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Nicole

Let’s get one thing straight.

Being thin doesn’t equate to being perfect.

Nor does it equate to the Hollywood ideal of beauty.  Only one aspect of it.

To be perfect by celebrity and/or media standards, you need to be thin, have large breasts, long legs, blonde hair, tanned skin, perfect features, the list goes on.

So when women rally against such ridiculous and unattainable ideals, I’m all for it.

But why, when women unite against the pressure of unrealistic and unattainable beauty, do they focus almost entirely on weight?

Or, dare I say it, curves.

Catch-cries of “men love curves” and “real women have boobs and a bum” are shouted from the roof tops, alongside images of tall, busty, voluptuous women, such as Bianca Dye and most recently Catherine Deveny.

Which makes all the curvy girls feel fabulous I’m sure.

But what about the rest of us?

The not so curvy? But not so perfect either?

I’m a size 6.  So no, I’m not overweight.  Lucky me.

I’m also 5 foot 2 inches tall.  No long legs here.

I wear a size 10 B bra.  Just.

I live my life in high-heels and padded bras. I’m not a blue-eyed blonde either.

And when I gain weight, where do you think it goes? You guessed it, my hips.  Not my boobs.

So no matter how much I cake I eat, no matter how body confident and bootylicious I proclaim to be, I’m never going to be curvy.  Or, according to the rebelling media and diversity spokeswomen, a real woman.

So if I’m no Miranda Kerr, but no Beyonce either, where does that leave me? It’s not just the curvy girls being let down by the media.

Isn’t it about time women encouraged other women to “love their bodies” and “celebrate their uniqueness”, rather than focusing on specific ideals such as “curves” and “boobs” and “thin”.

Let’s beat the media at its own game and embrace all women.

Attention advertisers!  Big breasts or small … you can look great whatever your size.

Here are some famously ‘small chested’ women rocking the red carpet:

Katy Perry

Nicole Madigan-Everest is a freelance writer, journalist and mother of two.  You can find her website here.

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206 Comments so far

  1. Heche

    Katy Perry, flat chested?

    What universe are YOU living in?

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  2. Alan

    On the contrary. The media absolutely loves flat chested women.

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  3. José Campana

    I’ll never understand women no matter how much time I spend with them or how much I read about them. Maybe the physical aspects I’m attracted to are weird; I don’t know.
    I’m 45, divorced, and have no kids and a huge libido such that I always have a girlfriend that I can’t get enough of. Only about half of my girlfriends are considered attractive by my friends, at least the ones who will tell me what they really think. I couldn’t care less what they think; I know what turns me on.
    Women, please don’t fret over your breasts! I assure you that no matter what size breasts you have, there are literally billions of men who like them. Many men, including I, prefer women with smaller breasts. Most women are shocked when they find out that about 40% of men prefer A-B cup breasts and the remainder like huge ones. I much prefer an A-cup and breasts that take up a large surface area. This makes the woman appear to be flat-chested, but that’s just what I like, especially when they don’t wear a bra (as I plead with them not to) and their high-beams are on. Implants are a real turnoff unless they were used in breast reconstruction following surgery for cancer, a tumor, or some other medical condition to correct a significant disproportion. A woman with anything larger than a B is out. I prefer long, black hair that I can run my fingers through, but that’s not that important. Also, almost all women who aren’t fat have an attractive face. My women are petite to average, however the more muscular the woman the better – especially when they have large, muscular thighs and a big butt. I meet most of my gf’s in the weight room at my gym. Any height between 4′ 10″ and 5′ 10″ is fine, as is race, eye color, and religion (except Muslim). No smokers, alcoholics, or drug addicts. Google “Christmas Abbott photos” and you’ll see my dream woman. Amy Grant and Danika Patrick are gorgeous as is Keira Knightly. Finally, there is absolutely no physical attraction between me and an overweight or obese woman – I can’t help it. It’s sad since so many of them are such nice and good people. Please get to the gym and lift heavy weights to get thinner and muscular (but not like a man.) Aerobics for losing weight is a waste of time. Why do you think that most of the work the contestants on The Biggest Loser perform is weight training?
    I understand how powerful peer pressure is and how much influence mags, movies, and TV shows have. If you’re feeling anxious or insecure about your body, then the best thing you can do is stop looking at the damned mags (rags). Chill out for a month by not watching any movies or TV shows with “perfect” women in them. Lift weights at the gym instead. Have an employee made sure that you’re lifting the right way so that you won’t get hurt, and lift enough weight so that you cannot do a 12th repetition no matter how hard you try.
    If you’re not beautiful now, you soon will be when you drop the lbs and remember that God made us such that people have different ideas of desirable members of the opposite sex.

