Goals are a funny thing. When you’re sitting in bed on Sunday pinned between a pizza box and a 2L bottle of Pepsi, beginning your 17th episode of Antiques Roadshow, goals are the only thing getting you through.
This is the week I change it all, you think to yourself. I’m heading back to the gym, I’m kicking my burrito habit, and I’m going to….I’m going to create a multi-million dollar app!
Celebrities who have low self esteem.
Serena WilliamsThe tennis champion told Oprah Winfrey that, as a child, she “always tried to be Venus” — her elder sister and fellow tennis superstar, Venus Williams. Nicole ScherzingerThe former Pussycat Dolls star, told VH1's "Behind the Music, "I hated myself. I really was so disgusted with myself and so embarrassed. I felt so alone. I was in a group, and I never felt so alone in my life.” Mariah CareyThe powerhouse vocalist told Allure Magazine, “I have had very low self-esteem my whole life. Jennifer LopezShe told E online, "I was always thinking that people didn’t like me, they just hated me…It’s such a ridiculous notion, we tend to do this to ourselves." Christina Ricci“For years, I hated myself. I covered the mirrors in my house. I literally couldn’t have a mirror in my room." she told Contactmusic. Amanda SeyfriedIn an interview with the UK edition of Glamour she said, "I still do get terribly nervous, and that’s partly due to the fact I think too much and overanalyze things." Adele"I'm scared of audiences," she told Rolling Stone. "One show in Amsterdam I was so nervous, I escaped out the fire exit." Ellie GouldingThe singer suffers anxiety attacks telling Cosmo, "I was so scared I reached over to this woman and said, ‘I think I’m dying,'”
So what does this mean? Break down your goals into achievable, bite-size pieces. The accumulation of small wins will eventually snowball into larger wins that’ll get you where you need to be.
For example, a larger goal of running a marathon can be broken down into small goals of five kilometres, then eight kilometres and so on. Celebrating these smaller wins will encourage you to keep push forward. It’s all about perspective.
The same thing goes for saving money. Looking at the overall goal – let’s say you’re saving for a new car – feels impossible. How the hell are you going to rustle up thousands of dollars? Break it down. Figure out what you can save each month, each week, each day. All those little penny-pinching moments will really add up.
“Eventually, in aggregate, you get there,” Cuddy explains.
“You may not even realise it, until one day you turn around say ‘Wow, this thing is much easier for me now than it was a year ago.'”
Tara Moss talks to Mamamia about setting goals and working towards them slowly. (Post continues after audio.)
However, allowing yourself to be overcome with dread and anxiety when reviewing the ‘big goal’ is often enough to put people off trying in the first place.
“Too often we approach our lives’ biggest hurdles with dread, execute them with anxiety, and leave them with regret,” says Amy in her book, Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges.
“Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behaviour, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives.”
There’s a reason that babies must crawl before they walk! (No, not just to give their kneecaps time to develop. It’s a METAPHOR.)
So there you go. Next time you’re preparing your long list of hungover, ‘This Week I Will…’ goals, think small. Maybe it all begins with subbing out your 2L bottle of Pepsi with a glass of water instead.
We all need to start somewhere…
Do you set yourself unrealistic goals?