If you’ve been watching Married at First Sight you would have seen Lauren and Andrew’s train wreck of a “marriage”. Short story: they were married for less than 24 hours before Lauren decided to ghost him in a pub and disappear for the next five days.
I’m sure Lauren isn’t the first or last bride to have second thoughts walking down the aisle.
A survey last year in the UK revealed a frightening statistic that 70% of marriages will deal with infidelity of some kind. That same survey also claimed a third of people believed they had married the wrong person.
In Australia in 2014, there were 121,197 marriages and 46,498 divorces (nearly 40%).
So it’s no wonder many brides have second thoughts about the man they are going to marry – even as they are walking down the aisle. I recently reached out to my female friends to find out what was REALLY going through their minds in those moments before they said, “I do”.
Rina
“It didn’t seem real, it seemed more like playing house and it only sank in that I was married hours after the ceremony.”
“It hit me that it’s final and that we barely know one another. We’ve never had sex before or anything. ‘Til that moment I was caught up in doing the “right” thing and feeling close to God, partaking in something sacred that’s meant to be according to “His Will” but I was honestly scared right afterwards.
“I loved my new husband of course, it was our choice to get married, but suddenly he seemed like a stranger and really he was in so many ways … that’s when it hit me for the first time, just how long this “till death do us apart” may be. My new mother in law said it was a normal feeling and she felt the same way when getting married.”
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I feel like if your doubts are more about entering a new phase in your life, scared about what married life entails, that's normal. But I feel like if you have doubts about your actual partner, that should ring alarm bells. I know for me I had zero doubts about who I was marrying (he's great), but I definitely felt mixed emotions about the life change and what it entailed (going from being single to being married, being a wife, having kids, moving house etc). It is a huge life change and I think it's normal to feel scared about the change.
The exact opposite happened to a friend of mine, she had no doubts, but everyone else did. We kept telling her not go through with it , to wait and get to know the guy better but she refused. She was in love with the idea of love and marriage. They have two kids together, but are now divorced because he is a serial adulterer. He cheated on her while they were dating and engaged and wouldn't believe his roommates when they told her.