It turns out roasting your partner is actually a sign of a very healthy relationship.

If you’re in a relationship, there’s a good chance you cop a roasting from your partner on a regular basis.

Whether it’s for your habit of awkwardly wearing socks with sandals to the shops or your penchant for crying over cute dog videos on Facebook, everyone’s got a quirky habit for their partner to poke fun at.

But there’s good news.

It turns out roasting your partner is actually really, really good for your relationship.

According to research by psychologists at the Martin Luther University Halle-Wittenberg, poking fun at each other’s quirks is the secret to a healthy relationship.

The study found that couples who maintain healthy levels of banter between each other are more likely to experience boosts of physical attraction towards each other as well as a better sex life.

In fact, participants in the study who were comfortable roasting and being roasted by their partner “tended to be satisfied with their relationship and felt more attracted to their partner.”

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On the other hand, respondents who were scared of engaging in friendly banter with their partner were found to be less trusting of their respective partners.

Professor Jeffrey Hall from the University of Kansas also reviewed the importance of humour and inside jokes within relationships in a separate study.

After reviewing the findings of 39 studies of over 15,000 participants, Hall found that being able to laugh at each other’s expense can make your relationship stronger.

But there’s a catch – you need to know when to draw the line.

Although playfully roasting your partner can help affirm your relationship, things can take a turn for the worse if your partner becomes the butt of the joke.

“If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely you’ve seen that firsthand in your relationship,” Hall explained.

Well, there you have it.

Consider this permission to roast your partner tonight. Seriously, it’s for the best.

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