Happy Friday and welcome to one of the most popular posts of the week. It’s time to reflect on what’s happened during your week – the good, the bad and the in-between. Sharing is caring and for several years now, Mamamia readers have been gathering here on a Friday and over the weekend to trade highs and lows, celebrate and commiserate.
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BEST: I finally booked a holiday that had been in the works for months! Sigh. Of. Relief. The irony of planning a ‘relaxing’ holiday is that for me, the whole process is anything but relaxing. Suddenly my life revolves around putting together the perfect itinerary, worrying over hotel costs and stressing about how much money I’ll have to buy shoes. Thankfully, the hardest part is now over. I can now relax until the second wave of stress hits me when the departure date arrives. In the past, the departure day has gone something like this: Arriving at the airport 5 hours before check-in? Check. Forgotten my passport? Check. Yep, there’s a reason why I worry.
WORST: I started compiling a bucket list recently. I’m only 20, so I have at least a few decades before I have a mid-life crisis and do something drastic like get a spontaneous tattoo or plastic surgery. My bucket list started off with a few solid things like ‘travel away from home for more than 6 months’ and ‘not die until I have accomplished something wonderful and worthwhile’ but by the end of the (very short) list, I had included things like ‘have a cool Wikipedia page about myself’ and ‘learn every word to Nicki Minaj’s raps’. This led to some serious life evaluation and considering the fact that maybe, I need to get some better dreams.
On My Mind (OMM): Gay Marriage. I really can’t believe we are still having this ‘debate’ – if that’s what I must call it – in the 21st century. I say this because I thought we threw conservatism out the window when we started giving elite celebrity status to people like Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian for releasing sex tapes. Pop culture essentially says, “Sexuality! Embrace it! Kim Kardashian is doing it, so we all should be!” But when the question pops up of WHO we’re doing it with, suddenly it becomes an issue.
Whitney Higginson is a part-time journalism student and full-time internet stalker (and intern at Mamamia). When she’s not doing any of these things, she’s blogging.
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WORST:
- Feeling mixed emotions towards my husband (who I'm currently separated from) despite me being the one to leave him. Pathetic! Not having the self respect to put up boundaries with him & instead keep putting up with his crap.
- Having every man and his dog constantly judging me. :-( It's getting depressing and really overwhelming ppl telling me how I should be living my life. FFS! Try walking in my shoes for 5 minutes!
BEST:
- I'm baking myself a Donna Hay choc brownie slice (comfort food heaven!) and I'm going to eat it all myself too. :P
- My husband managed to go a whole 7 days without calling me a bitch or a c*nt. Yay!
- Apparently, I'm a shit mother for putting my child in kindy. Who knew?! Ppl who aren't even parents themselves feel the strong desire to judge me and tell me how rubbish I am as a mother for putting her in kindy. Makes me feel like sh!t.
OMM: Marriage. Does it ever really last? Is it actually possible for two human beings to be married to the same person for 4o odd years and still love them all those decades later (while remaining faithful to each other)??? The current cover of one of the women's mags out now shows Michael Clarke & his new wife Kyly Boldy with the large title "why our love is forever". Now they really are a good looking couple and I'm so happy for him after the Lara Bingle drama he went through, however that title on the magazine cover really made me dry wretch. No one's love is forever. OK I know I'm cynical because I've just separated from my husband but really - love just doesn't seem to last anymore. So sad. :(
I'm sure they didn't come up with that title themselves, but I agree it's totally vomit worthy. It makes it sound like every other newlywed couple only thinks their love will last for a few years, but that they're actually reeeeally in love, much more so than other couples. No one knows what will happen in the future! Feelings change, situations change - if it didn't, no one would ever divorce!
I'm on your cynical boat. I had my heart broken and although I have found many wonderful men afterwards, I haven't ever loved/been in love with like I was with my ex. And even though we had such an incredible love and joyous relationship, it still ended - so who the f*** knows what kind of relationship actually lasts!!
I'm starting to think people just find something "good enough" and then make the decision to stick it out - the decision (and not the love) being the difference between it lasting or not.
Hey there. Going through separation/divorce too. I totally get everything you are saying here. Hang in there. I know it's tough and some days I wonder whether it is going to be worth it...but I know deep in my heart the answer is yes. We're doing the hard yards now. I'll raise my glass to you and you can raise yours to me! Cheers xxx