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by MIA FREEDMAN

Sometimes, I just want to punch myself in the face. Do you know that feeling? When you’re bitching inside your head about something – some travesty, some gross injustice or inconvenience – and then you kind of overhear yourself and realise that you’re on crack.

Like the time I was driving to work and was grumbling – possibly out loud to my children (the voice sometimes escapes from my head) – that the steering wheel was freezing. So cold. Like, freeeeeezing.

And almost immediately, as the words came out of my mouth, I tried to stuff them back in because I realised what an almightly privileged complaint a cold steering wheel was. I was driving to work. In a car. To a job. That I loved.

First World Problem. Major.

In fact a cold steering wheel may just be a First Class Problem.

Then this week, I was grumbling to myself because my parents have been away and are too jet lagged and busy with work to help out with my kids this week.

FIRST WORLD PROBLEM. I have parents. They”re happy and healthy and have been on holidays. My children are happy and healthy and I NEED TO GET OVER MYSELF AND REMEMBER THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE TO WALK 50km FOR WATER EVERY DAY SO THEY CAN BOIL SOME DIRT TO EAT.

Shame on me.

And yet I find the actual act of speaking your first world problem aloud – or even consciously identifying it as a FWP, is a wonderful thing for perspective, for gratitude, for a reality check.

Like pressing the reset button.

First World Problems

OK – your turn. What’s your First World Problem (FWP)?

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501 Comments so far

  1. Katia

    That my freshly painted walls in our newly purchased home are a slight yellow colour and I wanted antique white – what a horrible place it will be to live in :-)

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  2. Treez

    I dont like the way the cleaner makes my bed. I know this makes me spoilt rotten but it ruins the buzz of coming home to a clean tidy house. FWP.
    Slap me now!

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  3. gillian

    wi fi doesn’t reach to the lounge room, where we have a brilliant combustion stove roaring, so I have to sit in the freezing dining room to work/play.

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  4. By Estella Dot Com

    As an Asian migrant, I feel so privileged to be living in this country that I have no “first world problems.” My only problems relate to people here who don’t realise theirs are first world problems.

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  6. lulutz

    After having lived in many 3rd world countries and the last being Africa, I never complain about anything in Oz, we take so much for granted, take time to think that others have it worse, we are in the lucky country. Last night friends of mine were finally given there freedom, rejoice for what we have in Oz.

    Debbie Calitz and Bruno Pelizzari, had been grabbed by pirates in October 2010 off the Tanzanian coast. They are now free as of today.

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  7. Guest

    Getting frustrated at not being able to hold my chopsticks properly to eat my salmon sashimi because I just had a manicure… I stopped, laughed at my ridiculousness and instantly thought of this post.

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  8. Daisy

    I was trying to go to sleep with the help of my rainmaker app but there was a noise drowning it out. It was rain.

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  10. Chelsea

    when someone has fiddled with the toaster at the Qantas Club and my raison toast has to either go through 5 times to get any colour, or is incinerated on the first run though . . . .

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  11. Anonymous

    My boyfriend is too hot. It makes me feel guilty that I don’t look as good as him naked! Not that he seems to agree…:)

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  12. Heavenly Hev

    True Blood Season 5 is on iTunes but I don’t have any credit left until payday tomorrow, AND
    My iPad is full of Game of Thrones so I can’t download TB5 until I’ve watched GoT anyway

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  13. Anon Today

    no-one cares what I know

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  14. maggie

    Having to put a cold bra on in the morning after coming out of my heaven of a toasty bed!

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  15. FWP -

    I only have heated tiles in one room of my house… It’s so annoying when I leave my slippers in my room and my warm feet get cold on my way there.

    This was one thought process I had this week… Now that you bring it to my attention.. I feel like such a spoiled creature that needs to go bang her head against some walls to knock some sense into me.

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  16. rosie

    one of my works is closing so im going to have to find a second second job.

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  17. the Original Camille

    this just about covers it.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2p5svFJ9cQ

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  18. Mrs Heaton

    I really need to get my roots done. I look like a skunk. I don’t want to leave the house, it is so shameful, but my hairdresser is flat out til next week! Total FWP. See you in a week.

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  19. Anon

    My aunt said the other day at her holiday house ‘we bought eggs but now I can’t remember for which kitchen?’ they have self contained guest houses for relatives and friends – and then she laughed and said ‘oh how ridiculous that sounded – my middle class woes!’
    She writes books about the Holocaust and grew up in a house with three other families who survived the concentration camps so she is very aware of FWP!

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  20. Kate

    That I get to work from home with husband and 2 kids (21 months and 4) and he drives me mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  21. Jenna

    It is Offspring night and my mother has the ORDASITY to be out, so I’ll have to watch it alone. Can you even imagine??

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    • elli

      *audacity

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      • Jenna

        I knew that was wrong but was too lazy to google the correct spelling. Stupidity through laziness = definite FWP.

