarian! She said she needed to get away from all the bitchiness and couldn’t stomach it anymore. Sorry to read you’re going through the same thing, hold your head high and know you are better than that!
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Some wards can be so toxic to work on, I know how shattering it can be. You may find that at the end of three months they’ll have warmed up to you but you don’t deserve to be made uncomfortable while you’re there. If it’s getting too much you should absolutely speak to someone about it and if you’re being bullied or excluded consider starting a diary noting down what’s happening and when. Good luck. Eventually you’ll find a ward where you’re appreciated and mentored properly. Just keep telling yourself that they’re the problem, not you.
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Hummmm…I haven’t done this for a bit so this is a few weeks accumulated stuff!
Best: My baby boy oh he’s so beautiful he makes me go squeeeee 24/7 (see pic for your own ‘squueeee’ opportunity) turned 3 months this week and he’s become so much easier to deal with the last coupla weeks (knock on wood)
Bought a new pram since the one I was given by friends is totally shit – I’ve driven cars with a smaller turning circle. It’s PURPLE! HURRAH! Also bought a glider rocking chair mcthingie for heavenly breastfeeding and story reading comfort – I’ve been feeding on a straightbacked, armless dining room chair this whole time, which was ok when he didn’t weigh 8 kgs but is now becoming untenable. Am daily harangueing the website to find out when they come cos I am so excitement!
Have just discovered twitter – it’s like facebook if all your friends were famous people! I am HOOKED.
Made the best ever chocolate cake on the weekend oh my LORDIE, gateau Jacqueline – 180 gms each of dark choc, sugar and butter, melt, add 3 eggs one at a time while mixing, then add 3 TB of SR flour, mix a bit more, 20cm cake tin, 180 for 10 mins then 150 for 20 more of until cracked on top but still moist in middle. Cool in tin. Eat. Holy shizbots, people, you will DIE. I poured chocolate ganache over mine but it’s really not necessary.
Worst: Evil in-laws, as usual. I’ve reported elsewhere on MM the latest MIL shenanigans. She did send me the complete works of Dr Suess though, whom I love – we had a reading from ‘oh the places you’ll go’ at our wedding. That’s the thing with these peeps – they are 80% so nice and 20% awe-inspiring nasty, petty, manipulative, downright hateful. It’s very confusing.
Feeling fat and frumpy but can’t seem to stop eating.
Have been online shopping too much and feeling guilty about it.
Haven’t been doing all the paperwork for our business that I am supposed to because it bores the shit out of me and I’d rather be reading MM and twitter.
Talked to my husband about going back to Uni and finishing my psych degree with a view to being a couple’s counselor which I have wanted to be since I was 15 (now 38). He was less than thrilled and basically said ‘only if everything else gets done’ ie the business paperwork. See above.
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What a beautiful boy!
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oh he’s gorgeous. Be kind to yourself with the eating – you are breastfeeding so your body is doing crazy things like making milk!!! I found I ate like a horse in the first few months. There will be time for eating healthier later.
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The weight tends to come off in the 2nd half of bub’s first year, so just hang in there. I like the old “it takes 9 months to grow a baby and 9 months to recover from a baby.
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Gorgeous baby!
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thanks for the recipe it sounds divine!
i just wanted to say about your psych degree, i think you should def go for it BUT you have a very little baby, why don’t you plan to start at the beginning of next year. give yourself this time to enjoy him, get that bloody paperwork sorted and then do a unit or two a semester.
i read your comments on here, you sound bright and fun and i think would be a great counsellor, just maybe slow it down.
that is my advice, meant in the most positive way x
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He’s gorgeous!
About your degree: have you ever heard of Open Universities? It’s basically online study, and offers MUCH more flexibility! You can do your degree through several major universities, like Griffith, Macquarie, Monash, etc., but without the intense workload of on-campus study. It allows you to study when and where you want, and will give you more time to look after your baby boy (and do that pesky paperwork!) Here’s a link to their website if you’re interested:
http://www.open.edu.au/
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Great advice, open universities saved my bacon when I failed a unit and was one unit short of graduating. It is so flexible and has the options of emailing the teacher/other students for help.
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Best: It’s the long weekend!!! Been hanging out for this, can’t wait to sleep in, spend time with the boyfriend and friends and just take it easy. The simple things are the best
Worst: become a lazy slob since I started my job a month and a bit ago. haven’t been the gym and feel so ordinary…next week is the week. I’ll feel much better after it!
OMM: blogging, must find more time to write.
http://www.thebeautyblot.wordpress.com
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Yay to more blogging! I love your blog Emma, look on it everyday and get excited when a new post is up!
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OMM: Am I crazy or asking for trouble for starting a relationship with a man 17 years older than me? When we’re together, he makes me so happy but there are so many complications, the logical part of me is telling me to run. Lost…
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My parents were 14 years apart and they had the most amazing relationship until she died. Not knowing the particulars, age shouldn’t matter that much.
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Give it a go! Better to have loved and lost etc….
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My partner is 15 years older then me – and I’ve never been happier.
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My father and his partner have 18 years between them – I *know* that age doesn’t matter, because I see it every day! Give it a go, good luck.
