“My kids hate me because I divorced their father and I can’t tell them all the the horrible things he did to me, so I let them treat me like crap.”
Anyone who’s life has been affected by a divorce will find it hard not to be moved by this story from The Huffington Post.
The quote above is just one of several anonymous and heartbreaking confessions made my divorced parents about their feelings of guilt and shame about their kids and life post-break up.
Using a new, free app called Whisper these confessions reveal the raw side of life as a single parent and the real impact of divorce on children’s lives.
No two parents admissions are the same. Some miss the comfortable routine of family life and kissing their little children every night before bed.
Others are torn by the financial pressure of living life on one income and the impact that will have on heir children’s futures. And then there are the people who have found new love, but don’t know how to share the news.
Do you relate to this story? Are you a divorced parent? Or a child of divorce?
Top Comments
I know this is old but it popped up 'for me'. I wish there wasn't such negativity around divorce. My parents stayed together for the children and I wish they didn't. Most of my childhood family memories include every great day, special event and holiday ending with a fight and them blaming each other. I now blame them for making me nervous and overly eager to please people and make everyone happy at my own expense. I have an unnatural aversion to conflict and confrontation. They thought they were putting us first and doing what was right by staying together but the three of us are scarred by their relationship even though it was never violent towards each other or us. I don't think either of them cheated but they stopped being a couple long before I started making memories and that really should be acceptable and people shouldn't be made to feel guilty about that or that they failed because of it. My siblings and I think they failed by staying together. We could have been a much happier and successful family if they admitted their marriage was over. They are separated now, both have new partners and are happy but it's sad they wasted 15 years together causing us psychological damage before finding their happiness. Maybe it was worse for me because I was the youngest but I will never put my children through an unhappy marriage.
I wish my parents divorced and didn't expose myself and my sister to all the physical and verbal abuse! 33 years on still married still fighting and now we don't live at home to try and stop it just have to hope no one dies in the cross fire and try and keep it away from my kids. If I were my mum I would have rather my kids hated me for divorcing rather than growing up thinking that's what every family was like and that it's ok