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        • Hobit (deliberate)

          Feeling a need to correct it? FWP

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  22. Maree

    I don’t exactly have a FWB, but I am so damn happy that it’s offspring Wednesday that I actually did a mini fist pump when it dawned on me. it also helps that I also made it ‘pancakes with caramel sauce Offspring Wednesday’ a few weeks ago. mmmmm

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  23. kateb

    My father has torn a muscle in his leg and expects me to do all his shopping, washing and transport him around, I have retired and have a life.

    BUT HE IS 87, still has his mind and a sense of humour and I should be extremely happy he is still in my life.

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  24. Alice

    I’m staying rent free at my mum’s until I go travelling OS and I can never get the shower temperature quite right. If only I could demand decreased rent for my hardship.

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  25. Genevieve

    horrible COOK***

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  26. Genevieve

    My Mum still cooks my dinner and does mu laundry… but she is horrible hook and has a tendency to destroy my clothes

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  27. Katie

    the decor in my open plan living dining area is UNRESOLVED! OMG! This is 1 year after we have SURVIVED RENOVATING (but not doing any of the dirty work ourselves). Now we have a beautiful BABY so I feel it is a bit pointless to get new cushions, rug etc because they will get saliva and vomit and drinks and food all over them. Major FWPs.

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  28. c

    Why is it that the Perfect Italiano parmesan block is always on sale and never the Mil Lel?

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    • fifi-lulu

      I feel your pain!

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  29. Bek

    I was unfriended by someone on Facebook that I didnt even like

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  30. Eva

    I get uber agitated with my mum when she constantly asks me how to spell such simple words (that I know she already knows!) like ‘call’ or ‘missed’ in a text to her friends. I feel like telling myself, ‘She just wants to learn a language that you have been lucky to have known all your life, stupid girl!’
    Major FWP…sorry mum, you know I love you!

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  31. Spacey

    Having to go + collect the shoes I bought online from the post office because I was not home to receive them… what a pain.

    I agree identifying things as a FWP is a great reality check.

    I am so lucky, great hubby, terrific toddler, a job that is interesting & challenging and fantastic support from my family to help with all this. Worth remembering those when the renovations are running months behind and the train is late….again.

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  32. kate

    when I get to work in the mornings my chiar is always higher than I have it and I have to lower it. it is so annoying to adjust it every day! I think it is the cleaner..

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    • odette

      Ha! I was just coming in to say that every morning when I come in to work, my phone and headset stand has been pushed to the back of my desk (where I can’t reach them comfortably from my seat). I have to rearrange everything each morning. I think it’s the cleaner.

      Do we work together, Kate??! :)

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      • Hobit

        I’m staying in a hotel sort of permanent part time and sometimes they put the hair dryer away!!!! (and even wrap the efffing cord around the handle!!!) AAARRRRGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

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        • Hobit

          Mind you it’s a really nice hotel and I have a suite with a bathroom with lots of that REALLY thick glass and stone surfaces and two BIG plasma TVs (not even LCD!) but the thing that really bugs me is that between 5:30 and 7:30 when they have free drinks in the lounge I have to walk almost ten metres to fill up my glass!! Ridiculous!

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  33. Guest

    I was walking through Hong Kong airport last night and my friend and I used this exact same term when we were complaining the travelator was not moving fast enough….

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    • Cordeline

      I was at that airport last week and the travelators are sooooo slow!

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  34. Rach

    I spend more time fantasising about all the wonderful things I am going to make on Pinterest than actually getting off my arse and doing them.

    And I am sick of being dog tired in the morning, but not tired enough to go to bed early in the evening. FWP!

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  35. Heidi H

    Do you think it’s possible that in the first world our comfort levels are so high that are expectations are raised, making these petty things irritable?

    When I was in India my husband & I went on what was supposed to be a 12hr bus trip down the coast. We were the only non-Indians on board. During the night the bus hit a cow. Because cows are sacred in India we had to stop and wait for the cow to die/driver to get interviewed by police/cow owner to be contacted. We stopped for five hours. I couldn’t believe it. But what amazed me was that noone else on the bus was bothered by the waiting at all!! It simply did not faze them.

    I was also suprised by how happy the people living on the streets in Mumbai looked. Not just that they looked happy living on the streets but that they looked a hell of a lot happier & more relaxed than most people I knew back in Australia.

    Did you know that as a country gets developed/richer it’s rates of mental illness tend to go up dramatically? (Source: Affluenza by Oliver James).

    Definitely count your blessings, cultivate gratitude and keep your problems in perspective. This is great advice. But maybe we are better off when it comes comes to our institutions and wealth but not when it comes to our mental attitudes, our minds.

    My birth isn’t better than someone else’s because it was ‘natural’, and my life isn’t necessarily better than someone in the third world just because I’m materially better off.

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    • Anon

      I have my own theory about this. I lived and worked in third world countries in Africa and have done my fair share of travelling though others. When surrounded by absolute poverty, many people didn’t seem to despair. They lived almost entirely in the present, rather than wallowing in the past or worrying about the future.

      In the developed world, we so often think about the future (how can I afford to buy a house, what if I lose my job, will the exchange rate change before my holiday to the US/Europe etc.) or get stuck in the past (why did s/he treat me like that, that didn’t turn out like I wanted/hope etc.) rather than enjoying the moment (I am healthy, I have a roof over my head, I have food to eat).