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No you’re not. My brother-in-law is 19 years older than my sister but they make each other so happy. He doesn’t act his age and her career is advanced for someone so young, so most people guess there’s about 10 years between them. They had their beautiful son when she was 27 and he was 46; he’s now a gorgeous, well loved young man.
Complications are that there will be a generation gap in the “remember when we were kids” discussions, and that he will retire quite awhile before you will. No biggie.
But there are pluses, eg because my BIL is mostly retired, he’s the househusband and looks after their son when my sister is on business trips.
Go for it.
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BEST: It’s a long weekend!!! Can’t wait to sleep in on Monday and spend the day catching up on trashy tv.
WORST: I had a cold at the start of the week and have been feeling really flat and tired for the whole week. As a result I didn’t go to the gym as much as usual and I feel bad for slacking off on my routine already. Back into it next week!
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Best: went to GP this week and was ok’d to go back to work next week and to get back in the driver’s seat.
Worst: had to get new photo for driver’s licence and I looked like crap and forgot how to get petrol cap off car intially, it’s only been 3 months.
OMM: nothing really…
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Jo, that was hilarious and very well written.
This week I have mostly worsts. So I shall just not share them, too depressing
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I will, however, share my one best for this week: My aunt has been discharged from hospital. She’s going to try radiation. They cannot promise she will survive, but they can guarantee she won’t if she doesn’t try.
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Aww Miss T – thank you, I am glad you were able to get a giggle if you’ve had a crappy week. Lots of love to you and your aunty xxx
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Hey MissT, hate to hear that your week was full of worsts.
I always appreciate your comments on this site and am so eager to get time to check out KiKi and Tea. Hope your weekend is full of Bests and if thats not possible that you are getting lots of support. Prayers for you and your aunt
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Best: Found my (lost) earring. Very special as beautiful gift from hubby. catching up with friends tomorrow for lunch.
Spending time with my gorgeous cousin last night and catching up on the latest gossip/news and current life dramas.
Worst: Not much
OMM: I meet with my nurse next week to begin the first stage of my IVF cycle. Can anyone recommend useful forums ? I’m beginning experience a lot of negative thoughts and its starting to interfere with my sleep.
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Maybe try bubhub.com.au
They have a wide range of forums so they should (fx) have one that you like
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Hi MissKate
You could try ivffriends.com.au
I occasionally jump on the forums but I found that I was becoming obsessed over everyone else’s cycles/protocols and it did get a bit depressing. Lots of happy ending stories but there’s also lots of negativity too so make sure you pick and choose what you read.
Good luck
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Hi MissKate,
Good luck next week. I found baby centre good for support, but like gypsy said below, they can be a double edged sword (lots of support but you can get a bit engrossed in every one else’s cycles).
Be kind to yourself though. The negative thoughts are fairly common. Most clinics offer a counselling service so do take them up on that (I did and it was probably a lifesaver).
Good luck.
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Good luck! The forums freaked me out a bit, reading about poor women who had been through 19 cycles…
My beautiful daughter was a result of my first cycle, it does happen.
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My friend had a positive pee-on-a-stick test the morning of their first IVF appointment. I wish you the same luck.
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Best: Got a promotion and a pay rise at work
a little bit scary but the recognition is awesome
Worst: Waaaay over emotional this week, and im not really sure why. I cant get a clear thought in my head to try and combat it
OMM: Doing Michelle Bridges 12WBT and am losing motivation! I’m still trying to stick to it but I’m getting the 4 week itch (if there is such a thing!)
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Hey Kristalilly, even though you’re loosing motivation with the 12WBT, do you think it has been worthwhile so far? And worth the cost? I’m considering doing the next one…
And everyone looses motivation at some point – it will return, just keep focusing on what you’re trying to achieve and how amazing it will feel when you get there!
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Thanks for that Sarah Jane
And i would highly recommend 12 WBT.
Its super easy, you have so much support and best of all the food actually tastes really good, you don’t feel like your on a diet (well except for when your work has 2 morning teas in a row and you don’t eat cake!)
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Jo, thanks for a great B & W! Your story made me smile and rethink the practicality of the emergency outfit I keep stored in my car.
Best: Speaking of my car, IT’S NEW! Well, not really, but kind of. I recently returned from a few years OS and had zero money behind me to buy a car. Alas, a family I used to nanny for gave me their spare car as a present! It’s a station wagon and I just love it. I’ve decided to name her Butter because she’s such a smooth ride. Feeling very lucky to be on the receiving end of such generosity.
Worst: This is terrible and I can’t stop thinking about it. Yesterday my sister and I were out for coffee in Richmond and there was a lovely man outside selling The Big Issue. He was in a wheelchair and had what I imagine to be cerebral palsy. We spoke with him for a while and bought a few magazines, then headed down Bridge Road. When we came back up half an hour later there was an ambulance and a police car out the front of the cafe. The poor man had been attacked and had all his takings stolen. It was utterly heartbreaking and I am so, so angry. How is it that some people get to a point where they think they have the right to abuse and steal from anyone, let alone someone with a disability? I am livid.
