There is something very calming for me about a Friday. It may be the fact that I love a routine and one of the structures that I love best is the Best and Worst post on a Friday.
It’s Mamamia’s longest running regular post and for me it embodies everything that I love about the Mamamia community – the warmth, the respect, the sharing, the joy and the camaraderie.
If you have never taken part before why not start today? It’s simple. Based on a dinner time ritual at Mia’s house where her family go around the table and nominate the best and worst parts of the day, our post is a virtual replica of just that. Your chance to share your best and worst parts of the week – nothing is too big, too small, to trivial or irrelevant. It’s also your chance to show your compassion and support. Dive right in. It’s fun. And rather cathartic. Me first.
Bests
1) My son settled back into school with ease. Huge smiles every day before school and after. What more could a mother want?
2) I have finished covering books in contact for the whole year
3) I came back from the most wonderful, relaxing holiday and am so excited to be back at work
3) Nicky came back to work. I missed her calming presence and I am so happy to have her back on board
4) Febfast is going really well. Yes, I know it’s only the 3rd of the month. Don’t forget you can gee us on here
Worsts
Have had a number of people around me lose people very close to them. Three deaths in the last week including the senseless murder of my mother’s best friend by an intruder in her home in South Africa. I realise how lucky I am every single day that I live in Australia
On My Mind:
Mamamia’s very own magnificent Bec, her husband Brad, Ava and Georgie. All of them on my mind and surrounded in love, peace and strength. I just know that next week’s best and worst will be a Best and Best when we introduce her new baby to the Mamamia community. I will miss Bec dreadfully while she is on maternity leave, in fact I am thinking of installing a permanent Skype connection so that I don’t miss a moment. Shhhh don’t tell her 
Over to you team! and have a wonderful weekend
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A dear friend is raising funds for Cystic Fibrosis.
Prior to losing his daughter to the illness in 1994, he promised her that he would walk around the world in her memory.
To date he has walked 17,500km and this year he wishes to start the final leg of 12,500km.
In order to do this, he needs our support.
All funds raised will go towards research and to provide respite care for families experiencing the pressures of this chronic illness.
https://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Zoes-walk-for-children-with-Cystic-Fibrosis/225467520869873
http://www.walkyourowntalk.yolasite.com/
Please help if you can – it will make the world of difference to Nigel and to all the families who have to live with this illness.!
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first time doing b&w!
Best: my birthday! Nothing overly exciting just quality time with family & friends
Worst: love the company i work for & everyone I work with but outgrew my role some time ago and the job market in my industry is very quiet so feeling a bit lost careerwise. frustrating because i am not really career orientated anyway, all I want is to be a mum! But my partner and i have have a few things we want to do before we have kids plus we would like to be in a better position financially so it will be at least 5 years until we start trying! Seems so long away
OMM: rated to above, I need to live more in the now and enjoy my life how it is instead of planning the future so much! at 23 I have an amazing partner, a house, an (eventually!) Promising career but i rarely stop to smell the roses
must do moreso!
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Welcome Lady Laura! Great name. Happy B/W! Xxx
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Best: Back to work- no longer bored at home and got to see my students after a 6-week break!!
Best 2: Found out that Aqua (pop band) released a 2nd show! Yay, I loved them when they released their first single in Grade 4!
Worst: Stressed about work- too many things to do but I can’t stop procrastinating!!!
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Best:
- My 16 year old son started a new school this week, has settled in really well and is loving it.
- I’m going to ITALY in September! I’m turning 50 this year so this is my present to myself. I’m going to Positano which has been on my wish list for about 25 years. I’m also going to Greece and visiting Santorini, so in busy moments I stop and think about this little nugget of joy that I have to look forward to.
Worst:
- Am being judged by some for moving my son from the public school system to the private (Catholic) system. I wish I didn’t have to explain that I’m all in favour of public schools, however I’m doing what’s best for my son and his learning. Sigh.
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Best: my biggest little guy started prep yesterday. He’s very shy and to have him tell me about his great day and the friends he played with just made my year.
Worst: got nothing
OMM: hubby is at the cricket, god I love a night with the tv to myself
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BEST: its friday!.. finishing the week off with a sense of achievement knowing my 0-2 year olds are settling in slowly but surely.
WORST: bf resigned from work, so he will not be getting any income until he finds work. things will be tight from here on in.. im finding myself in a financial situation i definately never wanted to find myself in…
OMM: start tafe next week after 4 years of working fulltime. eek. studying legal services. so still working fulltime and will b studying parttime for the next year…
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Worst (more of a First World Problem): Got a horrible hair cut!! I really do mean HORRIBLE!!
It’s going to take a while till it looks any good again. 
Time to find a new hairdresser methinks.
Best: Started a new job this week and working with a great group of people.
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Best: Getting lots of stuff done for my upcoming wedding next month
Worst: Still so much to do!
Has anyone stayed at the Pearl South Pacific in Fiji? Looking into staying there for our honeymoon as there is a great deal going at the moment and would appreciate any comments……
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Whatever you do, don’t stay at Sonasali….ruined my honeymoon in March last year
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Thanks Kacey – this is not the first time that I have heard this!
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Worst – been laid up at home with a very sore foot.
Best – was advised I am a recipient of Layne Beachley’s Aim for the Stars grant to pursue my dream of setting up a company similar to Changing Faces – to help break down prejudices toward people with facial difference. I have a meeting with the CEO of Changing Faces in the UK tonight!
Happy Friday everyone
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Congratulations Carly – that’s a great start – good luck with your new company (and hope your foot feels better soon).
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you are a legend
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Worst:have had 2 days (including today) of a really crappy headache bordering on migraine. Am sick of wearing headbands and scarves around my head to help heal up my csf leak. I’m sure they’re contributing to my headaches. I’m having to get used to sleeping propped up for the same reason and it’s just not natural!
Best: headache (touch wood) appears to be gone. I’m getting a good collection of head scarves/bands and I’m getting used to sleeping up rightish. I feel like I’m doing something positive for my own health as well.
OMM: hope the rain stops sooner rather than later for country NSW and QLD.
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Best: Been making myself go out and be more social, went out last Friday night for my birthday dinner with friends and really enjoyed myself, saw friends yesterday and have something planned with friends for the next three days, all of which I am actually really looking forward to. Sticking to one of my New Years’ goals – get of my room, out of my ‘comfort zone’, live and enjoy life!
Worst: Weight loss has become stagnant, am on a weight-loss journey due to PCOS, I have lost 10kg so far but haven’t lost any weight (gained, then lost to go back to what was) since mid-Dec (had Xmas, birthday and holidays). It gets extremely frustrating to realise it will be a long and slow process and it is frustrating to be around friends who are able to eat what it seems ever they so wish without gaining anything, urgh! Also am two weeks late for my monthly appointment with my GP, due to the fact I am a bit embarrassed I haven’t really got anything to ‘show’ her.
OMM #1: The start of my second year at University is just over 3 weeks away and I am actually quite excited, I can’t wait for the year to start properly and to get into it.
OMM #2: My best friend and I have discussed visiting Sydney during the July uni holidays (my friend and I live in different cities during the uni year), we have spoken about it several times and she says she definitely keen, but never seems to want to take the next step and actually organise flights/accommodation. I know it is a while away but she will be leaving for uni in a few weeks and the next time I’ll see her, we may have missed out on good flights/rooms. She has a different financial situation to me, I live at home, free board, where as she will be flatting. so money may be an issue, but she is not really one to say she is keen to go, if she actually can’t/ doesn’t want. I have brought up the trip a few times in a fun, “ooh wouldn’t it be fun if we did this in Sydney..” kind of way, in hope she will continue the conversation on to when/how to book, I am just a bit confused on how to approach it without pressuring or seeming obsessive? For me. it is not only that I want to get the best prices and I want to know I have something to look forward to (I LOVE Sydney), but also I want to know how strict I need to be with my money this before the semester actually starts.
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i had the same problem a few years back with my best friend ( we were meant to travel o/s together, but it never happened. we were meant to move out together, but it never happened.. and then she jets off o/s by herself?!.. meh, best advice i can give is dont wait around. if you wanna do it, do it without her. or find someone else to do it with.
