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"I want all the perks of maternity leave - without having any kids."

 

Arguments about maternity leave have been raging on for years.

But there’s a new debate gaining speed over one woman’s struggle for “meternity” leave – and it’s not pretty.

Author Meghann Foye has argued that childfree women should be given time off work to pursue their personal goals, saying expectant mothers get an unfair advantage.

In a NY Post piece entitled “I want all the perks of maternity leave – without having any kids,” Foye writes that new mothers enjoy a “socially mandated time and space for self-reflection”that non-mothers may never experience.

"It seemed that parenthood was the only path that provided a modicum of flexibility," she writes, reflecting on her experiences as a busy magazine editor.

"There’s something about saying 'I need to go pick up my child' as a reason to leave the office on time that has far more gravitas than, say, 'My best friend just got ghosted by her OkCupid date and needs a margarita' — but both sides are valid."

She therefore proposes that "women and, to a lesser degree, men" should be allowed "meternity," which she defines as "a sabbatical-like break... to shift their focus to the part of their lives that doesn’t revolve around their jobs."

Perhaps unsurprisingly, Foye has faced severe criticism from parents, who are quick to point out that maternity leave is not a luxury holiday or a journey of self-discovery.

"This is LUDICROUS! Maternity leave is not a time of self reflection and "me" time. It is the exact opposite of that," one commenter wrote.

"This article is insulting to every working parent," another weighed in.

"Leaving work on time because you have a human being dependent on you for their continued survival, and leaving work on time because your friend is kind of sad and wants to party are most definitely not equally valid," yet another said.

A few brave readers defended Foye.

"I pity my co-workers who don't have kids... when they have to pick up the slack--and let's be brutally honest here, they absolutely do--at work when the rest of us 'just have to get home to the kids'," one wrote. "The sour grapes in this thread seem to come from people who want to be treated like deities because they made the very self-centered decision to perpetuate their genetic lines."

"As a mother of two, now 25 and 28 YO adults, I support this article," another writes. "If we are serious about decreasing healthcare costs, we need to take a more comprehensive look at just how much our work lives impact our health."

 

Foye, who recently published a novel called Meternity was scheduled to appeared on Good Morning America yesterday, but backed out after she faced overwhelming criticism over her ideas, The Daily Mail reports.

Good Morning American anchor Amy Robach announced: "There has been so much backlash about her comments, viewers across the country [have been] weighing in on this all night long."

What do you think about the concept of "meternity leave"?

Feature photo: Twitter

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Jenny Dee 8 years ago

"Perks" of motherhood? Let me tell you, it ain't no walk in the park. Its the hardest job in the world. If ML wasn't available no one would have kids. There ain't no peaceful tea or lunch breaks, no 5pm finish, no sick days or lazy days. Its 24/7 365 days a year & you dont have a break on the weekend or holidays. You're working all day, everyday. For me, work was so much easier....I know mothers who work for a break from motherhood! ML is a necessity not a privledge so why should people have an extra break without having a baby, a baby is work. Full stop 😊


Jenny Dee 8 years ago

"Perks" of maternity leave? Sista please, it ain't no walk in the park, if we didn't have maternity leave no one would have kids because believe me its the hardest job in the world. No tea break, no free lunch time, no 5pm finish! No calling in sick & having a day off. Sorry but work was way easier & when you have a holiday you don't have a break at all. Ain't no such thing as a break on holiday for a mother or any time for that matter, its 24/7, 365 days a year. There has to ibe something for new mothers, I dont think its a privilege at all. Its very much needed!