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Thanks MaybeDaisy, I’ve always prided myself on being a celebrant who dresses as though I’m attending the wedding in all sorts of lovely frocks and heels. But now I know why some celebrants are wearing comfy shoes and practical outfits, it’s for climbing through windows of course!
Love the name Butter for your car, because Butter is sooooo good! x
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I love reading this post but have never contributed !
Best : I was told about an opportunity on a field I would like to pursue by an ex colleague and got the job ! Will be training people in community services. Excited and terrified all at once. Changing jobs at 35years old is scary!
Worst : Resigning from my company after 10 mostly wonderful years! Will miss the living daylight out of most of the staff and clients but needed a new challenge.
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Welcome! Changing jobs is terrifying but ultimately such a treat. Call me a nerd, but I adore learning new things. I’m like a silly old sponge.
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Thanks Rick and Lana
Nothing nerdy about loving to learn new things. It’s what keeps life interesting.
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Welcome to best and worst. Good luck with the job. I started this one after I had turned 41!
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Did I see Rick on TV this morning or was I imagining it?
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You did!
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You did a fab job!
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Where do we find Rick on tv?
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I think it was on the Channel nine morning show as part of a blokes panel discussing topical issues. I am not sure if it is a regular gig or a one off?
Rick will we see you again on the box?
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Best: I had a lovely birthday last Saturday and am almost fully settled in at work. Hooray!
Worst: I just canNOT focus with uni. I swore this year would be different, it’s week 2 and I’ve already skipped 2 lectures, slept through one and left early from another. I always have the best of intentions – “I’m too tired/hungry to concentrate, if I go home and listen to the recording I’ll get much more out of it. I’m wasting time by staying”. But then I just don’t follow through and do the work.
WHY WHY I AM I SO CRAP AT APPLYING MYSELF??
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OMM: The LNP and their plan to attempt to repeal same-sex civil union legislation if they win the QLD election. Despite repeated attempts by myself and others to have representatives of the LNP engage in a conversation about this, we either get ignored or told that “the party position has not changed”.
Yes, but WHY has it not changed when so many people want you to change it? If they won’t listen to voters’ concerns on something “small” (i.e. doesn’t affect the majority) then how do I know they will listen when it comes to the bigger issues? I’m sick of seeing them say that they’ve clarified their position and that this campaign is about more than civil unions.
Yes, it is about more than civil unions but by refusing to talk about civil unions in any detail, you look like you’re avoiding addressing a problem people have with your party.
Ugh, it is really bothering me because I don’t want to vote Labor, but this makes me really not trust the LNP. I’ve written to my local LNP candidate and am yet to receive a reply…we’re not asking for much, all we want is justification for what they plan to do and they refuse to give it. I want an intelligent, respectful discussion and they refuse to engage in one.
/rant 2
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Best: Getting over a terrible rough patch with the boyfriend, and now more in love than ever. It’s nice to enjoy each others company instead of being cranky all the time.
Worst: I won’t know if I am accepted into Oxford until April now and I leave in June. Getting very nervous of the thought of planning flights, accomodation and an itinerary in a little over 2 months!
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You will be amazed at what can be achieved in a short space of time!
My husband and I are in Illinois, got here last August. Accepted in March, applied for the visa in May.
There was a hold up with the visa, and we didn’t get it approved until one week before we were due to be there. Yes, one week! We were one day away from giving up entirely. We had to find a tenant, move our entire house into storage, find a home for our dog, book flights, find accommodation in the US, etc.
It was crazy. We pushed the friendship with our families a bit, but we did it, and boy, do we now have stories to tell! And it will be worth it in the end.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!
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Best: SO excited with how much cooking I’ve done this week! Tomorrow I’m hosting Phoodie Jnr #1′s birthday party for 70 people! We always have MASSIVE birthdays as we use the party as an excuse to get everyone together and for me to bake bake bake! I adore cooking and rarely get the chance so I’ve had a really awesome week being able to cook so much!
Worst: Not really a worst YET but I’m PETRIFIED it will rain tomorrow. PETRIFIED. All I need is 2 hrs if sun from 10.30-12.30 and I’m right!
I’ll be blogging the party as usual at http://www.phoodie.wordpress.com and it is going to be a cracker! The Theme is “American Diner”…..
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if ur in sydney.. u should be ok!
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Goodluck and have loads of fun!!
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Hey mamamia-ers.
Worst: Week started like a bucket of poo. Went away the weekend with my friends for A Day on the Green. They are old school mates who are now a couple and of course was sposed to go away with them and bloke. So that was already a big meh. Was flooding out my way so a bit happy to be running away. Drive through peak hour traffic and pouring rain to get to my destination in beautiful country – the Hunter – only to find the driveway of our lovely guesthouse – you guessed it – flooded. Had to head back to town and stayed in a local pub. I think I drank with Darwin’s missing link…
Friends arrived next morn, in a 4wd, all hope not lost. Went to the gig. Weather held. Vodka went down well. Then my car battery died. I think I must have also backed over the karma fairy? So just for good measure I texted bloke a really cranky message about why he is a &^$%&^%#$&^ – because I’m considerate like that. So I had Monday off and felt incredibly sorry for myself.