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  4. Jessie

    I identify so much with this post. Also a size 6 on top, and 10A bra size! Growing up as a teenager I was so envious of girls with curvy bodies, and especially boobs. I always felt scrawny and so unnattractive. As I’ve gotten older (I’m now 27), I like my figure, and enjoy being able to wear certain dresses and tops without a bra. I sometimes still think about getting a boob job, but never too seriously!

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  5. Flat is Fabulous

    As a man who prefers smaller breasts, I would love to stop all breast argumentations if I could.
    Whether they’re flat or just itty bitty, they’ll always be better then fake oversized balloons.
    The Photo gallery was a spoof joke right. thats Hollywood’s idea of small breasted.

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  6. Polly

    I think you’ve put the wrong gallery up. Jennifer Love Hewitt? Cindy Crawford?! These women are held up as the busty ideal! You ma want to edit that ASAP

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  7. Anonymous

    Everyone in the gallery hass HUGE boobs by my standards!!! What is going on!!!>

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  8. Tinka

    Wait, why is there a picture Katy Perry after it says, “here are somefamously ‘small chested’ women”?

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  9. Kate

    I’m so confused by the photos that you’ve posted. Some of the women have “small chests” but half of them are by no means flat chested. Especially not Scarlett Johansson who is like the number 1 poster girl for curvy women. I would rethink your celebrity choices.

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    • Caitlin

      I too am confused by your pictures. Many of the celebrities you have included are by no means small breasted. And to add to that, many of them are not tall, blonde, thin and tanned.

      I have no doubt that all of those women have made it inside and on the front cover of many magazines, and are included in a “hottest 100″ celebrity list.

      Could it be that the media has already beaten us? And that we, as women, have not let go of “Hollywood’s ideal of beauty?”

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  10. guest

    You are gorgeous. Don’t worry about it. I am female and heterosexual, but you are so pretty, the guys would be falling all over you.

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  11. skhf

    You’re a 10 B, just. I’m barely a 10 A. I absolutely hate it. None of my weight since I was 14 (now 19) has gone into my boobs. Its not a hormonal thing, I’ve been on the Pill since for two years. Id rather a boob job then be living with a body I hate. Also, I have curves, all my weight goes to my stomach, so I look pregnant, without the boobs.

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  12. D

    “I’m a size 6. So no, I’m not overweight. Lucky me.

    I’m also 5 foot 2 inches tall. No long legs here.

    I wear a size 10 B bra. Just.”

    I am in the exact same boat!

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  13. the Original Camille

    i lost my hair in 2000.
    I look back at photos of myself before the alopecia and marvel at how pretty i was.
    I wasn’t necessarily great within myself, though.

    Now I focus my energies on what my body can DO, not how it looks. And I teach my kids to do the same.

    In 20 years, you will all look at photos of yourselves and wonder why you worried about your appearance.
    So, for now, when you get upset about your bits, focus on the teenager with Downs Syndrome, the man missing a leg, and the toddler with juvenile diabetes, and thank your lucky bloody stars. Work on yourselves, people, and stop blaming society for your own superficial vanity.

    These article don’t help, they create a first-world problem. Surely this site can do better.

    (apologies to people with Downs- I know they can have happy, productive lives- but I doubt they or their families would chose to be born with this condition).

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  14. Jen

    The only time I went beyond an ‘A’ cup was when I was pregnant/breastfeeding!

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  15. Caz

    Nicole Richie now has breast implants so best not to include her.

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    • Anouk

      True story..?Well,my celeb chest hero/twin used to be Kate Hudson,she had no breasts whatsoever…sadly,she seems to have given in as well,on newer pictures (i know she just had a baby,but it was before her recent pregnancy)it looks like she got herself some implants too….
      To me,the thing about implants is just…i really couldn’t imagine feeling comfortable knowing that i have two plastic sacks filled with some liquid stuffed under my skin,no matter if it looks ok…i mean,really!

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  16. Kit

    LOVE this. Thank you.

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  17. Chrissy

    I have recently turned 40 so I remember when (please don’t faint Gen Yers) there was no internet and I think I had healthier self esteem then.

