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Mamamia publisher, Mia Freedman, sat down with Show + Tell’s Monty Dimond for a tell-all interview on life, work and motherhood.
In this video, Mia talks to Monty about the avalanche effect of her miscarriage; from being in the public eye, to the strain on her marriage and the beautiful friendship that blossomed with Bec Sparrow.
Keep your tissues handy.
Here’s a little sneak peak:
It was the hardest thing that ever happened to me, I reacted in ways I didn’t expect to… ultimately Jase and I separated for awhile after that.
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I lost my first baby after the first trimester a few months ago. We had to make the decision to end my pregnancy due to problems with the baby. Mia's comments really resonated with me- I have found it impossibly hard to talk to anyone about it, especially my close friends and family. I've been unable to tell anyone what really happened. The way I've reacted by totally shuttung down has surprised me. I feel like I should be ok by now.... But I'm not. My husband has been amazing but I don't think even he understands that I'm not 'fine'. I agree with Suzanne below about the need for support after the immediate period of shock and grief. I'm terrified of getting pregnant again whilst desperate to be pregnant at the same time. I feel so alone- so thank you Mia for making me feel a tiny bit more normal.
Thanks Mia for sharing your story and I totally agree with Kate's comments below. I wish I'd known you and Kate so we could have shared our stories together. I lost my baby girl, Ellie, at 18 weeks and relate to all of the rollercoaster-emotions you describe. I also felt ashamed and embarassed and thought I must have done something wrong...I kept going over the details of my pregnancy and wondered if I hadn't had that glass of wine or hadn't gone for that run...would things have been different? I found that many people had experienced early miscarriage but mid-term miscarriage is quite uncommon so found it difficult to talk to anyone about it. I was saddened that many of my friends, even close friends, avoided speaking about it and to this day never ask. My husband was as supportive as he could be but also shut down after a few weeks.......it was like he wanted to put it behind us then. I felt an overwhelming desire to honour Ellie and we did a special service on the beach near where we live and I still go there regularly and "talk" to her. I firmly believe she is my guiding angel and I ask her for advice and know that she would have been so beautiful and wise. I have two gorgeous boys and know that for whatever reason this wasn't her time to be here but she was loved beyond belief and I will always grieve for the life and experiences she missed. I stress to anyone reading, if you have friends who have a similar experience, please talk to them, ask them about it even long after it's happened, find out what you can so you can support them and let them know they are not alone.......xx