Best: Put my big girl pants on next day and went to work. My friends have all been wonderful at checking in and cheering me up. Meanwhile this fellow I may or may not have met at a kareoke night locally and may or may not have been chatting to has been lovely amusing company. He thinks I’m hilarious. I think he may be a window licker but he makes me laugh. Reminds me of a bf I had when I was about 17. Nice trip down memory autobahn. He has indeed been a pleasant distraction.
Not really sure if this is a best or worst – but had an evil returning skin cancer removed from my head on Wednesday. My gf came along for moral support. As I toddled out of surgery she goes’ How are ya now, with a bit less brain?’ And I replied’ I’m ok – at least now I can become a man’ ;P
Oh and Mr very funny kareoke window licker called me and came over afterwards to make sure it wasnt a full lobotomy….
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What’s a window licker??
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Oh, I just googled it, it’s not a very nice term
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Yeah I just got the urban dictionary definition…not a term I’ve ever heard used in conversation and I hope not to hear it.
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Ahh…tongue was firmly in my cheek re that term…
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Really? Tongue firmly in check? As the parent of a special needs child offensive terms like this should never be used. They are extremely offensive and I extremely disappointed that this website is happy to leave this kind of derogatory language against people with disabilities up for people to read.
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As a sister of a special needs person I find this term so offensive. It takes alot to offend me but this really did push my buttons.
NB- my sister puts the special in special needs- she is amazing!
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I went to Day on the Green too. It totally sucked. Worst concert ever.
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Noiseworks shouldnt have been the headline. That was disappointing.
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I can see why he likes you, I think you’re hilarious to!
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I have been following everyone else’s Bests and Worsts for a while, so only fair that I start contributing:
Best: Being on maternity leave – energy levels are much lower so I’m glad I can stop and have a snooze whenever I like. And also post on MamaMia whenever I like.
Best#2 Baby has dropped into position (and apparently in the right position!) so I am getting really excited now.
Worst: low energy levels – there’s still quite a bit to organise but I figure if I can finish packing my bag today, the most important stuff is done! I’ve heard and read about the ‘nesting instinct’ that women get in the last weeks of pregnancy, but I’m a neat freak anyway and getting frustrated that I am too tired to do one massive clean/tidy-up in one afternoon.
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Welcome to the best and worst party, popcorn
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Best – The weather has started to become better these past few days, I went out yesterday for the first time without wearing my huge down jacket. Looking forward to Spring which is coming shortly
Another best, well more for husband but watching him enjoy it so much was a best for me too…we went to a Lakers game the other night, my husband has been a MASSIVE fan of the Lakers ever since he was in high school and is also a huge basketball fan in general. Anyway the Lakers were playing against the city we live in (sadly we are not in LA lol) so of course we had to go. The crowd was amazing and actually our city ended up beating the Lakers which is huge since you know it’s the Lakers…
Worst – We have been here for almost a year now (April will make it 1 year) and for the foreseeable future it looks like we will be here for a few years. So we have been looking to buy a place, we actually saw an amazing apartment complex last weekend but both apartments that were on offer were sold within days of each other so that pissed us off…but we definitely want to buy since for some reason paying rent here is more than paying a mortgage! And what really sux is that everything is based on your credit score so right now since we haven’t been here that long our credit score is apparently not high enough to get a home loan but different places say different things. I just hate renting, I feel like our money is going down the drain…. but it’s hard to find a decent place in a decent area here, and the apartments we saw were pretty much the best you can get here. There are a lot of dodgy areas were I would never go and I figure if we are going to stick it out here for a few years then we might as well live somewhere we are happy with. And then of course there’s our house back in Melbourne….the lease for the tentants will run out soon and I’ve basically given my parents the authority to do with it as they see fit, rent it out again or sell it, it’s hard being all the way here and dealing with all that. Plus I trust my parents to do what’s best.
Anyway who knows maybe in a few months everything will sort itself out.
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Weather…
I have been wearing my Perth-weight winter jacket when needed…makes me happy!
We are doing the same, except going to keep renting, we are only here in IL for one more year, and just want to be closer to campus. We have a beautiful apartment on the edge of town, but the bus ride to campus goes through a trailer park. :0 If we go closer to campus, it certainly won’t be anything of beauty we move to!
Good luck with the search…we saw a nice place here with repayments of $700 a month…yes, cheaper than rent!!
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Hey Rach,
sorry I got this message late last night so replying now. How good is it to be able to wear a light jacket lol.
Well renting makes sense if you’re only here one more year, we are not sure how long we will be here, but for the time being this is where we have to be so it makes sense for us to buy rather than spend so much money on rent!
I laughed out loud at the trailer park thing haha, so random
It’s hard because we don’t necessarily want a house since maintenance and stuff would be up to us, the good thing about living in an apartment complex is that stuff is taken care of (e.g. when it snows etc) but then of course you have to pay for those things so…. let’s see. I mean there’s only a handful of areas we can look at here in terms of safety, nice area, clean houses etc.
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Btw Rach,
If you want to get in touch outside of MM my blog site is:
cinnamoneats.wordpress.com
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Best: I went to an awesome wedding last weekend – danced the night away with Husband, drank plenty of gorgeous wine and had a blast with a beautiful bride and a very handsome groom.