    The internet has shown me that I should have a porn-ready vulva and bleached anus, stomach that you could balance sushi on, and a body like Barbie.

    These things I could disregard as being ridiculous (No-one is White King-ing my nether regions anytime soon).

    What HAS crept into my subconcious and spread destructive tendrils through my self-esteem though is the constant focus on self-love and body image.

    Focus on something (either positive or negative) and it grows.

    I didn’t used to question my self belief or my body until so many “positive” or “helpful” articles started appearing on blogs or sites that I frequented. In a similar way to self help books making me focus on problems I didn’t even realise I had (and probably didnt actually have until I started creating them in my mind to justify reading the self help book), these articles serve (in the guise of bringing light to an issue) to create the issue they are supposedly trying to eradicate.

    Why do we feel the need to justify our bust size or weight or anything body related? Why should this even be a topic of conversation? Cast your minds back 10-15 years and you will probably find that it was very rarely discussed.
    And why do we assume that because attention is now being drawn to the subject that that is a good thing? Because the internet tells us it is??

    I am not going to describe my boobs or my body. Because they are irrelevant to how I live my life. I am certainly not going to justify being a “real woman” because the whole idea is ludicrous.

    But I am going to call time on this whole subject, the only way I can – by no longer reading anything body image related.

    I wish you all kindness and love.

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    • *

      Chrissy I would like to thank you for bringing to light some of what has been bothering me for quite some time. These are things I have not been able to articulate (within) myself. Your post was helpful to me.

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  18. J

    This is such a great post. I too am not curvy, and whenever I dare complain about clothes not fitting me properly, I get death stare from other girls. Thank you!

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  19. caramel80

    I’ve been a DD cup since my teens. I would very much like to be a small or non existent breasted lady! It means no nasty underwire bras, breast sweat or lots of sports bras.

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    • Beatrice

      Me too! I’m 5’2″ and since the age of 14 have sported DD boobs. I hate it!! When breastfeeding I upsize to an E. Dreaming of a breast reduction to a B…

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  20. EJ

    5ft8″, size 8, 10B.

    If it isn’t okay to call anyone fat, why is it okay to call me skinny? Once, at dancing, I had a girl openly say to someone else, in my earshot (‘jokingly’), that I couldn’t do a particular dance move because I was skinny and I ‘had no arse’. I fail to see how the size of my boobs, hips or waist makes them/me any more or less feminine or womanly. That is the issue I have with shouty ‘REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES’ ads. Oh, I’m sorry, you’ll have to give me a new gender classification because of my ‘fake’ (genetic) small cup size and hips…haha.

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    • The Sage Stylista

      I’ve been told the same thing by people when I say I do belly-dance! They take one look at my slender mid-section at say ‘Don’t you need a belly for that?’

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  21. shortie

    I’m blonde haired and blue eyed, but I’m also very short (155cm), quite curvy (if not a little overweight) and pretty much flat chested. I’m an A cup and so is my sister. As much as i dislike my height and cup size, i’ve come to accept them. My boyfriend certainly hasn’t complained once :)

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    • den

      So what if you’re “blonde haired and blue eyed”?? That has nothing to do with the post about boobs. Anyway the ideal is kim kardashian these days, (bib boobs big bum skinny waist long dark hair etc) not “blondes.”

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  22. ber

    I like being fairly small in the breast department. They don’t get in the way so much! I hate the feeling of “side-boobage” that rubs up against your arms.

    A real woman is an individual with two X chromosomes. And having said that, I can think of some cases where even this definition could be stretched!

    Every woman defines her own brand of womanliness. I suppose there are some natural tendencies, but let’s get rid of the stale, imposed traditions of gender, especially those espoused by media. We have ALLOWED ourselves to become consumed by these stupid and often unhealthy depictions of beauty and femininity because WE consume IT.

    I recommend looking in the mirror less, buying fewer magazines, and dancing sexy when you’re alone! ;)

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    • The Sage Stylista

      Dancing sexy when you’re alone= THE BEST THING EVER ;)

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    • Trog

      Keeping it very real, ber. Love your work.

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  23. Faybian

    I always wanted to have bigger boobs as a teenager (10a), but then realised I could lie on my tummy to sleep, run without a bra and when I started nursing training, realised that as I got older I wouldn’t have the problem of sagging boobs with irritated skin. So gradually I accepted it.

