My life is hectic, there is definitely no time for a relationship. When I say this to people, they often answer, if you met the right person, you would find/ make time.
Nope. I wouldn’t. There are literally not enough hours in the day.
I study full time and I volunteer with a few charities, each of which requires a 10 hour a week commitment – at least.
I also work a part-time job, which involves three 9 hour shifts at a pretty fast-paced bar and restaurant. I also like to sometimes be social and see my friends and family, wherever I can squeeze them in.
NSFW: I’m 28 years old, and last week I went on my very first date.
But like everyone, I enjoy the sexy times on occasion, and would like someone to cuddle with me on the couch and watch Netflix.
Sure, I could go out drinking and score a drunken one night stand which will inevitably lead to unsatisfying sex, dirty sheets and a dip in self respect. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
And then there’s Tinder, where you can effectively dial-a-dick, instant message a stranger, who can turn up at your house in half an hour, and leave in less time. But, it seems to make everything seem a bit sanitary. There is no wooing, everything is just out on the table.
I could have given up. I nearly did.
But then this week, I stumbled upon a delightful new sexual option: the Overnight Boyfriend.
It happened like this:
A few years ago, I was at a particularly rowdy university party, with a $10,000 bar tab, celebrating the end of the year. Needless to say, I was a little tipsy, shall we say. I met a boy, we exchanged numbers and a kiss. Then he moved to Sydney.
Love me Tinder: A week dating on social media.
We kept in contact, and it just so happens that I’m in Sydney for two weeks for a fab internship. We decided to catch up, have dinner, and a cheeky sleep over.
He came over to my borrowed apartment and cooked us a lovely vegan dinner. We drank a few glasses of some Captain Morgan that we found hidden away, and he gave me a back rub. We watched some TV and cuddled.
Then we went to bed and it was lovely.
We cuddled in bed, and then gave me a kiss as he went off to work in the morning, after saying “I might never see you again”. The end.
And to be completely honest, I’m perfectly happy with that. With just leaving it be.
It was nice for one night, to have an ‘Overnight Boyfriend’ – because honestly, I don’t have time for anything else.
So perhaps this is what 21st century dating is ultimately headed for. And I’m ok with it.
Top Comments
I think the point of the article is that even people outside of relationships want that connection sometimes, and for some, intimacy is found in one night stands, and for others (like the author), something a little more connected fills the spot. I think everyone's busy and whatever, but I guess the point is that despite out schedules we are all looking to connect. Maybe not every day or even with the same person consistently. So you might not like vegan dinners or the use of the phrase 'too busy', but look past that to what she's actually saying.
The author clearly doesn't subscribe to the whole "call a spade a spade" notion.
If it makes you feel better to call him an "overnight boyfriend", then good for you, but this is just a one night stand. Or as some people call it, a "F%^& buddy" relationship.
There's nothing wrong with a once night stand as long as you're both consenting adults and you practise safe sex. There's nothing wrong with "F$%^ buddy" relationships either - I've had one myself on 2 separate occasions.
We all have needs. Good for you fulfilling them, but let's not sugar coat it or make it into something it isn't.