Worst: I feel like a really bad person. I just found out my friend is 7 weeks pregnant. My first feelings were ones of insane jealousy that’s settled into a “blue” feeling. I should be happy for her. I’ve sent her a message of congratulations but it feels so hollow.
OMM: Have a baby, try to save up the money to build our dream house, bail out family financially – what’s the right thing to do, and is there a proper order in which to do it???
{ http://perthwife.wordpress.com/ }
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I feel you! Every time there’s a baby announcement on FB, etc, I just feel my heart sink lower. I feel like a bad person for thinking of myself before how wonderful it must be for these people!
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truthfully, if you are that upset about someone else’s pregnancy, then perhaps it is time for the baby. Maybe that clock is starting to tick. But it is a hard decision. Hugs.
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Best – offer on our dream house accepted! Internal scan shows I am def preg with baby 3.
Worst – so much paperwork for mortgage broker! So much stress about getting our house ready for sale. Bleeding today MADD me so worried. Another scan showed strong heart beat & no blood clotting. Relief!
And a strong reminder to slow down! All/ both house stuff will get sorted in time.
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Best: last day of work before I go on mat leave for 12 months YAY! I love my job, but I can’t wait to spend some time out of the rat race and getting to know that little girlie bumping around in there, not to mention being at home for my 3 year old son.
Worst: spending half an hour pushing the pram to daycare in the pouring rain while holding an umbrella and carrying two bags after a very patchy night’s sleep fretting about work. Some aspects of my job I will not miss!
OMM: postnatal depression. Depression is scary, I really don’t want to get it.
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Sorry no best or worst…just wanted to say that I have not been enjoying the new Morning show with Sonia and David UNTIL I saw Rick on there doing a segment called “ask the boys” ( or something similar). David and some bloke called Brendan made fools of themselves but Rick was brilliant. Is it going to be a regular gig??
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Oh! You are so nice! I have a bit of a bromance going on with David. Love him. He is super witty and SO nice. If it wasn’t for him I wouldn’t be on there! Maybe it will be regular-ish, maybe…
Edit: And Mia! She was kind enough to let me go during work hours and even, I’m pretty sure, gave the producers advance warning I wasn’t completely bonkers.
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Hi Rick
Saw you on the show this morning. It will be nice to put your voice with your words from now on!
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Best: The weekend is almost here! I am excited to see my friend how is pregnant with her first child for coffee tomorrow. She has had a rough time, with her best friend yelling, screaming and then ending their 13 year friendship…..over a baby name. Also dealing with the loss of close family friend. All in one week.
Cant wait to surprise with a large gift basket of things for the bub and a special pamper pack for herself to help cheer her up
Worst: Been the longest short week ever. My eyes are also always looking bloodshot! Like I am high or have been crying all the time?
I know you can get eye drops to clear it up, but they make my eyes feel funny? An another suggestions to get rid of bloodshot eyes?
OMM: Been emailing and calling the real estate agent to do the final inspection on our home ALL week, with no reply. Not even from the office telling me why I haven’t heard from him (as I copied them in the emails too)
My BF just called to say the agent called HIM to make the appointment.
Even though I have been the one doing all the agent contact because my BF is too busy.
After all the back handed female jokes he was making during the time dealing with him, it is clear he doesn’t like dealing with women.
Ass.
Cant wait for this to be over and just move in.
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Love your best! Your such a good friend!
Is milk good for eyes? I really have no idea, it just comes to milk to put it in eyes haha. Otherwise can’t beat eye drops.
Hate real estate agents with a passion. Least you dont have to deal with him I suppose you can leave it all to your BF!
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I think bloodshot eyes can be a symptom of allergies/hayfever. Perhaps try an over the counter antihistamine, if it’s not that, it won’t hurt you.
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How do you have a fight over a baby name.?!!?
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The other girl was “saving” the name, that my friend said she MIGHT use. The other girl flipped.
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Best: Started back at work this week and it is bliss to have reduced hours this semester.
Worst: My beautiful mum is terminally ill and is getting worse. My heart is broken. She is fading away before my eyes. I love her so much.
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Hugs and warm wishes to you. Treasure every moment you have with your mum xxx
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Thanks Lil I am. I tell her “I love you” every time I see her.
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Loulee – I lost my mum exactly one month ago today. She was also terminally ill and she went very quickly. There is nothing I can say to make it better. However talk to people you trust and love, talk to her even if you think she can’t hear you (I believe she can) cry until you feel that stress release and be assured things will be ok…xx
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Thanks LJ. We’ve had the diagnosis since November so we’ve been in this weird limbo for all that time. Not knowing how long we had. Last week an MRI confirmed the cancer has spread and the doctor said well that’s it now. In the last two weeks she has just started to really fade away. I think it’s going to be weeks rather than months. I help her every morning and it is such a joy and a privilege to be able to give back even just a little of the lifetime of love and care she has given to me. I don’t want her to suffer.