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Maybe she needs to sort paying for uni and stuff before she knows how much she’ll have to pay for the trip? I’m trying to be a massive tightarse at the moment so I’ve got some cash for books etc for when uni starts. Maybe she’s just doing the same and covering herself till she knows? It’s not like a big trip where you can pay in instalments.
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First time doing a best and worst, reading some of the worsts out there makes me realise that my problems really are first world problems…..
Best: Kids are all back at school and settled. Number 3 has changed schools to be at the same school as her sisters (mostly to make my life simpler) and she’s made a great transition, so feeling good about the decision
Worst: woke up this morning to find the laundry flooded due to a burst hose on the washing machine, spent my day off cleaning and drying everything (a challenge on a miserable rainy day) and the hot water service is empty now so I haven’t managed a shower all day, need to wait until the off peak kicks in…..
OMM: Getting set to put our house on the market, we’ve found the home we want to buy, now the anxiety about selling ours quickly, getting the price we want and hoping that the dream home isn’t snapped up by someone else begins…. Oh well, at least the laundry is clean now…
Like I said, first world problems!
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Best: finally went to the doctors and said, ‘put me on the scales and give it to me straight. How much weight have I gained since I quit smoking and how much do I have to lose?’ Really happy I did it. I have stuck to my healthy eating and exercise plan for a month and facing up to how much I need to lose was the next step.
Worst: I miss my partner. He works night shift while studying and works quite a bit because he doesn’t get any student benefits. It’s really taking its toll. We live together but hardly see each other. We have only been together for 2 years and this is the time when I feel we should be enjoying each other before kids and other responsibilities come along.
OMM: Reminding myself I am lucky to have my man, no matter how little I see him.
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Best: I got married.
Worst: I got my period (unexpectedly) on my honeymoon.
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Congratulations on your best!
Commiserations on your worst, happened to me too. Annoying and dissapointing not to be pregnant!
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Worst is realising the Tcell large granular Lymphocytosis (high white blood cell count) will probably cause me a lot of trouble in years to come. Right now my main symtoms are recurring mouth ulcers. Does anyone recognise this disease? it’s a bit uncommn I’m told. I have to be careful not to get infections.
Best is my husband has gone away with his son for two nights and I have the place to myself! ha, ha,
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Have you only recently been diagnosed?
I know very little about this one, but I hope you stay fit and healthy!
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OMM: How do I use one of those curved mascara wands? Curving up, like a smile? Or down like a downer? Or curved inwards to follow the contour of the eye line? I don’t seem to be able to manage it, and get mascara everywhere! (And I’ve been using the stuff for about 50 years, so I should have a clue…)
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Down! Hold the wand at a bit of an upright angle and follow the contour of the lashes!
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This will be my first best and worst post – have been reading for a long time and finally decided I should join in
Worst: Trying to decide whether or not to resign from my job.. It’s at an amazing company and I was lucky to get it straight out of uni, but I’m starting to feel like it’s just not me. Have stuck it out for a year and it’s just sucking everything creative out of me.. I think this is partly to do with going from school to uni to full time work and not having a break or ‘gap year’. I feel like an overseas trip might be just what I need to sort my head out. It’s a bit scary to think it might be hard to get another job when I get back though! Just wish I could make a decision!
Best: It’s my birthday next week and the boy and I are going to Sydney for a week – it will be the first time I’ve been there. Can anyone recommend some ‘must-see’ things we should do while in Sydney? I’ve got a list of touristy things but not sure if some things are better than others, or if there’s some local secrets anyone can let me in on??
ie. for a really nice romantic dinner in the city on a Saturday night where should we go?
Any suggestions welcome!!! Thanks
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If you arent scared of heights I would recommend bridge climb, I loved it! Also a day trip to Palm Beach, hopefully the weather will behave itself for you. Taronga Zoo is amazing, and for dinner Black at the Star or China Doll at the Finger Wharf is lovely!
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Thanks Lu! I am a bit scared of heights but maybe it’s time I faced my fears haha, and the zoo is def on my list. Just had a look at those restaurants, they look amazing! Might be a bit out of our price range but hey it is my birthday
Not holding my breath about the weather – seems to be the rainy season in Sydney!
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A ferry ride anywhere on Sydney Harbour is spectacular. Watson’s Bay is a lovely destination for a ferry ride and lunch. Walking through the Botanical Gardens, walking around the Opera House. Drinks anywhere with a harbour view at Circular Quay or the Rocks is great, just watching the boats and ferries and the people… The Rocks is also a gorgeous area and the Rocks Sunday Market is great if you are into that kind of thing.
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The Bridgeclimb is good if you’re a bit scared of heights – they kind of bring you in when you do it, so you’re comfortable. It’s rock solid anyway though, and you’re tethered to the bridge the whole time. Definitely worth the $$$!
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Welcome to Best and Worst!!! If you can try and get tickets to the movies at the St George Open Air cinema you should and must! Enjoy
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If you aren’t in with a big budget try Bar Reggio on Crown Street (down near Stanley St). Awesome atmosphere and fabulous pizza. It’s always packed as well. Fun times …grab a cocktail up the road at East Sydney first.
Enjoy xx
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Must see and do for a great Sydney experience:
- Bondi to Bronte walk – it starts at the southern end of Bondi Beach, and is a pathway that hugs the cliffs and finishes at Bronte Beach – it’s spectacular!
- If you like a drink, skip the way overpriced touristy bars (like the one at the Opera House) and visit the Australia Hotel in Cumberland St at The Rocks – it’s a 120 year old pub opposite the southern Harbour Brige pylon. It has a rooftop terrace with views over Circular Quay toward the Opera House and it doesn’t cost $8 for a beer.
- For amazing food go to Kings Cross to Hugos. Go early – say around 6pm (make a booking esp. if you’re there Saturday night) – have their pizza which is incredible, and then take a walk down Darlinghurst Road Kings Cross towards Potts Point. Potts Point is gorgeous – it reminds me a bit of New York – there are great cafes there – and then take the stairs down to Wollomooloo and you’re on the harbour at the finger wharves where there are several excellent pubs.
Hope you have a fantastic time!
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I’m going to make a new acronym this week SH – stuff happened. Not a best, not a worst, just stuff. (or any other ideas?)
SH: Had my treatment planning session which was exhausting, and had the face mask made (heated plastic is moulded to my face and then bolted to the table to stop me from moving). Not pleasant. The whole process was exhausting.
Best: I start treatment on Wed. eeek. I’m having stereotactic radiosurgery which is one large dose of radioation (which is preferable to 30 smaller doses) but still very scary and more chance of side effects.
Best: I am part of a baby forum on facebook (for the last 3 years) and the girls got together and bought me a voucher to a local day spa. I am touched beyond words. And who said facebook was bad! (I’ve only met a few of them in real life. ) I’ve never had a facial before so might have one (presuming I don’t get burns – apparently I will get bald spots)
Best: got an unexpectedly large return from the family tax office. This will pay for my radiosurgery which is such a relief as otherwise things would have been VERY tight.
Best: Miss C started swimming lessons on her own and Master A had his first lesson. Both of them loved it (a big relief).
Best: Master A slept through the last 3 nights!! Don’t want to jinx it though but gee whiz I am happy.
Best: saw Tim Minchin last week. Awesome!
Worst: feeling very tired already. Worried about how I will cope. I’ve also come to realise that I HAVE A FREAKIN BRAIN TUMOUR and it is kinda freaking me out!!
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Hey OopsyBoops, have been wondering how you are going.
Good luck with your treatment next week and enjoy the facial!
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Thanks Gypsy (and I just posted on yours tee hee). I’ve been keeping my blog reasonably up to date with blobby if you were at all interested.
http://morebananas.blogspot.com.au/
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Hiya OopsyBoops, I was going to post my best and worst and then I read your post and decided that my shit doesn’t matter! Good luck with starting your treatment – you are so very brave. x
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Thanks Eden. But whatever anyone is going through on any day, good, bad, trivial whatever is important to them and it matters! Hope you have a good weekend.
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All thoughts, love and strength with you x
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Oopsyboops, that face mask does not sound pleasant – you are very brave.
Good luck with your treatment. And enjoy the day spa!
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All the best for your upcoming treatment, must be a terrifying place to be. ill think of you on Wednesday. Can I ask how you came to be diagnosed?
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Thanks Batgirl.
