Caring for a newborn is hard enough. Doing it while fighting for your life is a whole different story.
Mairead Moulder discovered a lump in her breast when she was about four months pregnant with her second child. When her doctor told her it was just a blocked milk duct, she put the lump to the back of her mind.
It wasn’t until her newborn daughter Neave’s six-week check-up that another doctor indicated it could be much more serious. And it was.
It was breast cancer.
Two surgeries and almost eight months of chemotherapy later, Mairead is cancer-free. But the road wasn’t an easy one, especially with a toddler and a newborn.
Mairead, now 35, said chemotherapy was “as rough as you hear about” and she would spend eight days in bed after each session.
She felt guilty for not wanting to play with her son because she was so tired and feeling like she wasn’t there for her baby. But she knew they were in good hands as her family stepped up and helped her in her time of need.
Mairead said having her hands full with the kids was “probably a good distraction from it all”.
“I’ve only just started to process what I went through – with all the appointments and looking after the kids, I didn’t have time to sit and dwell on it,” she told Mamamia.
“People comment on my positivity, but I had to do it for my kids and family. I thought if I want to live and watch my children grow up, I need to do what I have to do.
“Losing my hair was probably the hardest part of the whole thing – it was when I felt most exposed.
“It was probably worse than my cancer diagnosis. When I had the cancer and surgery, no one knew about it, but when you have lost all your hair, you feel so exposed.”
Mairead said she had amazing support from her breast care nurse, Natalie.
She said some of the doctor’s appointments were overwhelming, but Natalie would answer all her and her family’s questions afterwards. She visited her in hospital and provided her with the things she would need before Mairead knew she would need them.
But Australia has a critical shortage of breast care nursing services nationally. It is expected to reach a shortfall of 109 nurses by 2020, research released by the McGrath Foundation today, on their 10th anniversary, reveals.
“Not only do breast care nurses support the patient and their families, they also reduce the burden on the health system by limiting unnecessary admissions to emergency departments and supporting oncologists and surgeons in their treatment of patients,” Macquarie University Professor John Boyages said.
And Natalie is continuing to support Mairead in the final part of her journey, her decision to have a preventative double mastectomy.
“I’m doing it just for my own piece of mind – I don’t know if I could go through that again,” Mairead said.
She said she is looking forward to what the future holds, including “growing some hair”.
“I’ll never complain about a bad hair day again.”
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Breast care nurses are critical however, so is the importance of actually understanding what imaging is available and how important it is to diagnose EARLY. Go and have a quality mammogram (not those awful Breast Screen ones - take it from someone in healthcare, your GP and her daughters are highly unlikely to be going to Breast Screen - so why should it be good enough for their patients? It's not) in a specialist breast centre, where they actually do all the imaging and biopsy if required on the day. Breast cancer shouldn't be diagnosed late, if you think your GP is being laisez-faire with YOUR health, insist on a referral for diagnostic breast imaging and go to a quality imaging provider. An early diagnosis can avoid the need for any adjuvant treatment, just surgery, no chemo or radiotherapy, which has a huge impact on quality of recovery. Don't be frightened of breast cancer, take control of it!
Admittedly, I have my mammograms done at a specialist centre and am happy to pay the substantial gaps to do so. Unfortunately, some women may not have the money to pay the large gaps involved. I used to think Breast Screen was good, until a recent stuff up in South Australia, where the films were misread and women were given the 'all clear' when in fact they had tumours. It was the arrogant attitude of the Director of Breast Screen which put me off them for good. She stood up on television and brushed the whole scandal off as a minor hiccup.
Breast Screen is absolutely better than nothing, better than no mammogram at all. But is that the principle we should apply to our consumption decisions for our health? 'Better than nothing'? It drives me spare the way people look at large gaps for healthcare as 'gouging', when in any other service industry, prices are understood to relate to quality. Sure, you can get your hair done at Just Cuts. But it's probably going to be a bit better done at a more expensive salon. And that's just your hair, what about when it's your life??!?
Of course Breast Screen are better than nothing, I am only disillusioned with them after the big stuff up in South Australia. I am quite happy to pay for gaps, just as I receive no Medicare rebate for breast MRIs as I am over 50, but I know plenty of people who feel they shouldn't have to pay anything extra towards their health care.
Excuse me,but some people just don't have the money and genuinely can't afford it!
These people can't afford Just Cuts- they trim and colour their hair themselves!
Get off your high-horse!