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So sorry to hear about your Mum. It’s so incredibly difficult to go through this. But spend as much time with her as you can and try and think of all the questions you never got around to asking! One thing I regret is that there was so much I never asked! Many hugs and much love!!!
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Thanks Monique. I think I’ve asked her most things. We’ve been through some times. And talked a lot. Our family never shuts up. Though I can’t think of anything now I bet there will be stuff I think of later.
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Oh huge hugs, Loulee.
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Thanks Haven Maven. Your post was hilarious. I’m also from the Hunter so we are neighbours!
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I’m from the Hunter, like Newcastle area, if you want to catch up with someone!
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Sounds lovely Monique!
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bests – my sister is improving!, my migraines are settling, i’ve done heaps of excercise, lost 2 kilos, had two nights out with friends, cooked a fab lunch for husband, kids are well
worsts – hate my neighbors 3 yappy dogs
omm – perth “parents” whose neglected son is now blind and quadraplegic – not even animals/cockroaches/fleas/rodents treat their babies like that. sickening that these people walk the earth
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I hate my neighbours yappy dogs too. Was having this awful fantasies about killing them. In the end the boy went next door the other night and just let our neighbour know how annoying they are. He had NO idea. Hasnt been a problem since.
Maybe just talk to them about it (or write a letter? But face to face is better I think and they can’t get away!). Half the time I think they are unaware….as crazy as that seems as that yapping is insane!
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I’ve been slightly absent lately on MM – but I have had some good news this week and wanted to share it with everyone on here!
Best: I’ve just given a massive opportunity at work. I’m thrilled, really thrilled about it. Downside is, I can’t say anything else because it’s privileged, but I am SUPER excited about.
Worst: Mum started uni a few weeks ago and she is stressed to the max about it – which makes me feel worried about her. She even asked me about annotated bibliographies last night, taking me back to first year uni – 8 years ago!
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Yay for the opportunity at work even though you can’t talk about it
Your Mum will get back into the grove of it and with a lovely daughter like you, I’m sure she’ll be fine!
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I wont call this a best or worst…perhaps an OMM!
I’m having baby # 3, due October. I turn 35 in November. My OB has suggested I “consider” having a test called a cvs at 11 weeks instead of the normal NT 12 scan & blood test that I had for my previous two pregnancies. The cvs test is where they insert a needle into my tummy to take a sample of the placenta tissue & test for birth defects. It is 100% acurate but there is a 1/100 chance of it causing miscarrige. Or I wait and have the normal NT scan/blood test at 12 weeks with no risks but a 90% acuracy. Then is this comes back with abnormal results a further test at 15 weeks called an amnio (taking amniotic fluid & testing) could be performed with a 1/250 chance of miscarriage. I guess I am asking if anyone has had any experience with this. My gut is telling me why to the invasive cvs test unless there is reason to be worried – which there is not…..any thoughts from anyone??
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Hey Anon. If you feel 100% confident there is nothing to worry about with your pregnancy then give the CVS test a miss. I had the test with my second child as I was 37. The anticipation was far scarier than the actual procedure. I’m a bit of a worrier so for me it was worth doing for the absolute peace of mind. (And I also wanted to find out the sex of number two which was weird as we already had a daughter so I spent the rest of my pregnancy saying to my husband, “OMG we’re having a boy!” In retrospect I should have gone for the surprise option.)
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Hey APFN. I had amnio for # 3. Just put my trust in the dr’s that they knew what they were doing.
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This is YOUR decision, you and your partners. What would you do if there was something on the test? If you’d keep the pregnancy anyway, then why bother? What does your heart tell you?
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I’ve had two CVS procedures with no problems. I thought that you usually have the 12 week scan and only go through with the CVS if the results of the scan showed there could be an issue. (As in a large nuchal translucency measurement combined with your bloodwork). You might want to double check the chances of miscarriage with it because I don’t think it’s that high. The positives of it are its accuracy and the fact you can have it done a few weeks before you can have an amino. You might want to consider what you would do if it came back with something wrong with the baby… if you wouldn’t do anything, there may not be any point… Hope that helps and good luck!
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Thanks MMers for your comments….
I think I have decided to do the standard NT then of results are something to worry about – I’ll go for the amnio…..
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Congratulations!
My mum became pregnant with lucky number 3 when she was 38 (the other two kids was my brother at 25 and me at 28). She did not have the test and everything went well – my little sister is amazing and she was definitely the missing piece in our tight-knit family. My grandma is a GP and I think they talked about it but she chose not to do it. With that said, I don’t know what I would do in this situation, it is so different for everyone.
