Not because of bitterness or jealousy. But because there is no other occasion on earth where your relationship status will come under such scrutiny. Forget a suit or a floaty Lisa Ho frock. If you’re an unmarried wedding guest over 30, you may as well wear a
sandwich board emblazoned with the words: “OH PLEASE ASK ME WHY I’M NOT
MARRIED YET!”
Three weekends ago at a wedding reception, I bumped into the bride’s sister, L, hiding in the bathroom. It was almost time for the bouquet toss and she was desperate to escape that peculiar indignity of being rounded up with the other single girls like cattle to compete for a wilting bunch of peach roses and baby’s breath.
I know L quite well so we didn’t have to wade through much of the usual wedding small-talk (“Beautiful bride!” “Stunning dress!’ “Terrific speech!”), before L abandoned the niceties and started bitching. “When will this be over?” she muttered darkly into her champagne, “I just want to get the hell out of here.”
L was single at a wedding, and was about to cry, but these two things weren’t connected in the way you might think. You see, L was perfectly happy being single. At 34, she’d just bought her own flat, was kicking all sorts of goals at work and had a great life filled with travel and friends and job satisfaction.
But all of this was irrelevant to numerous relatives and family friends who could only see – and comment on – her naked ring finger. “I was feeling great about my life at the beginning of today,” she ranted, reaching for my champagne now that hers was gone. “I was happy! But all anyone wants to know is why I’m still single. After a full day of it, I just want to drag my sad spinster ass home and stick my washed-up head in the oven. If one more bloody person asks me ‘So! When will it be your turn?’ I’m going to beat them to death with a bonbonniere.”
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Sheeesh. This is not the right place for this comment, but you haven't put your latest Sunday column up and I can't be waiting for you to do it. How many times do you have to hear it, see it, know it, before you bloody well get it? It's not a SEX CHANGE you idiot, ("trans sex") it's a GENDER RE ASSIGNMENT. I'll type slowly so you get it. DNA is set for life. You can't change it. Not ever. Cut your dick off and sew it on your forhead, you'll still be a man. However, if you want to have cosmetic surgery on your bits, go for it. Doesn't make you a woman, neither does sewing flesh onto your pudenda and cutting off your breasts make you a man. Are we clear? For christ's sake, you're a paid writer for that newspaper. Your ignorance is depressing. Or your laziness is.
ooh narky!
Garry, that's a very narrow-minded view. There are plenty of women who cannot have children; does this mean their life is pointless and they can never be fulfilled? I would suggest that it IS the aunts who are out of step; it is not their place to comment on other people's choices to marry or not. Nor is it yours.