I had a very difficult pregnancy with Master A. I was sick and dizzy all through it and was hospitalised and on bedrest of the last 3 months. We thought it was all just pregnancy but it never really went away, so last year I had some tests done and an MRI showed the tumour. It affects my balance, and I have tinnitus. It is a meningioma so benign and slow growing but mine is not in a good position so surgery is too risky at the moment and really my quality of life is pretty crap as I am so tired.
Sorry, that was a bit long
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Thanks for the detailed reply! I have been feeling kinda fuzzy in my head for a few months, and sometimes get pressure behind my eyes so my mind immediately goes down the cancer path… I will stop procrastinating and go and get checked.
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If you are worried about something it is always best to get it checked. I never even contemplated a brain tumour – I thought it was an inner ear thing. Hugs to you.
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I was diagnosed with labryinthits approx 18 months ago. I was checked for a tumor. I have lost my hearing in my right ear, have tinnitus, occasional dizziness. And nausea. My anxiety attacks definitely make my symptoms worse. I’m sorry to hear of your diagnosis and felt compelled to reply. I wish you all the best, my symptoms came on the thurs and by sat deafness had all settled in. I found it confusing, bewildering, scary and devastating. I feel only now that I am able to deal with it all alot better. I’m sorry to rant and steal your thread but no one understands really. Except my familyxx
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I’m glad your son has been sleeping through. Let’s hope he continues that.
I still have nanna naps after lunch. I find if I have them, it’s all good.
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Happy Friday everyone
My best for the week is that one of my friends has asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding! I’m so excited, we’ve been friends for over 15 years and I can’t wait to stand there beside on her special day … And have tears streaming down my face, happy tears of course!
Other best would be that my ex and I reconciled towards the end of last year and we’re working through things. We’ve got a long road ahead of us, but we both really want to get through it together … And this week, I’ve been feeling really positive about the future.
My worst sort of relates to my OMM – I just found out that my friend wants to go overseas for her hen’s party and that it’ll probably cost over $1000 for flights and accommodation plus food/drink/paying for her … It’ll be in about 4 months time (as the wedding is in July), and I really don’t think I can afford that, let alone get the time off work on such short notice.
Hmmm, any suggestions on how best to handle this?! Does anyone have awesome (cheaper!) Hen’s Party ideas I could suggest instead?
Hope you all have a lovely weekend!
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Congrats on being asked to be a bridesmaid! Very exciting
I have been lucky enough to be a bridesmaid on several occasions and it is lovely but each time has been very expensive and that didn’t include an overseas holiday! Not being able to get time off work is a good excuse to not go and suggest a different plan….. not sure where you live but you could search for a luxury holiday house for a long weekend. Would be much cheaper…. I often book things on the website stayz and have seen lots of gorgeous homes for rent (think waterfront at surfers paradise, penthouse apartments in melbourne that sort of thing). Would be much cheaper and would only require one day off work.
Good luck!
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Best – my son came home today from overseas- missed him so much.
Worse- I left my teaching job and I don’t know what to do next.I’m thinking of admin work.Can I ask a dumb question? Could I still get work in admin without knowing how to touch type?
OMM- getting a paying job!!!
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You can certainly get admin work without knowing how to touch tyoe! I did (and I was once a teacher xxxx)
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OMM – Damn my housemate is moving out! Have to find another one ASAP!
And I liked this one!
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Yay, it’s Friday again!
Bests of the week… Bubba #2 is staying put for now and showing no signs of coming in the near future, which is fantastic news at 20 weeks.
I received a promotion at work and thanks for all of my hard work. It feels so nice to receive recognition for doing the job well and now I feel like I can take a few years off after bubba #2 arrives and not go back to square one.
And last but not least I just found out that my gorgeous hubby has booked a night away at the Emporium to celebrate valentine’s day. I can’t wait to eat room service and sleep in!
Worst of the week… Heartbreaking news, a workmate’s 19 month old daughter has just been diagnosed with leukemia. I just feel so awful for them all.
On my mind… What can I do to support this lovely family in such a difficult time? I’m not very close with this workmate but I would like to do something to help make things a bit easier for them. Any suggestions?
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Can you organised a whip around the office?
Use the money to put towards cleaning or cooking or something that will help make life easier during this time?
Or a meal pack from http://www.gourmetdinnerservice.com.au?
Getting a collection may make the recipient feeling less uncomfortable for taking such a lovely gift from someone they barely know!
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Thanks Singleinoz that’s a great idea. You said exactly what I was feeling I don’t want to make them uncomfortable but would like to help out. I’m sure the others in the office will be happy to chip in.
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Practical help, if they have other kids babysitting so both parents can be at the hospital, someone to do their washing or their garden and lawns. I know a family who went through this recently and someone bought them a freezer which they left on their front verandah and people would drop a meal off when they could so they always had meals on hand. It will be a long journey for them so the support will be needed for a while sadly.
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Worst: Having to face my family about how mentally ‘unwell’ I am and telling them how long this has dragged on for.
Best: My family being so incredibly supportive of me and not judging me with my decision to be admitted to hospital and finally get the intensive treatment I need.
OMM: How I’ll cope with being an inpatient without having to defer my uni course.
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Good luck, Nic, and big hugs to you. That is a very big step, to have to tell people close to you that not everything is as it seems.
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hey nic
im thankful your family is being so supportive. how long are you going to hospital for? might you be out before uni gets too hectic? otherwise you could try to keep up online?
i am dealing with a similar situation myself with my best friend. she is struggling a lot with strong depression, anxiety & suicidal thoughts. wondering whether hospital would be useful or whether she might be triggered by other distressed patients? (she is usually badly affected by external stimuli if its distressing)
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Thanks so much Bunny.
Annie, it looks at though the stay will be for a couple of weeks – but I suppose it depends on how I respond to the treatment?The good thing about it is that the hospital in quite close to my uni, so apparently i’ll be allowed leave on the days that i have to go in (managed to fit my timetable in to two and a half days week).
In regards to your friend, I think she’ll have to decide whether ultimately she can keep herself safe at home. Maybe she should try a part-time study load? This will be my first hospitalisation, so I don;t know how I’m going to react to the other patients myself. I don;t know how she’ll respond to that if she does go to hospital, but I suppose she can try and block them out as best she can and focus on recovery? I hope all goes well with her xx.
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Ok.
Perfect forum.
Have to get this disappointment off my chest, else I’ll explode!
I had 5 interviews for a dream job. Literally. THE DREAM JOB!
And it was 5 grueling interviews for the ONE job. And I made it throughh to the final interview (3 candidates) from 600 applications.
And I actually started imagining how amazing my life would be if I got this job. Not to mention the debt I could get my husband & I out of if I got it.
And I also thought I did ok in the interview, like this tiny little 10% part of me walked out not wanting to jinx myself, but at the same time, scream, ‘I’ve got this’.
And they said we would be advised if we were successful or not today. Whether we were successful, or unsuccessful.
And it’s 4pm. And I’ve gone throu every range of emotion. And I’m trying to distract myself with my 14 month old. But it’s 4pm now …
And I’ve come to the realization that if I had it, I’d have known about it by now.
And the disappointment is so consuming, I could cry.
5 interviews. 5 times I had to organize babysitting for my son as I don’t have family in Melbourne. Gah! It was like organizing a THIRD LUNG!
Thankyou for the vent
I didn’t want to put anything emo like on my blog, or my personal Facebook, or twitter. So this was nice. Therapeutic, almost
Thankyou …
Cherie (http://ababycalledmax.blogspot.com)
xx
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Hi Cherie,
can you call them? I have had a couple of jobs where they say they will let you know by x date, but they don’t. So I call them and find out why- really takes the stress out, as often someone is simply sick so they are behind in making the decision, or they are simply running behind schedule. Will save you a whole lot of stress over the weekend as well just knowing what they are doing!
GOOD LUCK!!!
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Hey
I did call them, at 4.45pm.
But the HR co-ordinator had gone home for the day. And I was advised other candidates had been rung.
So disappointing.
Thanks so much xox
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That decision being made and your phone call could be being held up by someone waiting for someone else to get back to them to approve the new person or waiting for someone in HR to get off the phone…
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Good point!
Yea, I guess.
I guess it’d just be nice if they could make a quick call explaining, or even send an e-mail.