I think it’s important to go with your instinct and stick with that. Think of what you believe is best for you and the baby. Then again, it is a very hard decision to make. Sending you positive thoughts xx
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i am wondering/worried that i might be suffering from a degree of pnd and i am unsure of what to do about this.
i have a gorgeous 3 1/2 year old girl and a beautiful little baby boy who is almost 16 weeks.
not all day, and not even every day, but more often than not i just feel so…….flat/tired/stuck in a rut/irritated and desperate to have my own space…be by myself…alone, alone, alone.
i have always been quite a positive person, have a successful career (and no i do not want to be back at work at the moment, i know i want to be here with them both) and generally a pretty good life but right now, at this exact minute, my little boy is kicking and gurgling on his matt (and every time i look at him he gives me the most adorable toothless smile) and miss 3 is upstairs in her room playing quietly and i am on the couch, still in my pj’s, wishing i was here by myself…
has anyone else felt this? i didn’t feel this when on mat leave with little miss so am unsure of these feelings. i have totally bonded with little dude and whilst little miss has a few *challenging* behaviours at the moment she really is such a good girl and a gorgeous big sister….
just. can’t. snap. out. of. it
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Hi anon for today. I felt like this after both babies were born, it passed fairly quickly, but I found that when I was most tired (after a long day or bad night with the babies) I would feel like that, flat, distracted, wanting my own space etc. This may sound silly but how are your iron levels? Whenever my iron is low, I feel flat & a bit down too. I take supplements & eat better & enjoy the difference to how it makes me feel. Especially if you are breastfeeding….everything is going to bub.
I think every mum secretly or not secretly yearns for their own space when dealing with little ones all day.
Hope this passes for you soon.
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well done for speaking/reaching out! perhaps ring the parenting helpline or your child health nurse, having a chat may be all you need but see your doctor if it continues over the next week. good luck
it is only natural to feel overwhelmed when everyone wants a piece of you
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I felt exactly like you when my daughter was 3 and my son was new born. Actually I also felt like that when my daughter was born. It will pass. I agree with LKW check your iron and other stuff with your GP.
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hey, thanks for your replies/advice…
i am bfing but also on the pregnanacy gold supplement which has iron…i remember feeling tired after miss 3 but not these feelings of “can’t be bothered with anything”….i know i need to make more time to do the things that make me feel better (exercise, eating right, sunshine etc) as well…
anyway, hopefully it will pass and i am just a little fatigued right now but also really nice to know that i am not alone and that maybe even it’s *normal*!!
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Hey Anon for today. You have been through a lot and with B2 only being 16 weeks you are soooo entitled to feel the way you are feeling. I agree with all the posters – call your MHN or the help line – no your not going nuts you just need an ear and reassurance. Yes you need to look after number 1 (no you not your partner
) so vitamins, good food and fresh air is essential. You are also mum to two!! That is not twice the work it is 10 times the work AND your first is 3!!!!! And a girl!!!!!! Mmmm yes challenging (my second is 3 1/2 and a girl – ooooooohhhhhhhh!).
Just remember – you are normal BUT get some extra help and do talk to someone. We are very lucky now we have such great support systems around us..xx
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thanks LJ x
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I have felt like I can’t be bothered doing anything some days. My daughter is now 9 months old. I have found the more I question myself: “why am I being lazy today?”, “why haven’t I done any cleaning?”, “why am I still in my pyjamas?”, etc the more I feel like crap. So I’ve stopped questioning myself. If I’m feeling a bit blah I’ll have a shower and get into some nice clothes and put on some make up. If I’m feeling a bit blah but can’t be bothered wearing a bra, etc I just put on my favourite pyjamas and my daughter and I have a pyjama day.
I don’t know if that helps. I too was worried I had PND but I realised that the days I stopped trying to be perfect were the best days.
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Sleep deprivation!!!! I was in exactly the same situation and felt exactly the same way. That said if only getting enough sleep with two little ones were as easy as going to bed early!!
Hang in there and if you have some friends or family who can help you out with child minding while you catch some zzzz’s take full advantage!
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Seeing Judith Lucy tonight – can’t wait!
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best: Soundwave last week was amazing!! so incredibly amazing!
worst: I’ve made the decision to defer uni. It’s just not financially viable. I’m actually quite disappointed.
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Quick question for you – iPad 3 or ipad 2? Please help, I’m a techno phobe!
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3. Why get the old model when there’s a new one out?
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The new ones as it’s screen is a bit bigger. To me the older one seems a bit like a large version of my phone. I want one!
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Best: I’ve been cooking some nice family meals. I enjoy cooking. I’ve loved my 1 year old coming up to my legs and hugging them (and trying to eat them) while I cook. I love watching my two kids play with each other – it’s just wonderful.
Worst: Still worried about my relationship with my husband. Hoping to see a counsellor soon, by myself first, and then hoping to go as a couple. It is so difficult organising people to look after children while I have appointments..
OMM: I know there have been several posts about similar topics before, but I just wonder why my husband doesn’t show me any affection. He’s lovely, friendly, gives me a kiss goodnight and when he leaves for work, but he’s just shut me out. I’m a very friendly person, make friends easily, I am easy to get along with, I cook well and look after our children…I’m just not sure what has happened for him to change his feelings for me. I get a little sad watching other happy couples..happy for them, just a little sad for myself..
I’m okay though.. I’m strong.
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I really hope you and your husband figure this out. I think counselling will definitely help. I wish I had the answers to your questions. He might just be going through a phase. I hope that’s all it is. It’s incredibly difficult watching happy couples, but remember that even the couples that seem super happy all the time would have their own issues as well!
Many hugs and much love!
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Best of luck with the counselling. Let’s hope your problems are just a lack of “us” time and easily resolved.