      Of course, it is not feasible for us to live in the moment all the time – we need to look to the future to achieve our goals and we need to reflect on the past to learn our lessons. I suppose it is about the proportion of time that we spend doing this…much like the people who wish away five days of the week, just so that they can enjoy the couple of days at the end. Why can’t a work day be enjoyed? Why can’t a Tuesday night be special?

      The other thing I think is relevant is the school of thought around suffering being associated with attachment to things. To a degree I think this is true. I’ve become much happier the past couple of years when I’ve cut down my consumption enormously. If I don’t have too much, I don’t have too much to lose.

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  36. Bella

    I am traveling around Europe and have to sit in the hotel lobby to get Wi-Fi, cos it doesn’t work in the rooms.
    Also, it’s really hard to order an ice-cream when you don’t speak German…

    Oh and I am SO behind on season 5 of Mad Men! FWP!!

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    • odette

      Ein Schokoladeneis, bitte.

      You’re welcome :)

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      • Sarah

        Even better, “Ich hätte gern ein Schokolade Eis” :)

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  37. rupoo

    1) my tummy hurts from eating too much dessert
    2) I haven’t yet found the perfect temperature for all night on my electric blanket
    3) the gallery won’t work on my shiny iPhone
    4) my mascara makes my eyelashes hit my glasses

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    • HeavenlyHev

      I love number 4!!

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  38. Nicola

    I am cross because I have to wait until tomorrow night to find out what happens in ‘Offspring’.

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  39. SSS

    I didn’t like what mum cooked for tea. Yep. The free, nutritious food that I didn’t have to cook. FWP.

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  40. Hannah

    I am struggling to choose what to wear to work in the mornings

    My hair is too greasy on the second day but I can’t be bothered to wash it every morning

    We have run out of vegetables and it is only Tuesday. Annoying.

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    • jess88

      I had your second FWP too! My hairdresser recommended a ‘lighter’ conditioner as I have lots of fine hair and told me to concentrate on applying it to the mids and ends of my hair rather than close to the roots.
      I hope this helps you a little bit with one of your FWP’s :)

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    • Katia

      Dry shampoo ladies – it rocks!

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  41. elli

    My boss has a bad cold and so does my colleague, which means that I’ll get it any day now (I already have a sniffle), but my boyfriend who’s a singer has half-seriously threatened to stay with his mate for a week if I do.

    FWP because I have a job, a home, a sweetheart, and sick leave.

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  42. bitterfluff

    Oh lordy this post has my laughing and crying so hard!! Just love it.

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  43. anon

    My babysitter is on holidays which means we cant go out on Saturday night until she returns in 4 weeks!

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  44. Mooner

    Went to McDonalds hoping to complete My Little Pony Happy Meal toy series for my daughter. They’ve moved on to Zoobles. FWP.

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  45. Anon

    Can’t bear the thought of getting out of my wonderful bed and walking te 15 steps through my heated house to brush my teeth before I fall asleep. This is happening.

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  46. Razamataz

    My cool new watch is so trendy and heavy that sometimes it bangs against my hand and leaves a small bruise which slightly hurts.

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  47. Simone

    I bought the cheap dishwasher tablets and they’re shit.

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  48. The End Is Nigh

    FWP: Melbourne had an earthquake about half an hour ago and I am home alone with no one to snuggle with and await the end of the world.

    FWP because a Melbourne earthquake doesn’t exactly compare to say, an Earthquake in Pakistan killing millions. Also, I may not have a snuggle buddie but I do have wine.

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    • charlierose

      OMG same problem… but I have no cold wine (but pretty sure I’m going to put some in the fridge after this!)

      Technically I’m not home alone because my housemate is here and I’d usually go make her snuggle with me/entertain me but that bitch has a boy over :( lol

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  49. Blue Jean baby

    The Fever can’t win a game but keep managing to make me think they can and then snatching my hope away and crushing it by jumping on it repeatedly whilst I watch on, quietly sobbing and knowing I have the same to look forward to when next the Dockers play.

    The barrista at my local coffee shop keeps forgetting to top up my skinny long macciato

    I bought some ridiculous brand of instant oats instead of Uncle Tobys because I was amused by the Amish gentleman on the box but they have the wrong milk marker on the packet and my porridge came out too runny.

    I can’t for the life of me find a copy of last months US Vogue in a newsagent.

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  50. ophobo

    I get the sentiment here, exercise in gratitude etc… In a backward sort of way. But I got a bit cranky reading through the comments – do we REALLY whinge about these things? So many of the comments just sound like wealthy people complaining about their wealthy-people privileges. That’s the point I guess.

    I MUCH prefer the thxthxthx posts that used to be on Mamamia – I’d rather learn to appreciate the mundane or shitty things than whinge about the wonderful things. Bring back thxthxthx!

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    • lee

      Come on ophobo you’ve never whinged about something trivial and then been glad that you didn’t say it out loud? As I type this very comment I’m complaining that my computer only has 7% battery left and I left the charger all the way upstairs..

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