Should you change your name when you get married? Candice is weighing up her decision.
Welcome to Best and Worst – a space for the Mamamia community to share what’s happening in their lives.
If you’re new to this segment, this is how it works. I’ll kick-off the celebrations, debates, bemoaning and queries by sharing the best and worst bits of my week. And then it’s over to you.
Best
This week marks my last six months as someone’s fiancé. That’s right, in November of this year I will marry my partner Nathan – and let me exercise my bridal right here to use such clichés as ‘The One.’
If you haven’t clicked away after that display of emotion, here’s my worst.
Worst
I’m still feeling conflicted about the name changer. I have always been quite certain that I would keep my (already double barrelled) surname, though all of a sudden I’m not so sure.
There are those of us that will change our names, those that won’t. Those that will agonise over their decision and still others that won’t blink an eyelid. Some will feel as if they are losing their identity and some will gain an identity. Then there are those who will opt for the double barrel and even some who will outright pick and choose shiny new surnames.
And I’m not so sure which of those categories I fall into just yet – if any. Which did you choose? Or which do you find yourself gravitating towards?
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Top Comments
Its a very personal and individual decision. This modern age it is not as expected as it was and i completely understand why women like to keep their original surnames, especially for professional reasons.
For myself I was looking forward to taking my husbands name. I am one of 3 daughters who were all very happy to take a name that removed us from our father and his history. Our mother also remarried and took another name so she was never a consideration for keeping our family name. I also liked the idea of starting a new life with a new name. I have step children also and felt closer to them in a way that is hard to explain. When we all had the same name, I didn't feel as much as an outsider any more. Its just a name I know but it is something that evokes certain emotions so it is a decision that is often ruled by emotional reasoning.
Best of luck, your decision need not be made straight away. If after the wedding you decide a few months or even years down the track you can always change it then.
Best- school workbooks came home. Such a huge improvement on term 1 i am so proud of my gorgeous boy!!
after 2 years i no longer feel uncomfortable at school, its not the other mums, its me. Well not anymore😊
worst- feels like a coldsore is coming....
omm. I got an electric shock today by smelling a rose. Nose has been sore since! Is this really possible though??