Whatever happens, being proactive and doing something about it with help is the best thing you can do. Many years ago, I was where you are now…. just not as organised.
Sending a hug!
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I really feel for you and hope things improve. You sound like you are doing a great job.
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Best: My sister gave birth to a gorgeous baby boy after a long 5 year struggle with IVF, I burst into ‘happy tears’ when I saw her cuddling her baby boy!
OMM: struggling with the lack of support and constantly having to justify to friends why I have chosen to be a stay at home mum rather than returning to work.
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yes I totally agree, my friends seem to think I’m lazy because I’m SAHM and not working. why is there a stigma? what is so wrong with being home for your family? juggling home/family with a job (for me a job with little money as I’m not qualified or educated in anything special) is not worth the hassle. bosses do not appreiate your efforts like your kids and hubby do.
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Thanks for your reply, nice to know someone else feels the same! My husband works 14 hour days and like you I’m not tertiary educated and do not have a well-paying job. I think staying at home is the hardest job (not to mention the loneliest at times)! I want to raise my baby boy!!! And it’s certainly not being Lazy
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Time to get new friends, love.
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All babies are miracles but some are just a tiny bit more precious. Lovely news.
I hear you about staying at home. A friend said to me last week “so when *are* you going back to work, Master A is nearly one!”. I was a bit taken aback. Aside from the fact that I’m still a teensy bit sick, my two babies are IVF as well. I feel like I’ve fought so hard to get here, why should I be forced to go back to work because society thinks I should? Yes I do feel guilty – we are a bit broke, and I spent so long at uni to get my degree perhaps I should really use it. But this time is so short. I will go back parttime, but whether that is next year, or in 3 years, I’ll wait and see. So hugs to you, you are not alone.
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Best: After being married for 10 months, my sister and her husband have finally got a house! Well, are in the process of getting, their loan was approved and their offer was accepted. But the people owning the house want a quick settlement and our cousin who is doing the conveyancing is out of the country and I just really hope the paperwork all goes through in plenty of time so that they don’t lose the house, they really need a house (been living at home with us as they never expected the process to take this long)
Random: WordPress now shows views by country and today I’ve gotten views from Serbia and Slovenia – so random haha
Worst: I just feel stuck. I feel like my life isn’t going anywhere. I apply for jobs basically everyday and I hear nothing. I’ve changed up my resume and the format of my cover letter and still nothing. I also still miss him terribly. It’s been nearly three months and while I’m making progress, I’m still really sad. I miss having him in my life. He was my best friend and things keep happening and I can’t even talk to him about it. It’s not like he would even care to know, I just miss having him there to share my life with. I would very much like to be over it.
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Hey Monique – it’s good to hear how you going. Don’t do anything other than be kind to yourself when you’re missing him. He’s gone and you can’t fix it. The best you can do is know that you’re a lovely person who feels the breaking up of attachments very keenly. They hurt. A lot. But it gets less and less and less and it will be over one day, it really will.
If you feel stuck, a great way to move things along is to try volunteering. It doesn’t matter where. Try the volunteering websites. It’s way better than staying at home. You get to meet lots of interesting people. There is a possibility of meeting a person who may be of help with getting a job in journalism or related areas. It’s good for creating a new phase in your life. It’s win/win because it does good for you and good for others. Life experiences are the food that fuels a writer’s career too and you will sure get some interesting ones when you volunteer.
Take care sweetie. I think you’re pretty awesome xo
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Thanks Susan. It’s just really difficult caring so much about someone who stopped caring about you. I’m secretly hoping that the reason this has happened is to give me material to write an amazing novel that launches my career, there has to be a positive to this.
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I love your B&W Jo! Just because it’s a good all round look at your life as a marriage celebrant and a friend. Is there anyway that you could publish the reading that was so touching from the wedding on MM site? I would love to read it.
Best: I am sooooo excited this morning. For a couple of reasons. My master’s degree is zooming along really well and I’m really absorbed in it. I saw the Accountant yesterday and have, finally, been able to set up my finances in a much better way, mostly because child support now seems to be a certainty rather than a maybe each month – Alle-effing-luia!
Mostly though, the BIG one, is buying my youngest son his first adult male fragrance to wear on the BIG date tonight. He was over the moon when I gave it to him as he wasn’t expecting it. To see him go on the big date after his issues with anxiety and depression and overdosing makes my heart sing. Nothing can ruin this for me or for him. Even if the big date is a bit of a flop, we know he can survive it.
And, I think, I still believe in love a little bit and that’s a good feeling.
Wishing everyone a week of more bests than worsts
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Oh Susan, how nice to know finances will be in order…such a relief sometimes and thanks for your support, being a celebrant means you have very interesting weeks! Here is the reading;
The only people for me are the mad ones. The ones who are mad to love, mad to talk, mad to be saved; the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow Roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.
Live, travel, adventure, bless, and don’t be sorry
Life must be rich and full of loving–it’s no good otherwise, no good at all, for anyone
Jack Kerouac
Isn’t it beautiful, have a lovely weekend xx
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Ooooh I’m so goosebumpy reading that. Thanks so much Jo! Have just entered it into my journal to keep
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Hope the date goes well
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