Just so you don’t have to head into the weekend with that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach
Not to worry
xx
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still hoping that means they have yet to call the successful candidate! But if it’s not to be this time I wish you the very best in your job search I do hope something comes up ASAP!!
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Cherie most companies need to inform the unsucessful applicants first, before they notify the successful one.
So for the time being take no news as good news!
Good luck xx
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Best: Last week I posted about getting a positive home pregnancy test and being completely unsure about what to do. I received so much support and comments that it was really lovely to know that people out there were thinking of me. Thank you.
OMM: Exactly how hard is motherhood?
Husband and I are (still) weighing up all our options. But the “how hard is it” question keeps popping up. I’m pretty sure I can cope with a baby (even with all the crying, sleepless nights, teething, etc), and an older school-ages child. But the years between 1 and 6 scare the crap out of me!
So MM mothers, how hard is it? I want the truth (the whole and nothing but, etc.)
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Were you and your husband planning on having kids? There is never a “right” time to have them. Yes they turn your world upside down and it feels like you are on a roller coaster for a while there but it is the very best thing in life to have children. I love my two so much and cannot imagine life without them.
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We’ve talked about kids and agreed that neither of us were really sure about whether we wanted them or not. And since neither of us is 30 yet, we thought had plenty of time to think things over. This pregnancy has been a huge surprise so we need to make up our minds sooner rather than later!
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Also, all I want to eat is soft boiled eggs with bread and butter soldiers. (Which obviously I can’t as partially cooked eggs are a no-no.)
This is nature laughing at me, isn’t it?
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It’s not so much hard as it is constant and demanding, but very rewarding!
Also keep this quote in mind “10% of life is what happens to you, 90% is how you react to it.”
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Hi Anonymous,
I thought I’d throw in my limited experience, I can’t comment on years 3 -6 but I have made it year 2 (yay for me!). I am not the maternal type or at least I didn’t think that I fit the definition I had created in my mind.
Yes being a parent is the hardest thing that I’ve ever done but it really is the most rewarding. For my Husband and I it has brought us closer together. That’s not to say that there wasn’t a transition period on a personal level for me. I had never been around babies until I had my son and wasn’t prepared for the grief I felt about my old life. As Little Nitro has grown up I’ve gotten back my old life and more. I just wish someone had told me that at the start, that you adjust to your new life and its actually fun! I still work because I love what I do, I still have friends and me time and now I have a wonderful family to do fun things with.
Parenting can be as hard as you make it, what I mean is you can really stress yourself out about doing the “right” things because so and so said you should. Well I used to anyway! But if you take it easier on yourself and realise this isn’t like work there are no performance targets and set ways of doing things life is much easier for everyone.
Oh and on the sleep front… some kids sleep, some don’t. Its luck of the draw on that front!
So there it is in a brief nutshell the key things I’ve learnt in the last two years. I hope this helps with your decision making!
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If it was that terrible people wouldnt go back and have another child I guess! All kids are different, my easiest baby and toddler is trickier now at 10. My nightmare baby is now a sensible, smart, motivated delightful 12yo. My wild tantrum throwing toddler is now my perfectionist caring older boy. It is hard, tiring and the work is never ending but it is wonderful and my kids make me laugh and they are so much fun and they adore you back which is the best.
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Having kids is really super hard. But (sorry, cliche alert) it really is the best thing you’ll ever do. If you and hubby think you are ready to love someone like you never have before, then go for it. It won’t be all sunshine and roses, but it is like nothing else!
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Being a parent and the level of difficulty (or not) is different for everyone.
For us, all the things that we miss from our life prior to having children is nothing compared to the love that we feel for our girls and the love that they give us in return.
Can I remember my life before kids? Of course I can! Do I miss it? Certain aspects, very small ones. Would I want that life back? NEVER!
Plus, you haven’t heard comedy till you’ve heard it from your own children…
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I think the fact that you are asking about motherhood and children means deep down you are ready for this baby. Just a thought…
Yep motherhood is bloody hard sometimes and sometimes I just want to scream from the highest roof top, but I wouldn’t change a thing.
Good luck with everything. X
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That’s what I thought too. If you’re already making food choices that are in the best interests of the baby I think you’ll be ready by the time they get here.
My first pregnancy was totally unplanned, I was terrified, but it was the bext thiing that ever happened to me.
Good luck
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I’m not an expert, but I’ve had 4 kids and 2 of them are grown, so I guess I’m experienced.
I think if you’ve always wanted to have kids, it will be less of an upheaval to your life.
Always remember, they’re not yours, they’re on loan only, so keep that in mind and always remember you were there first.
Just take one day at a time. If one day is crappy with them, the next won’t necessarily be too.
I know it’s a cliche, but they do grow up quickly. It’s hard to believe that my baby will be 25 this year, or even that my youngest is 8. So try not to wish their childhood away, it’s very easy to do.
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Best – My boyfriends house (co-owned with his soon-to-be-ex-wife) sold and he signed the papers today. I’ve never been so excited about a divorced hobo before!
I just found this website http://gawker.com/5881058/here-are-your-best-pictures-of-breaded-cats and laughed my ass off! Who comes up with these things?
Worst – didn’t get a job I applied for as I am ‘over-qualified’ and apparently I can make more money in other roles. Oh really, more money like the $72 (before tax) that I have made from interpreting in the last four months? Yep, I am rolling in it!
OMM – why did nobody tell me how useless my career choice would turn out to be!? Whyyyyyyyyyyyy is training to be a sign language interpreter apparently a really crap life choice?
Please excuse my negative Nancy post, I am frustrated, disappointed, poor and am also suffering from a serious case of cabin fever. Luckily I am in NZ and it is after 5pm, therefore it is wine o’clock
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Have you thought about becoming a teacher of the deaf? Lots of demand I believe, and you would definitely earn more than $72 in 4 months…
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You should run professional development seminars for people interested in sign language (like myself)
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Having learnt sign, I think lots of people would enjoy it – I LOVED learning it. My teacher was Sofya, who is on Play School!
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Best: My boyfriend sent me flowers last Saturday for our anniversary which was a surprise as I was at his place that morning and I was back at his place that night. Very nice surprise.
Worst: Work again, my favourite person is leaving today.
My role is also changing so much and I’ve spoken to HR about why/how it’s changed and how it’s no longer what i originally signed up for and to see if i could get a redundancy package or something and apparently i can’t. I’m still job hunting but alot of the jobs I’m going for are being put on hold as funding for the sector has been cut.
lame!
OMM: my sister was made redundant yesterday but i’m so proud of her because she’s still so positive about everything. The role she was doing was a brand new role and unfortunately for her, the company didn’t reach the growth they were expecting when they hired her. They were very generous with her payout and have all written and will provide verbal glowing letters of recommendation/references for her.
xxxmissvxxx.wordpress.com
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Just a best and frustrating today!
Best: Managed to purchase three tickets (for myself, my mum and my daughter) to my favourite ballet being performed by the Australian Ballet.
Frustrating: I tried numerous times to log onto the site to purchase the tickets as soon as they were released this morning but the site obviously wasn’t coping. Only found time in the work day three hours later to try again and the tickets that I could afford mean that we aren’t sitting next to each other. We are all one behind the other – but I am willing to cope with this! First world problem. Very excited anyway…
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Worst: Had bleeding last night (24wks pregnant) and it was bright red and more than I’ve had before (have had spotting previously). Don’t have a car at the moment either so after calling the hospital and them saying I should come in we had to then wait for a taxi and after the whole night wrapped up ended up in bed at 1am but still had to work today so up at 5.30am
Worst 2: I’m Rh- and DH is +ve so even though bleeding in any pregnancy is horrible I feel fraught with anxiety for me and bub and future bubs because of this fact. Plus I’ve had to have and will have to have more anti-d injections which I’m not keen on. I know its best for both of us due to the bleeding I have had but I don’t like having a blood product injected :S
Worst 3: the fact I had to come to work. I won’t go into the why’s etc but suffice to say I’m here, I’m taking it easy but I’m here and wish I wasn’t
Best: Everything with bub is fine!
Best 2: we could afford the taxi easily and the phone to call the taxi on, I know others aren’t always as lucky
Best 3: I have a loving supportive husband who was there by my side
Best 4: even though I’m exhausted and I’m at work its friday and I’ll be at home with my feet up very soon
Best 5: I have a pregnancy massage booked for tomorrow, she is a guru and I know will be extra attentive when I tell her about last night events
OMM: How your whole lives can revolve around a bub before they’re even born!!