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    • Amandarose

      I am a goose I always thought you were a man. Whoops!

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    • Kris2040

      My sister never really had boobs when we were teenagers, and I was in my DDs. Mum and I were ribbing her once and she shot us down with “At least I can see my feet and don’t knock myself out when I run”. Fair point, well played.

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    • Michelle

      E cup here, I can sleep on my tummy and I don’t have irritated skin!

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  24. Jess

    So sick of seeing articles about being a ‘real woman’ and articles bitching about other peoples definitions of being a ‘real woman’.

    The more I see these articles telling me that I shouldn’t compare myself to Hollywood bodies, the more I think to myself that maybe I should be doing just that because everyone else seems to be.

    Before this whole ‘love yourself’ movement came about, I didn’t think I had a reason not to love myself.

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  25. Rebecca

    I wish I could meet these men who are into big breasts! I would love to have breasts small enough to wear a triangle bikini top or a fitted button down shirt. Grass really is always greener isn’t it.

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  26. Jessica

    Do boobs really shrink that much after breast feeding? As a flat chested 22 year old that is sad to hear :(

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    • Anonymous

      I don’t think they always do. Some increase in size. Me personally they shrunk. I still wear the same size bra but they aren’t full anymore :( oh well that’s what they are there for.

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    • dkmum

      Almost a 10A before, the same after breastfeeding my first child. The biggest chock was that they had been SO big (large Bcup) and firm while feeding, that the (possibly saggier) current state seemed a huge difference. A year on I don’t actually think they’re that different from before, just a little softer.
      But hey, I’m 35 and I managed to keep a baby alive with my little things. Somehow I don’t care quite so much anymore. – Still don’t wear anything that isn’t padded though ;o)

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    • Guest

      They don’t always do. Mine went up from a 12B to a14DD then came down to a14D. And it’s not weight gain either as I still can wear pants and skirts I wore before I got pregnant. Unfortunately, the boob fairy has her sister, the foot fairy visit me too and me feet went up form a size 6.5 to a size 7.5. Has to give away my shoes.

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    • Junebug

      Mine are the same size post-BF (10A; I went up to a 10C, which was fun) but they’ve changed shape so seem smaller now – they’re not a perky tent-shape anymore, they’re like a (dare I say it) ‘droopy’ tear-drop shape.

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  27. petite

    Thanks for the article. I often feel left out in the “we are real woman” argument because I never fit into any of the groups. I understand and appreciate this article because I know how it feel to not be able to find clothes small enough to fit me (oh boo hoo me… i know you’re thinking it… but imagine every.single.day wearing clothes 2 sizes too big I always feel uncomfortable and frustrated trying to find clothes in the teen section at Myer) Im not going to grow any bigger, and neither are my boobs if you could call them that. And all the images all the models or the “perfects” make it so hard for me to accept myself just the way I am. If I didnt have daughters I would have a boob job. But I am their role model so i have to suck it up and love what I’ve got… or at least try

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  28. J

    I’m a dude….for what it is worth not all men like massive boobs, or curvy big booties. There is NOTHING wrong with smaller chested women. It is women, who beat women up about the size of their cans, not men. Just sayin’…..

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    • Anonymous

      funnily enough men don’t rag on men over the size of their sausages…. It is women who talk about the size of the small goods.

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  29. Daniella

    12A reporting in. :(

    I should also add I am 166cm, 65kg’s and a size 10ish. My tummy is bigger than my boobs (lol) BUT I do have an athletic body so I guess I’m kind of proportional?

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    • KP

      Wow you sound identical to me!

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      • Daniella

        Hi 5 to be able to do sport with just a normal bra but maaaaaan, do I WISH I could fill out a bloody bra or cozzie!!!

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    • Anonymous

      You are extremley hot, I guess not a great opening line but also true damn stunning

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  30. JuicyJ

    I like the article and the gallery, but I think it would also have been good to include Nicole Kidman and Kate Hudson (and I don’t really think Jennifer Aniston is small breasted at all…).

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  31. Anonymous

    it is pretty simple. a real woman has a vagina……

    although if you don’t have a vagina and you consider yourself a real woman for whatever reason.. then you are a real woman too

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    • Edie

      I was about to argue with you when I read the first line but then I read the rest of you’re comment so it’s ok.
      A real woman identifies as a women, ’nuff said.

