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This could be a game-changer for cancer patients.

 

Diary of the Dying

By ANA FERGUSON

 

“I’m sorry, it’s cancer. We can’t do anything.”

Those words change you. Your life as you know is gone, over, kaput. If you’ve ever heard those words roll off a doctor’s tongue, you know exactly what it feels like in the core of your being. You know that physical retching in your throat.

Now, let’s roll out the next steps from here on this haunted house of cancer diagnosis. Our thoughts automatically take us to the worst case scenario. “That’s it – I have cancer! I am dying! It’s all over!” And it’s not just you. Friends and family automatically go into whispering “Poor Ana, she has cancer you know – did you know she’s dying?”

Your medical support team are legally bound to tell you the worst case scenario so you get given your ‘statistics’. You are thrown onto the cancer rollercoaster, you go from test to test, machine to machine, and from results to results. Every time you open a magazine, turn the TV on or play Nosey Nelly and listen in to the conversation next to you in the cafe – without a doubt you will comes across the word ‘cancer’. It’s everywhere. Cancer is our modern day plague – 1 in 2 will have to deal with it in their lives.

Now, let’s think about how we humans operate. We have a sad need to focus on all the things mad and bad in the world. We love observing negativity, we thrive on misfortune and the media is constantly feeding our insatiable appetites for all things miserable. We just lurrrv that worst case scenario. Now, you go and do the mandatory research on cancer, start Googling your chances, and all you can see is you 6 feet under in 6 months, with a quality of life in that time you can only really describe as ‘shitty’.

But what can we really do, when our darling doctors can only give us so much help? And we can only access so much information? The oncologists are only offering us what they have been told by the health department that they can offer us. They may or may not get rid of your cancer, but they too have their hands tied. 

So. I want to dare you to think about cancer differently. Cancer didn’t just happen; something in your lifestyle or your genetics or your diet or your environment brought it into your life. It’s your body, but then you have to give away all the control over your body to a team of doctors. I don’t know about you, but I want to take responsibility for caring for my own body, it makes me feel like I’m actively involved in my own treatment.

So here’s what I’ve got for you.

DRUM ROLL PLEASE.

Welcome to the Life Room.

It’s a cancer lifestyle program developed by cancer patients for cancer patients. LIFE ROOM is a series of online and weekend seminar events covering Body, Mind and Soul Medicine designed to empower individuals to take control of their lives and give them thew tools to get the best possible outcome for them. Let’s face it, having cancer is a shitty deal. By learning the Life Room Living With Cancer Program you can honestly make a difference to how you #docancer or #livewithcancer.

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Ana Ferguson is 44 years old. She’s got 4 kids. And she’s dying.

She has stage four breast cancer, and she doesn’t know how long she’s got left on this planet – but lucky for us, she wants to spend some of that precious time writing.

So, we’re bringing you Diary of the Dying. A place where Ana will share her fears, her days, and her astonishingly candid thoughts on life and death. We’re honoured that she came to us with this idea, and so excited to publish her words.

Every single person reading this will be touched by cancer, in some way. This series is for them. It’s for everyone who’s lost someone. It’s for those who have gone. And, most of all, it’s for Ana.

This is Ana’s third post for Mamamia. 

Ana Kitson Ferguson is a Mother or 4, Wife, and jack of all trades Blogger, Wellness Advisor, Integrated Medicine Cancer Advocate, Cancer Treatment Researcher, Business Woman and has been living life to fullest with Stage 4 Breast Cancer for the last 3 years. Ana shares her story through her blog and provides cancer consulting as well as recommended products that assist her in her day to day dance. For more information go to www.savingana.com 

 

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antipop 10 years ago

My dear friend was diagnosed a few weeks ago with ovarian cancer. She just found out she is stage four and it's terminal. I am devastated. I thought I would be better at handling it but I don't know what to say or do.

Ana Kitson 10 years ago

Just be there for her.xx and encourage her to look outside the square and take control of her cancer. Get copies of bloods, reports, learn how to read the scans and make sure she is happy with her oncologist. If not find one you are happy with. This is her life and no one will fight for it harder than herself xxx


Madeleine Nixon 10 years ago

I can't wait to read Diary of the Dying. Ana what an inspiration you are!!
Everyone has a cancer story.. I have 2. My uncle died of bowel cancer in 2007, sadly he left behind a wife, an 18yo son, a 13yo daughter, a 7yo son, a 4yo son and a farm with no life insurance. Every year we hold a fundraising event on the weekend closest to his anniversary, we play cricket on an old cricket pitch on the farm and raise funds for cancer. It's a very special day for us all!
I turned 21, 4 days ago and earlier this year I found 4 lumps in my breasts, these I have had ultrasounded and core biopsied and are currently binine although with breast cancer in the family I am at a high risk. I have undergone ultrasounds for the first 2 lots of 3 months and will now have them checked every 6 months. The positive thing is I'm glad I found them - I never thought of looking and didn't really know what I was looking for but I found something and now I might always be one step ahead!