OMM2: Bec and her family, love to you all
OMM3: Want to move but the apartment we have our eye on is $100 a week more and I’ll be on mat leave soon so less money….eeek! Wouldn’t consider moving at the moment if it wasn’t for bub coming but with a bathroom that’s had mould issues (health hazard), a crappy kitchen, a possible mouse sighting and beautiful floorboards and high ceilings that look fantastic but make it FREEEEEEZING in winter we really need to move. Sigh – packing…..
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Best and worst..just been diagnosed as anemic. Best and worst because I’m thrilled to finally have an explanation as to why I plan my weekends around when I can have a nap, will hopefully be able to live a normal 24 yo’s social life and get some motivation to lose weight, rather than wanting to sleep all the time.
Worst because I donate blood and I might not be able to do that anymore. And I donated 6 weeks ago and my iron levels were fine, so anemia doesn’t really explain the years of exhaustion. But I’m at the stage of giving anything a go.. =)
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I’m on prescription iron supplements and it made such a difference – I was anaemic too.
My Mum has some weird ass thing going on with her blood, she actually had to have an Iron infusion (I like to picture it something like XMen) where she was on a drip for a couple of hours for it. She was giving blood no worries leading up to it too. Something about regular iron stores were OK but ferritin iron levels were low, and that’s the anaemia one? Don’t quote me on that, I’m no doctor, but that’s what I remember her saying about it. She’s been heaps better since the XMen thing.
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Yeah Kris, I study pharmacy and learnt about anemia (and am a fellow anemic myself). The are SO many different types of anemia with equally as many causes (genetic, diet, disease etc). So sometimes some people can give blood and still be anemic (I could go into details but sometimes I can’t even get my head around the pathophysiology myself!).
I can’t give blood myself because I don’t have an adequate iron intake therefore fail the blood test that they give before you donate.
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amyfizzer, I am anemic as well and my doctor gave me a big list of foods that could help to boost my iron levels – and the one she said that everyone does straightaway is to have Milo!
I have a hot Milo every night – three teaspoons of it with hot water (no milk) – and have made an effort to eat other foods that are higher in iron.
My iron levels have increased significantly since then (although they’re still not great).
Could you ask your doctor for some help in that regard?
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Milo is a source of Iron? I had no idea! How exciting!
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I have Milo/Ovaltine/AktaVite every day too. I didn’t realise it was an iron supp though! Excellent!
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Me too. Totally agree with you about taking nanna naps all the time and about hoping to get enough energy to exercise.
I’m not actually anaemic, just iron levels too low, but I started taking iron supplements a week or two ago. What my doctor told me was the acceptable range for iron is very wide and, just because my iron levels are within that, doesn’t mean they’re fine. One of the numbers in my iron blood test was 17; although that scrapes into the acceptable range, Dr wants it to be more like 60 so has put me on supplements. Maybe your iron levels has been “not quite good enough” for years , like mine.
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Best: Been doing Weight Watchers for 16 weeks now and have lost 8 kilos! So proud of myself for sticking with it and I’m really close to where I want to be.
I bought a new pair of gym tights today and fit into a Small – I know size doesn’t matter but it felt good!
Worst: Back to work this week and there was a lot of confusion about my hours which made for a stressful start to the year but it’s all sorted now.
OMM: I’m taking my husband to Melbourne for our anniversary in a couple of weeks and I’m trying to find a great hotel to stay in for 2 nights – does anyone have any suggestions? I have been recommended The Lindrum but wouldn’t mind one with a pool.
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The Sofitel is beautiful. It’s a little expensive but has amazing views of the city. If you do choose to stay there, ask for the city/bay views. My partner and i stay there twice a year for our birthday’s!
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Well done on losing the weight! I recently stayed at the Cullen which is part of the art series hotels in melbourne. It was quirky and cool and very comfortable. There are lots of places on Chapel Street to eat and shop and you are close to the city aswell!
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Hi!
Congrats on the weight loss – it’s hard work so you should be very proud!
If you want a boutique style hotel, I’d recommend the Adelphi. Cool little place in a great location. I’d also agree with Bookkat – the Art Series hotels are amazing.
Enjoy your trip with your sexy new body!
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I’ve stayed at the Langham before on Southbank – beautiful hotel with gorgeous views of Melbourne … And a really yummy restaurant!! It’s pricy , but we got a really good deal on wotif.com.
Great job on losing the weight too!
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The Park Hyatt – gorgeous and gorgeous pool.
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I definitely recommend The Langham too…pricey but lovely and their buffet breakfast is the best I have ever had. It has a chocolate fountain.
Also Crown Metropol is lovely too although not as close to heart of the city.
Have fun!!
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The Olsen is amazing, that is where we stay.
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Best: I have been obsessed with YouTube this week. In Norway a new program has just started where 7 famous artists cover each other’s songs and it is so much fun. My favourite Norwegian artist (he is from my hometown) was the first to be covered and the other artists did him so much justice. My favourite part is seeing how much they all enjoy the music they are sharing and how emotional it gets. I would love it if they made an Australian version of this.
Worst: Not a big deal in the scheme of things but our hot water tap burst on Saturday night so we had to turn off all the water, then the plumber couldn’t come on Sunday so it was finally fixed on Monday. You don’t realise how much you rely on something that is often taken for granted.
Luckily I had all I needed to still stay clean and feel fresh=) http://glossy-beauty.blogspot.com.au/2012/01/every-girl-needs-emergency-kit.html
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BEST:
After having my car advertised for 3 weeks it is finally getting some interest. Got a man looking at it tonight, another tomorrow and a lady is getting back to me. Fingers crossed!
WORST:
Been so frustrated over money issues, selling my car, work, I lost it a little at my boyfriend for no reason. He was really surprised and said it wasn’t like me. I feel absolutely horrible about it as I didn’t mean to. I think I’ll call him to make sure I haven’t upset him.
http://bookworm87.blogspot.com.au/
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Best: Boyfriend just signed up to build a house! We are both beyond excited – and I am super keen to get decorating. Too bad it won’t be finished for another year
haha
Worst: People who feel the need to cricicise his decision (under the guise of ‘just giving advice) without a note of congratulations. He’s already signed the paperwork – so there isn’t a whole lot he can do now is there!
OMM: Going back to uni. Definitely not in the right mindset for that one.
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Hi chinadolls, There is nothing like a new house! We moved in to ours 4 months ago. One of the best things we have ever done. Smile and nod at the doomsdayers I say!
Good-luck with the build.
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They are probably just jealous! GOOD LUCK and enjoy your new home
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Thanks Lottie and MissKate! It’s nice to hear such supportive things
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Worst: landlords are the pits. Take the money take the money have all the power.
Worst 2: some of the worsts today are really sad. Thinking of Monique – know that feeling. Do/cook/eat/read/see something you love and that has happiness in it.
Best: My daughter is happily back at school, I’m working full-time, but from home for a bit longer, so it feels a little bit like holidays (i.e. I get to do a load of washing at morning tea time), I have enough money to buy some semi-decent clothes (and retire the over-10-year-old-pants and skirts…), everyday life is just that bit smoother than for the last few years.
Best No. 2 is just as self-centred and FW as Best No. 1 – I have a new smartphone and I love it. Love it love it. My daughter does too. She is a route-finder and -navigator extraordinaire. A simple thing to make me happy all month. Who says a bit of moolah doesn’t make a difference.
OMM: starting a PhD this year. Scary scary. But exciting too.
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WillaWay! You are so lovely to think of me! I’ve been watching and reading lots of things that make me happy and my friends are invaluable.
Glad daughter is enjoying school! Good luck in work and starting your PhD!!
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I am a long time lurker but this is my very first MM post! Bit exciting!
This week has been a bit up and down so here goes:
Best – My very best friend in the entire world is pregnant! Quite unexpectedly but exciting none the less. Very excited that’ll be an ‘aunty’ in August!
Worst – I live in North West NSW and the floods here at the moment are just insane. I’m lucky that I don’t live in a heavily affected area but I’ve got some very dear friends that have lost just about everything including their income for the next 12 months as their cotton crop has been decimated. Thankfully, people are staying safe!