      :)

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  32. Shannon

    I think the other thing is that larger, small-busted women get marginalized, too – like there’s this assumption that only skinny women have small breasts because they’re “proportionate to their frame” which overlooks women of a larger build whose genetics didn’t give them large breasts.

    While I wholeheartedly agree that thin women are regularly criticized for having tiny/flat chests, at the same time it is considered reasonably normal for them. That doesn’t make it any less hurtful, of course, but I personally take some small consolation in that people aren’t overly surprised that my breasts are small, even though they do still criticize it.

    I imagine larger women with small breasts feel similarly victimized, but they’re rarely talked about because of the stereotypes, which must make them feel pretty crappy because people like to draw the skinny/curvy binary opposition, and larger but not curvy does not fit into that.

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    • The Sage Stylista

      I love your comments, Shannon. So articulate, intelligent and never alienating! :)

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    • Anonymous

      Thanks for raising this side. This is my life! Size 18-20 (after hard work and exercise and still going) but because of hormone issues in my teens, have size A boobs. It’s the worst- everything size 16 and up seems to start at a C cup. Not helpful for feeling womanly. I found a website online called ‘itty-bitty bra’ which sells plain plus sized bras in small cup sizes, but they are unfortunately not within my student budget. So I have to stick to unflattering padded sports bras.

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  33. stinkb0mb

    I know I’ve already posted below but I’ve just reread the article and all the comments and there is something that stands out.

    We talk about curvy bodies, fat bodies, thin bodies, big boobs, small boobs, no boobs, short hair, long flowing hair and say that none of these things actually define what a “real woman” is because they and plenty more make women, well women.

    Honestly? I think the problem may be articles like these – I accept that the author most definitely has the right to write about what it feels like to be a size 6 [thin] and flat chested [small breasted], just as much as a size 16 and size 26 woman has the right to write an article about how she feels at her size but that, I believe, is where the problem lies. We are all women – size 6, 16 or 26, big boobed, small boobed or no boobs! Long hair or short, big bum, no bum, had children or haven’t had children – we need to stop dividing ourselves as a sex, we are ALL women – let’s celebrate that – let’s read articles about us as a sex as a WHOLE, rather than dividing ourselves up into skinny, slim, average and fat camps – stuff that!

    Our bodies are fabulous, irrelevant of size and shape. Yes some of us are not as healthy as we could be – because we are overweight, underweight or perhaps bang on weight but not fit but it’s more than that, it’s about being comfortable in our own skin. And no I’m NOT saying fat is healthy but it most certainly can be beautiful because we are ALL beautiful in our special way regardless of body shape and size.

    It’s time to celebrate EVERYTHING that makes us women, beautiful just as we are.

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    • Nicole Madigan-Everest

      I agree wholeheartedly Stinkb0mb and that was the whole point of the article – let’s not define women by particular body traights, thereby excluding others. We are ALL real, all flawed and most importantly, all beautiful!

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      • lucinda

        TRAITS

        sorry I had to say it. can’t help myself.

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        • nicolemadiganeverest

          Dang. I wrote the comment on my iphone while rubbing my sick bub’s back to help him sleep. Nonsensical spelling errors result ;)

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    • nicolemadiganeverest

      I agree wholeheartedly Stinkb0mb and that was the whole point of the article – let’s not define women by particular body traits, thereby excluding others. We are ALL real, all flawed and most importantly, all beautiful!

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  34. Little El

    Very happy to read this and know that there are other small-breasted ladies out there feeling the same slap in the face I feel when the “women have curves” lines is trotted out again and again! As MissT said, real women, by biological definition, have vaginas. Not necessarily curves. And by social definition, real women are just those who identify as women, I’d say.

    I’m actually a bit surprised that 10B is considered a “flat chest”, especially on a size 6. I’m 5ft tall, wear a size 4-6 (in the stores that stock clothes small enough), and a 10AA (again, when I can find one) or the very smallest of 10As if they don’t gape too much! I also have a relatively broad back (10 band is fine on my size 6 frame), and narrow hips (totally shaped like a boy, as the media likes to remind me). In high school I was even flatter and skinnier, and copped various snide “surfboard”-inspired comments. I’ve gradually come to accept that this is just my shape, and I’m pretty happy with it, most days. It’s great for exercising, too. There is the constant reminder that this shape is unusual, though, in the form of clothes shopping, or whenever larger women in the media decide to attack the skinny, under the misguided assumption that we somehow have it easier than them.

