It’s a single mother’s worst nightmare: the idea of a man faking a romantic interest in her to access her children. So he can sexually abuse them.
This is the latest technique being used by pedophiles and Australian police have issued a formal warning to single mothers.
They’re urging single mothers to limit the amount of personal information they put on the internet.
Don’t mention your single-mother status in online dating profiles, they warn, because predators are using this to identify and ‘groom’ vulnerable women and molest their children.
The warning comes after the arrest of a 55-year-old man – a senior public servant – who travelled from the ACT to Brisbane to have sex with a 13 year old girl.
Police say the man knew of the girl because he’d spoken to her mother on a dating website.
In this case, it wasn’t a ‘mother’ at all but a fake profile set up by undercover authorities designed to bait and lure after a sharp rise in cases of this kind.
This is an interview Mamamia’s former News Editor Rick Morton did with Detective Inspector Jon Rouse about a similar case he was involved in.
Detective Inspector Rouse is the Officer in Charge of Queensland Police’s Taskforce Argos, an online crime-fighting squad of 30 active officers who trawl the net for pedophiles and predators.
Q: You’ve recently dealt with a horrifying case involving online dating?
A: That’s correct. We received a tip-off from our international agencies that a man was molesting a little girl under the age of 10. They thought she might be from Queensland. The referral relied on identifying features in photographs taken of the little girl. They might be things like a distinctive Hills Hoist clothesline, or a certain type of tree. We worked on those details and managed to find the location of where this was taking place. We moved straight away and arrested the man and removed the girl from harm’s way.
Q: How did the man find the girl?
A: This is the horrible part, particularly for the mother of the girl. She was a single mother who wanted to get back into dating and had set up an online profile on a dating site. And you can’t blame her for that. You don’t have to pay for many of them [to set up a profile] and what better way to meet people if you have kids and you don’t go out as much. Unfortunately, we know there are whole groups of predators out there who trawl these profiles looking for women who advertise they have children. And, you know, that makes sense for the mother to be upfront about having kids because that would be a central part of any relationship she may form.
Q: What happened next?
A: The man was from New Zealand. He had a conviction over there for molesting his own daughter. He came to Australia, met this woman online and forged a relationship with her. But he wasn’t interested in her at all. Unfortunately by the time we received our leads and found the house there were a number of photos – about 15 to 20 images – circulating through predator groups around the world. The mother was absolutely devastated. Just devastated. She blamed herself, of course, but really these predators are very, very good at what they do. And we’re not just talking about the clinical definition of paedophiles here. There is a very specific definition of a paedophile that relates to someone who exclusively preys on children. In this case the NZ man, and others who trawl these sites, are preferential child sex offenders and not strictly paedophiles. They can have sexual relations with an adult quite easily, but they do it to get to their prime target, which is the children in those relationships.
Q: It would be very easy to see this as a reason to just shut the computer and never try online dating after hearing that…
A: I suppose it would but I really don’t want to cause alarm or panic. I just want people to be aware that an ounce of prevention in these cases really does go a long way. For instance, just put your basic info only on your dating profile. Put yourself out there but don’t mention your kids. If someone genuinely likes you for you then you can think about taking the next step and letting them know about your children if you have them. If you tell them nothing about children these groups will likely not target your profile. Really, this goes for any type of social networking including Facebook and the like. These things should really be locked down. For most people they will never come to any trouble online but I work in the taskforce every day that deals with the worst case scenarios, and I don’t want them to happen to anybody.
Taskforce Argos is a dedicated taskforce with detectives who hunt sex offenders online. They pose as children to identify them and also as other sex offenders to infiltrate their networks. Though based in Queensland, Taskforce Argos has no borders, just like the Internet. It chases leads wherever they go, including internationally. So far this year the Taskforce has made 85 arrests on 275 charges.
You can download the Who’s Chatting to Our Kids? brochure from the Queensland Police here.
Top Comments
Oh, I see. So now, every lonely man who shows an interest in a single mother is automatically suspect. In a decent society, Rouse would be sacked for making such a suggestion, not acclaimed and rewarded.
Every time I see a man glared at for playing with his grand kids, every time I see a mans life ruined by false allegations, every time I hear of a mans suicide, then I think of people like Rouse and his colleagues. They are the blunt instrument of those who have contaminated society with so much misery, hatred and mistrust.
Others might regard them as heroes, but not me.
Detective Rouse was merely addressing questions put forward to him and stating the facts. He even said that he didn't want people to panic but to be aware.
He wasn't generalising but more cautioning women to be careful about exposing their children to potential harm. Yes, it is very sad that we live in a society where children are exploited and taken advantage of but again this is a reality and a fact. It's sad too that men in general are sometimes given are bad wrap and treated with more suspicion but statistics show that it's males who are in the vast majority of offending. This story was not about glorifying the detective, it was about alerting women to a risk, that can come with online dating and social media. My best friends 7yo daughter was repeatedly sexually abused by her partner/fiance and NO they weren't false allegations. She met him at work, not online. She loved him and trusted him wholeheartedly. In a decent society, we wouldn't need to worry at all, we could be more trusting but unfortunately, this cannot be. You can't imagine the damage that is done to a victim of sexual abuse, permanent damage and oftentimes irreparable.
What also really bothers me is that in many cases, as with my friend's daughter, the offender was never charged, due to a lack of physical evidence and now I know he is living in a different state with another woman and has had at least one child with her. I can only hope from afar that, that child is safe. I don't subscribe to fear-mongering but hey we have to look out for our kids.
I accept the fact that there are some individuals who are a danger to children, as has always been the case. What I cannot stomach is this sickening mindset that all men are in that category - an opinion that is encouraged by Task Force Argos and their media platform. If you have some kind of starry-eyed view of these people, then perhaps you should talk to a man named Chris Illingworth. They charged him for simply viewing a YouTube video of a father playfully swinging his baby, who was laughing and smiling - a video which was repeatedly shown on TV. Argos knew this, but they wanted to chalk up another scalp, so they exploited the fact that censorship classifications are tougher on the Internet. They cared not one jot about destroying an innocent mans life, and only backed off when the DPP withdrew the charges. They behave like this for two reasons - firstly because they can, and secondly because it feeds the current political view that men are inherently bad; a view which is a despicable lie. That is the kind of people they are.
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