OMM: I think it might be a quarter life crisis but at 26 I’m feeling really lost and unsure of what to do next. All of my close friends are in long term relationships (married, engaged etc) and the majority are starting families. I came out of an intense relationship last year and while I’ve been dating since then, nothing serious has eventuated. I enjoy being single but sometimes it’s hard when no one else is in the same boat! I’m starting to think that I missed the day at school when they taught you how to have a sustainable relationship!
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Welcome! I’m trying to make my friend get pregnant too (not THAT way, just encouraging her) because I want a baby to be an Uncle to! I hear you on the flood stuff, was in Brisbane last year in the thick of it and the damage they do is huge.
PS: I have also joked recently that I will be having my quarter life crisis in March when I turn 25. I’ve decided I might buy a motorbike and ride across Africa. Maybe.
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Thanks Rick! The floods are just heartbreaking – I’m very glad I’m on the top of the mountain!
Being an aunty is so much fun! I’ve already spent a fortune on this kid.
I haven’t done anything outlandish to go with my quarter life crisis. Yet!
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i can’t believe we’re the same age Rick! I still feel so young, how am i the same age as all these (grown up) accomplished people, sportspeople, singers, journalists(!) etc….
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My mother would most certainly NOT call me accomplished! I’m a big kid with terrible money handling skills
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I’ve been joking about having a quarter life crisis when I turn 25 in March as well Rick!
Got a sidecar on that motorbike?!
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Sure don’t! But it’s hypothetical *blink* so I totally just added one.
Nat doesn’t believe me, but I’ll do it one day…
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Welcome to MM, jesspp
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Thanks Nat!
I love the site so thought it was time I joined in – I’m very jealous of all of you that work there. It sounds fabulous!
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Best: I wrote about contemplating studying medicine in the open post a while ago. I’ve registered for GAMSAT (graduate medicine admission test). I was hesitant but I paid the $400 and I’m sitting it in March. I’ve got the ball rolling and I have my fingers crossed!
Worst: I’ve been rejected (not even rejected, I just haven’t heard a thing from most applications) for jobs that I’ve been applying for since November. I have a tonne of experience and hate my current job. Ugggh over it.
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Snap! We have the same worst. Rejection is horrible! Hope something good comes up for you very soon
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I have my fingers crossed for both of us.
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Best 1#: My band is really starting to take off, and I am so thrilled! I have managed it by myself since 2006, and have worked my arse off to get us where we are. It just goes to show that hard work and a determined and positive outlook (no matter how many people turn you down) will always get you places.
Best #2: My first experience taking my partner’s fantastic 5yo daughter to school with him today. I did her hair & helped her eat breakfast and saw her school routine. It was amazing and so surreal. Another chapter in my life to get used to!
Worst: Frustrating that I want to be a fulltime muso, but am still unable to at this stage. The market isn’t big enough for me to take that leap, despite my band’s success. Time to work smarter, methinks.
OMM: My younger sister, who I love to pieces, ended an 8yr relationship last year & is catching up on lost partying. I say good for her! I just hope she does it safely. I’d never dream of telling her to stop (not my place), but like all big sisters, I do worry.
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Best: Being told by the Child Health Nurse that despite everything that is going on at the moment my 10 week old baby boy is doing really well. (He was 8 weeks early so only 2 weeks corrected).
Worst: My husband had a extreme reaction to his chemo so was in hospital all week (he was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumour when I was pregnant which will ultimately be terminal)
OMM – Whether I am a bad mother for giving up the comp feeding with the expressed breast milk this week . I am now on all formula. My son has never latched on so has always had to have breast milk via a bottle and I also have a really low milk supply (on Motilium) so he has always had to have some formula. I have been bottle feeding for 45 mins and then expressing for an hour to get 100ml and then I get an hour break and start all over again.
Due to the stresses of trying to look after my son, look after my 6.5 year old (started new school this week) and be at the hospital with my husband who has speech issues due to his brain tumour so I have to advocate for him with the doctors I decided that enough was enough.
Child Health, my GP and the hospital all have backed me in the decision to go to all formula and in some cases have said that had I not made this decision in the next couple of weeks they would have suggested it to me. You read so much about breast is best though so I can’t help but feel guilty that I am doing the wrong thing by my baby boy even though the logical part of me is saying that he will actually be better because I will be less stressed as I will now hopefully get more than 3 hours sleep in any 24 hour period.
OMM – How I wish my family which is all in the UK were here in Australia with me at the moment – at times like these I miss them so much.
Just read this back and it seems like a very whiny post – sorry blame it on me being a Pom.
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Please dont beat yourself up about giving up breastfeeding. Your baby needs you to feed him however you are able to. You have obviously had a very stressful time recently that is still continuing and you need to do whatever works for you. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be having to look after both your husband and baby and child. Thoughts are with you and your family. take care
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So sorry to hear about your husband. PLEASE do not feel the slightest bit guilty about not breastfeeding your baby. Your boy is doing well and you have enough n your plate without worrying abut this.
I have two children and was unable to feed either of them, they are healthy. People are becoming obsessed with breastfeeding being the only way, but in some circumstances it is not possible. Yours are those circumstances.
If anyone is rude enough to ask just tell them “I can’t” and leave it at that. Unfortunately, someone will be rude enough to ask!
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Oh my goodness Kath, what a tumultous time you’re going through. Your post isn’t whiny whatsoever, I saw it more like you’re getting your emotions on a page, and more power to you. I hope it made you feel better. I’m sending you a big hug, it sounds like you need it.
As for going onto formula – the debate will always rage, but you as a mother know what is best for your family and personal situation. Hold your head high and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for it. Congrats on your healthy boy, that’s just wonderful
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Hmmm … not sure that you’re even physically capable of producing milk as well as coping with everything else. Using formula sounds reasonable to me. I’m not a lactation consultant/expert and my views are just the views of another mum. Conditions have to be right for successful breast feeding and if they aren’t then formula is best.
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My eldest was breast fed from 4 weeks old and he is a happy & healthy pre-schooler now. Dont beat yourself up & feel guilty like I did….it does no favours for you & your baby. You have alot going on at the moment, so do whats best for you & bub! Good luck
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With all you have going on, you’ve done well to get this far with breast milk. Forget the guilt – bottle feeding your son will work well. You have so many other things to concentrate on that are important too. You said your family is in the UK – do you have some good friends that can be a support system to you?
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I am lucky in that I have some good friends around although none of them have children so they are don’t fully understand what it is like to juggle with children.
They are fantastic when we need practical things like help with getting groceries.
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Kath do not worry about giving up the breast feeding. You have lots more priorities that need your attention right now. Be kind to yourself. It’s OK. The formula will be fine for your baby. Sending all best wishes. xxxx
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i am 100% pro breastfeeding but can i say that you need to do whatever it takes to make your life easier. i would be doing exactly the same thing in your circumstance. don’t waste a moments guilt. you need to do whatever it takes to keep your baby happy, and make your life slightly easier.
if it were me i would also be allowing myself all the chocolate my heart desired.
take care xx
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kathl29 your post is most definitely not whiny! You have every right to have a vent and then some. Sending love and support your way.
As for the breastfeeding please don’t feel guilty. My son was six and a half weeks early and we did the expressing and comp feeding rollercoaster for three months before we decided enough was enough. It’s exhausting when there is only your baby to focus on and you have so much more going on. If it puts your mind at ease at all my little boy has been described as extremely advanced for his age in size and development so formula and an early start hasn’t hurt him one bit.
Remember to make sure that you look after yourself during this difficult time. Big hugs!
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You know what? You’ve got some major stuff going on in your life at the moment. If your baby is doing well, you must be doing something right despite it.
I’m not surprised you struggled with breastfeeding. You had a prem baby, a sick husband, another child and limited support.
Like your doctor and child health nurse, I would support you if you came to see me and I’m also a child health nurse. Is anyone from your family able to come out at all?
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Unfortunately they can’t come over from the UK – my Dad has prostate cancer so my mum has to stay with him while he has his treatment and my sister has two young children of her own.
On the plus side – I am thankful that Skype exists it has made conversations so much easier, also facebook allows for so much easier communication than when I came to Australia over a decade ago.