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  35. Caris

    Ah, the ‘real women’, such a ridiculous term

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  36. cos

    Oh gosh I have no boobs and I love it. I love being able to be super active without worrying about my chest getting in the way. I love being able to go without a bra at home, especially in the heat. I’m not sure if my husband would like my boobs to be larger because I’ve never asked. If I’m happy with what I’ve got and I assume that he finds me attractive because he married me!!

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  37. Anouk

    I have the tiniest breast ever.When i was younger,i had both nipples pierced,never wore a bra,never gave the size a thought other than how much i loved them.Then i had 2 kids,and now my breast are basically just sacks of skin:)…Unfortunately that means i can’t really go braless anymore,but neither are there any bras on the market which don’t look like ridiculous puffy (but empty) mounds on my chest…anyway,it doesn’t bother me really,and i find it weird there are men who need a woman to have a certain size of chesticles in order to find her sexually attractive,but i guess breasts are the human equivalent of a baboons red ass…

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  38. August

    “Let’s get one thing straight.Being thin doesn’t equate to being perfect.”

    I’m pretty sure every reader of this site already knew that. It’s the kind of line mothers doll out to their 12 year old girls.

    Come on mamamia, we’re smart and we’ve been hearing surface arguments like this since we were all in primary school. This article didn’t teach me anything NEW. Make me THINK. I believe that’s what you’ve got to keep reaching for to ensure your body confidence articles don’t get old.

    Have you read Margaret Cho’s piece on Jezebel? Have you seen their article about health insurers not paying for residental eating disorders treatment? That’s what I wish I could read here. Stories with meat.

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    • becsparrow

      August,
      We appreciate your opinion. But let’s remember this post was written by a contributor who doesn’t deserve to be insulted.

      This is an opinion piece written by Nicole on how she feels being a size 6 (thin) woman with a small chest.

      While you may feel no need to hear this message again … for naturally thin women (who still feel marginalised by the media’s portrayal of “what’s sexy”) this post is valid.

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      • Charlotte

        Completely agree Bec & thankyou Nicole for your honest post. Rarely do I read an article on someone’s experience of being flat-chested & short, something I can very much relate to. Agree that it’s usually the more voluptuous body types that get more attention in the body image debate, so I found this refreshing.

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      • August

        Bec, my problem is not with the message – it’s the way you’re delivering it. See, I read the opening lines and it’s references to “Hollywood” and “large breasts” and “unattainable ideals”. There’s nothing there that tells me this is Nicole’s story, this is a story from 2012. It could be from 1992, no? I am honestly not trying to insult anyone here – I am a loyal reader & believe in the importance of body image campaigns. I’m just hoping for material that moves me, that makes me think.

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        • penguin feet

          I totally agree August. I have said it before and will continue to say it. Mamamia is capable of body image stories with more dimension. There is no use in posting the same old cardboard cut out body image stories constantly to cater for newer or less frequent readers if it it means the number of loyal readers are dropping off. From a business perspective, Mamamia will lose momentum in the long run. This is one area where mamamia could do with lifting up its feet and taking some strides instead continuing to shuffle along like a penguin :D

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        • nicolemadiganeverest

          Hi August,
          I’m not at all a fan of the “real woman” catch cry. I suppose my point was that, often times when women try to rally against so-called Hollywood ideals, they’re inadvertently alienating particular groups of women by focusing so much on traits such as “boobs, bums and curves”. It was basically just a piece on how I feel when I read these types of articles.

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    • Caron

      Absolutely echoes my reaction.

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  39. Anonymous

    Not sure I’d put Jennifer Aniston in the “flat chested” category, other photos are fab!

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  40. maybedaisy

    My boobs are quite tiny and when my high-school sweetheart and I had sex for the first time, he said, ‘Is that it? They’re miniture.’ I smiled politely before telling him to pop it in whenever he was ready. I’ll never forget how white he went before saying, ‘It is in.’

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    • stinkb0mb

      Oh dear! Instant Karma eh?

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    • Sam

      Hahahaha, love it!

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    • Edie

      Brilliant!

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    • Sasha

      Oh my gosh, win!!!

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    • dkmum

      Ahh, that would have been a great round of intimacy.
      Great comeback, wish I had the smarts for stuff like that!

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  41. Anonymous

    How about me? Small breasts, curvy hips. I think I was popular in about the 17th century but not since…

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    • melinka

      ha! that’s me as well!

