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It’s such an age old question. And everybody is probably thinking ‘well, duh, how offensive, of course we can be’ and ‘we are humans with intelligent brains capable of divorcing our emotions and so on’.
But not so fast. An independent film maker decided to ask the folks at his university what their thoughts were. Men and women.
And his results were, well, very one-sided:
Hmm. Do you agree? Can men and women really be friends?
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I don't understand why you can't be friends with someone you have feelings for? I have three bestie's one woman and two men. The first Man tried to hook up with me at the same time as I was trying to hook up with the man who is now my partner (of 17 years), whether or not he got over the sexual feelings I don't know but he has had a number of girlfriends since and we are still very close. The other man is married to a gorgeous woman and has a beautiful kid (my partner and I have three). We have acknowledged that at a different time and in a different place we would be more than friends, but we are both people who believe in the sanctity of our relationships and as such have decided to be mates. there is no denying the sexual tension, it's there, but it's fun and it goes nowhere, and we are good mates. My partner is also friends with both of these men.
I think that the premise that sexual tension precludes friendship is questionable. Maybe not when you are 18 and away at uni, but when you are 30+ and realise there is more to life than sex, friendship is do-able even where sexual tension exists. (We are not base animals after all)
Interesting idea for a doco... although it is obvious what the maker what the maker had in mind to achieve when you can here his comments in the background! LOL!
Still nice and thought provoking! I think you really have to go with your gut feel and I think Men and Women can be friends platonically - which I think probably only works if there is no "lust" involved.
I have a really good guy friend that I met at uni. My partner (now husband) has never had issues with him (my husband also has good female friends). In fact, after increasingly being frustrated by my close female friends, who make little effort to see or include me in conversation now that they have children (and I'm shock horror waiting a few more years to start a family... which appears to make me no longer a desirable friend) I am looking at trying to make more friends - male or female!