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WORST: massive blow up with the directors at my boys kindy. too long to go into, but i was accused of being rude to a staff member (i wasn’t), telling 1 staff member that i don’t like one of the teachers (which i have never said – would be thrilled if either of my boys had this lady as a teacher) and was that they are not progressing well at kindy because we “let them get away with things” at home, we are not consistent with them. words that i had said in general coversation in the past were used against me, it was just a horrible horrible experience. Should i mention here that my boys have autism, and this happened at an autism early intervention centre? that i pay a small fortune to send them to? that, unfortunately, in the area where i live, there are no other autism early intervention centres, so i basically have to suck it up?
BEST: Miss 6 is enjoying grade 1, and received a birthday party invite yesterday from a new friend.
OMM: how to make it through the year at the boys kindy without punching someone
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And sounds like they know it, too (that it is the only one in your area). Are they independent or is there a governing chain / organisation that might help to talk to?
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Rick they are independent, unfortunately i don’t think i can take it any further as it may then negatively impact on my boys
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Then I wish you strength and good humour into the year, you may need it!
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Deb that is just awful. People can be really awful sometimes and things like this are so upsetting. Many years ago a waitress at a hotel where I had an office told the GM that I’d said some racial slur to her – she was Asian. I of course never said such a thing and never would. it was such a shock. But I felt like they believed her regardless.
The people you are dealing with should be supporting you not conjuring up all this trouble. Do you have a relative or friend who can support you with this issue? It’s too much to deal with on your own.
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Best: The sun is out! Need I say more?
Best: After having my surprise wisdom tooth extraction on Wednesday morning I have been pleasantly surprised with only 24 hours of mild pain and then only a small amount of light pain.
Best: FINALLY! Everything needed for my trip has been paid for! All my tours, flights and the difficult accom. So happy!! except……
OMM: Travel insurance. Bane of my current existence. (FWP yes I know). Everyone has bad things to say about every company and I have NO IDEA what to do.
Also…. trying to decide what to read next. I have way to many books I have not read and so many on this site that are suggested every week that I would like… I am meant to be saving!! Although I am proud to say I haven’t bought a book since Christmas for myself…. probably the longest time between buying books ever!
Have a wonderful weekend all
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I’ve only had to claim on travel insurance once (thankfully!) and I had no issues – only problem is I can’t remember the company name, only that it was backed by QBE (and I only remember that part because I’m a Sydney swans supporter and QBE are a major sponser!)
My camera was stolen in Spain, and the claim process was so smooth and easy. Filled in the form, provided a police statement (in spanish, which they had no qualms about), put my sister down as the contact as she was in Melbourne still and they called her up and offered either a new camera, or the money, no questions asked. If I remember the name I’ll get back to you, but don’t fear – they aren’t all bad! Besides, hopefully you won’t need to use it anyway!
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Worst: Technical issues at work making it impossible to meet deadlines.
Best: Coming home to my beautiful, supportive boyf after these long days and him making it all better.
OMM: My poor best friend who just cannot catch a break. Her dog (which was like a sibling to her),died, then her Nan also passed away. Then her boyfriend’s mum gets cancer. Then her Uncle is an ass about her Nan’s money (greedy bastard did nothing to help, but put his hand out his whole life) and then the man who has basically played the role of her father has been diagnosed with cancer also. It’s just not fair, this shit always happens to the people who don’t deserve it.
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Worst: took our daughter to a child health nurse who agreed with my worries about her eye. She is now booked into an eye specialist for next month. I have vowed not to Google treatments since my Husband mentioned something about having to wear an eye patch for a few months straight. I know this is not the worst thing in the world but this combined with her torticollis is frustrating me. I can’t help but think what did I do wrong? And now I’m stressing about how to pay for neck and eye specialists in the same month.
Best: B. and I had a day out yesterday to visit a friend. Despite the fact that she was teething we had lots of fun. My relationship with Husband has strengthened considerably from the last few weeks of yuckiness and we’re going on a little family holiday tomorrow.
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You did not do anything wrong. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to get your bub’s health sorted out so that she can get treatment and that is the best thing you can do. I understand the difficulty of working out how to pay for specialists and I hope that it works out for you without too much stress.
I hope you enjoy your holiday and try not to worry about treatment before you see the specialist.
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My oldest had an eye patch from 3 to 5 years. It meant that she avoided surgery on her eye. The earlier you treat, the better result. You’ve done the right thing. My daughter’s lazy eye is still a bit weaker and she has an astygmatism (just needs her lenses adjusted), but she wears glasses anyway and has worn contacts at different times, but it doesn’t really make any difference to her life.
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Best: I went out to a Japanese Tepanyaki restaurant last night for my Mum’s birthday. I’ve never done that before and it was amazing. The food was just delicious (who knew vegetables could taste like that!) and watching the Chef prepare it in front of us was so entertaining. My daughters (even the fussy vegetarian) loved it. I can’t wait to go back.
Worst: My partner leaves on Tuesday to live interstate for his new job. It’s 4 weeks on, 1 week off so we’ll see him when he flies home for that one week. I’ve never done long distance before so I’m worried about how it’s going to go. I’d love to hear from anyone who does/has done this kind of relationship or any tips for long distance?
OMM: My 14yo daughter has dyed her brown hair blonde with a home box dye (against my wishes) and it looks mostly orange with yellow patches. She loves it though. I know I shouldn’t be so damn judgemental but she had such lovely hair and now it’s so fluorescent. I haven’t voiced my opinion out loud though of course but I’m thinking it on the inside so I’m a terrible mother and I’m going to hell.
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Ok so I did long distance for 3 months, which doesnt sound like much, but it was still a learning curve (i moved to be with him in 3 months because the job prospects in my home town were atrocious, and the new city had so many options).
For us, we kept in regular contact, and used any method of communication we could. We facebooked, sent texts, had long calls, and skyped. By doing it that way, we had all the communication, and simply lacked the physical intimacy (until we were reunited about once a month for a few days). We basically both made sure that even though there were so many kilometres between us, we still had a special relationship
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I have a 16 yo who dyes hers all the time, from brunette to ice blond, she’s happy, although when she asks me or whinges about the colours I just shrug my shoulders and say it’s your hair Ralph! (family saying lol) she though she was going to shock me when she got the ice blond and purple dye, when I showed no interest, the purple is still in the bathroom cupboard, about 4 months ago. Let her go, it’s harmless;) well I figure mine will soon stop;) good luck
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Oh I did that to my hair when I was 14 and my mother was horrified and yet I thought I looked very cool. 20 years later and I still have a photo of my handiwork and there is no wonder mum went a bit crazy – it was hideous. I’ve never touched a home box dye kit since
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Best and Worst together:
My sister posted a photo of my niece starting her first day of Grade 1 on facebook….my heart just melted! I remember holding her as a new born and now this. I felt so proud as an aunty looking at that photo and rang my sister up immediately and can’t wait to skype with my niece soon so she can tell me all about school
And the worst in all this is of course missing my family – I wonder when I will see my nieces again and hold them and cover them in kisses and tell them I love them. They are little so they don’t understand what it means that I’m living overseas but it’s so hard to think that I’m so far away.
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Ok I’ve decided to stay anon for this post –
It’s about my OMM: I am one of those people who used to get really really bad period pains, the type of pain where I could hardly move. Anyway I have been on the pill for about 6 years now (I started on the pill much later than most people I know).
Anyway in those 6 years I have been on 3 different brands of pills, yes they have helped by reducing the length of my period and helping somewhat with the pain, but I am still having problems. The first 2 days feel like hell, I feel like I can’t function, I get cramps, I feel dizzy and just CRAP. I just want to lay in bed all day and not do anything.
Also I’m noticing my need for sex is diminishing, when I first met my husband we used to have sex all the time but over the years and most recently I feel like I just don’t have the desire, but then suddenly this overwhelming feeling will come over me and I just want to attack him…(in a good way).
So I’m wondering is this all related to being on the pill, and if so should I get off it or are there other forms of birth control etc that I should be trying? I just hate the way I feel at this time of month!
Any advice would be appreciated.
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I have had woeful period pains, cramps, bloating and crazy-lady tendencies since having my two bubbas. Comparing this to a relatively simple period cycle pre-child I was rather shocked. Not sure if you had had kids, but I do know that it makes a huge difference to how your body handles the hormones. Subsequently I am back on the pill to manage the symptoms, and am using Yasmin and finding it helps. Still not perfect, but a vast improvement to laying on the couch with heat packs on my crotch for hours (not a pretty sight!). My mum always recommends cutting back my sugar and salt intake in the week before my period is due, and taking evening primrose oil aswell. Occasionally I remember, and it helps.