      I’m a size 12B top and a 14 bottom, which is way bigger than I should be. Of course, if/when I lose weight it will go from my boobs first!

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  42. Noelle

    Kelly Clarkson should be included that gallery. She’s an interesting example because she’s slightly bigger, and yet very small breasts. Ahhh… diversity is so wonderful!

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  43. Carly Findlay

    Great post Nicole – I am sick of the ‘real women’ debate – all women are real women! There is so much more to focus on than the size and shape of people – it’s a pity the emphasis isn’t on humour, intelligence and kindness.

    I believe there needs to be more to body image diversity than size though – when are we going to embrace and feature different races, colours and disabilities in the fashion/media industries?

    I also have that floral dress you are wearing!

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  44. Kylie

    Small breasted women are often “darn skinny”…. And I think the whole point is – what is wrong with that? ( unless of course someone is unnaturally skinny). We should accept that there are women of all shapes and sizes. I am small breasted and skinny…and so is my mother, my grandmother, and so was my great grandmother and her mother before her. And I expect my tiny little daughters are going to be the same.

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  45. stinkb0mb

    I will go against the grain and say I LOVE my F size breasts! I have never actually wanted small boobs, despite Guv preferring them – more than a handful being a waste and all that.

    Despite the uncomfy bras, the straps that dig in, the back ache and the sheer cost of a decent bra at this size – I love my breasts. More so than anything else body wise, they make ME feel womanly because I’m comfortable with them and their size and I’ve accepted that I’m always going to be a big boob girl, regardless of how much I weigh and that’s the key.

    It’s NOT about what size your breasts are, or aren’t, it’s about being comfortable with the assets you have and accepting them for what they are – breast size doesn’t determine how much of a woman you are or are not!

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    • The Sage Stylista

      I can empathise with you stinkbomb, even though mine are of the petite pursuasion, because I embrace the same kind of attitude towards mine, that you do yours.

      We can still respect and appreciate the beauty of others’ differences, but stay happy and comfortable with what we have, knowing it isn’t the defining factor of who we ARE.

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      • Susan

        Well said.

        I love my body cos it’s functional.

        Because I can walk down the street.

        Because a little bit of effort and i can look pretty nice.

        Because there is no point hating.

        Because it annoys the crap out of me that healthy women complain about their bodies. Savvy up to the media and move on.

        First. World. Problem.

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  46. Anonymous

    this makes all sorts of no sense…

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  47. Anonymous

    Wow, great timing on this one! I have always been a fairly athletic body type and have always hated and felt embarrassed about my small boobs. I have just finished breast feeding my first baby and am sad to say my poor little boozies are now even smaller than before, if thats possible :( On a happier note, im told ive got a great arse and ‘thoroughbred legs’, and theres always padded bras…….

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  48. Sooz

    Im a big boobed girl and they’re the bain of my existence. And yes, I have had a breast reduction but the buggers grew back! Smaller busted women, rejoice in your ability to wear strapless, halter, whatever tops you like, without having inch wide bra straps showing. Save money by being able to buy a cheapo bra for $10, instead of never being able to find industrial strength, full re-enforced bras for less than $50. And love your ability to be able to swing a golf club, if you so choose. Personally, I have no desire to play golf, but I’d love naturally small boobs. I guess the grass is always greener though :)

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    • picardie.girl

      Yes! There are many benefits to being small, enjoy them, ladies!

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      • Tulipgirl

        Breast reductions don’t always work?!! I’ve been thinking of it, on and off. So sick of the back/neck pain. Yes, those industrial strength bras are pricey!

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        • Sooz

          Sometimes they don’t work. Obviously I’m just meant to be big busted! BUT – they’re definitely still perkier and my back pain is still much less. Don’t discount it all together without speaking to a good plastic surgeon :)

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    • melissasavage

      Oh wow this is a depressing story. I have always had a plan in the back of my head to get a reduction done once I finish having children and breastfeeding. Your follow up comment is reassuring though.

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  49. picardie.girl

    “Isn’t it about time women encouraged other women to “love their bodies” and “celebrate their uniqueness”, rather than focusing on specific ideals such as “curves” and “boobs” and “thin”?” YES!

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  50. Nora

    Jen Aniston small chested?

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    • Anonymous

      Yeah, i questioned that one too…… Where’s a pic of Kate Hudson??

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      • Nicole

        Jen Aniston has quite big boobs for her frame actually – at least a C/small D

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