I would try and get an appointment with a female GP or a male GP with an open mind for alternative therapies and really take the time to explain how you feel. The dizziness could be due to heavy blood loss (uck) or low iron levels too?
Best of luck!
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I think you should discuss it with your doctor.
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You have my sympathies where your period is concerned! I have shocking periods – the pain can be so intense sometimes. I was on the pill and mini-pill (multiple varieties) for years and found that they did very little to help with my period, plus they gave my horrendous PMS and my libido packed its bags and left.
After a few years I’d had enough of the synthetic hormones and spoke to my doctor about my periods. We discussed pain management options and he put me onto a painkiller called Ponstan which I’ve found immensely helpful (unlike panadol and nurofen which had no effect what-so-ever.)
The pain is not gone, but manageable. I still feel quite gross (sweaty, headachey, back hurts, hot flushes, cold chills, etc.) when I get my period but I can now get through them without taking to my bed for three days a month!
So maybe chat with your doctor about other ways to manage your symptoms if you’re finding the pill having too many negative effects.
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Perhaps a merina (?s). It’s an iud. Obviously talk to your doctor, but something to think about.
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I would recommend seeing your gp for a referral to a gyne. Severe period pain isn’t normal. It could be a sign of something like endometriosis. Probably getting it looked at may give you some more answers.
And I thought diminishing sex drive was just all part of getting older
?? I have heard a saying – if you put a penny in a jar for every time you have sex before you get married, and take one out everytime you have sex after you get married, you would never get to the bottom of the jar.
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I’ve been a sufferer of severe period pain as well over the years. I was put on Trifime a few years ago. It has helped a lot but sometimes I still experience heavy bleeds, pain etc.
My doctor did tell me that certain pills will dimish your sex drive.
I think you really need to speak honestly and openly to your doctor or a gynaecologist about your issues/concerns. Only they can truly help you explore your options to stabilise flow and decrease pain.
There are general things that can stop/ease pain like not drinking anything caffeinated, drinking lots of water, and regular exercise.
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Def go see a gynaecologist !! Pronto girl!
For me exercising enough to break a sweat before my period really helps & i take panadeine & magnesium.
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I have endometriosis, and the best thing my gynae ever did for me was firstly to put me on the Pill continuously for two years (I don’t know if this is standard procedure or not) and then only having a break every three months. If it is something like endometriosis (similar symptoms to mine, but they can mean a lot of things!), doctors sometimes suggest taking the Pill for longer stretches to help stabilise hormones and control endometrium growth.
Hormonally, I will be thrilled to get off the Pill (nausea at the start of Pill cycle and lack of libido being the main ones, but not sure how I’ll cope with a monthly period after a decade of not having to! (If I’m off the Pill, it will also mean we are TTC.
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Best:
1. Finally got over my writers block and put up a new post on my blog and finished an assignment!
2. Giving my boyfriend a key to my apartment
Worst
1. I went on my first job interview in 2 years and have never felt so nervous in my life!
OMM
1. Wondering if moving in with my bf is the right choice.
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First can i just say how adorable this weeks best and worse photo is! Those cute little fingers look so happy
Best: school is back and I finally a bit more time to my self. I still have a 2 year old at home but shopping and cleaning is easier with one as opposed to 3, and one child can’t fight and bicker with himself.
Worst: school is back and so are early mornings and ironing unifrms and making lunches. I’m a total sook arn’t I
OMM: going back to work this year and dealing with the extra workload, i’m really excited but at the same time concerned It will all be too much to juggle. My main concern is letting anyone down.
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I’ve had a crappy week.
Worst: A very close family friend has only a matter of days to live. She has been battling ovarian cancer for 8 years and there is nothing else that can be done for her. She became extremely ill on NYE and has rapidly declined. She is home with her husband for the last few days of her life. I am so sad I can’t find words to describe it.
Another worst: My dad found out he has prostate cancer earlier this week.
Best: My dad’s diagnosis has been very early. All follow-up CT and bone scans have revealed nothing else is going on. Treatment is yet to be decided but will not be anything as horrible as the radiation and chemo he had when he had throat cancer a decade ago.
Another best: My eldest daughter turned 5 this week. She had a lovely day and I threw her a gorgeous little party which she was thrilled with. Her friends and her all got along so well over the 2 hours. There was not a cross word, bit of argy-bargy or a tear among them. They were angels. It doesn’t happen often and I’m so glad it did on her special day.
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Oh my gosh! I’m so sorry to hear about your family friend. My thoughts are with all her family and friends and her husband right now.
That sucks about your dad, but wow, that’s definitely a good side to some bad news. And I’m glad to hear about your daughter, that’s fantastic! Sounds like a pretty breezy and pleasant day for all!
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Thanks fiona, you’ve summarised it all very well
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Cordeline, it’s lovely to hear from you – I’m just so sorry it’s not under better circumstances. If I could reach through the computer and give you a hug, I would. Poor love. Be good to yourself this week. Sending much love xx
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Thanks picardie, that’s very sweet of you. There were lots of tears from me last night so hugs have been very needed.
How did your Christmas craft projects go? Did you get it all done? x
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Oh, whoops! Bit late back to this post. Sorry.
Christmas was epic – sewing down to the wire (and up until 3am) – but I got it all done. Should’ve taken a photo of everyone with their handmade goodies! All well received; I was very chuffed.
How are you holding up?
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Hey Cordeline, I was just wondering yesterday where you’d been. You look after yourself.
Great to hear about the big 5 year old party!
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Aw, thanks Kris. Can’t believe someone noticed I’ve been AWOL. That’s made me smile.
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Definitely noticed you being AWOL. Love reading your posts Cordeline. So sorry you are having a sad time right now xo
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Ditto – missed you, Cordeline. We noticed. x
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BEST: Just love love love my little baby. Watching him grow and develop and seeing his goregoeus little smile just makes me so happy.
OMM: Sometimes I jsut feel so shy and out of place. I have a lovley husband and a small circle of close friends but just wish i was better at meeting new people. I have started a mothers group and a playgroup but sometimes I just feel so uncomforatble amongst new people and feel like i dont fit in. I am trying really hard to go to these things as i feel it is importnat that as he is growing up my baby gets to socialise with other children. But sometimes I just dont know what to say to the other mums. We do talk alot about our children so there is an easy topic but sometimes i just find it so hard and dont always feel like i fit in. There does seem to be a few that just buy buy buy every baby thing around but I dont feel the need to do this and dont think my baby will be disadvanteed by this at all. But they are all lovely ladies who love and adore their little ones as much as I do. I guess I am scared that people will develop close frinedships within the group and I will be left behind a bit as i am a bit shyer.
Best wishes to Bec and your family. Cannot believe how excited I am to hear of your news considering I dont even know you personally! xxx
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I feel like I’m in a similar position, I started up a playgroup so I could have more contact with other parents but I really struggle with the small talk, especially when I see how confident the other mums are. I’m noticing it more now, as everyone returns to work after finishing their maternity leave. I’ve chosen to be a full-time stay at home mum and have been made to feel that I’ve made the wrong decision and that I should be working. I feel I can’t contribute to their conversations about work, because I honestly can’t relate to how they are feeling and what they are experiencing.
Hopefully you find a connection to another mum soon
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I take KDot to playgroup, I found if I just sat with one or two people for the duration, you get to know more about them than just what their kid has done this week. And talk about yourself too!
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Anon I reckon there’s a lot of people who feel like you do. I’m pretty shy and usually feel like the outsider, and I think having kids exacerbates this because you’re thrown together – at mothers group, playgroup, activities – with people whom you don’t have a lot in common. My mums group still laugh about our first meeting when we all thought that everyone else was coping so well with their first borns, turns out we all put on a good act!
Keep putting yourself out there because you will meet some people who you can become friends with. But I’d say also,’don’t stress too much about it. Most of us feel like you do, we just hide it well
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Also, you don’t have to like everyone, and not everyone has to like you either. And that’s OK. I get on well with most of the Mums I’ve ended up knowing, but there are few where we just rub each other the wrong way or just have nothing in common with. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s normal.