Mamamia reader Adele* wrote in to ask for some collective wisdom in the poignant Group Therapy post. She writes….
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“I am a 43 woman who’s son has asked me to help out a schoolfriend. She 15 years old and pregnant and does not have any support in her own family for school or otherwise. She has a lot to do with my son through leadership stuff at school but they do not have a physical relationship. This girl is pregnant (she thinks) and doesn’t know what to do.
I haven’t been a teenager for a long time, so do not know what online ‘unbiased’ support is out there for young girls in this situation. I tried googling it and didn’t find much in terms of forums where she could ask questions, or talk to other girls like herself.
So I am turning to Mamamia for help. Can anyone tell me where I should go?”
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I know this is quite old but I really felt like giving my 5c worth...
I'm just amazed at all those comment suggesting automatic abortion just because she is 15. My sister-in-law had her first son at 16 and ended up marrying the father (and had another 2 children with him) and I know that her father didnt talk to her for months after he found out she was pregnant, but he came around.
I also had a talk to my mum a while ago asking her what she would have done if i had fallen pregnant at that age, and she said you where still a minor if you'd chosen to keep the baby I would have helped out so you could have finished school and you'd stayed with us until you'd finished school.
So I think Adele, you should invite the girl for a cuppa and find out more about her, has she done a pregnancy test or is she too embarrassed to buy one. Would she like your or anyone elses support to break the news to her family.
I think as the first adault person to know about this its important to be on her side.
If she doesnt get any support from her family after telling them about her pregnancy, i think you should help find it somewhere else.
I know that our community health center has a child heath nurse that does a early 'mentoring' programm especilly for pregnant young mums and their partners.
And depending on where you live there might be other programms for them in place, I know that KingEdwardMemorial Hospital in Perth has a teenmums clinic. I think those places are a good start.
Wow, I disagree with a good portion of the comments below. I became pregnant at 15 and keeping my daughter was the best choice I've ever made. Though my schooling had to hold off I still continued and am now attending nursing courses for my degree. She doesn't need to abort her baby just because its an inconvenience in her life. She shouldn't of been engaging in sexual action otherwise. Teens these days seem to be more ignorant then ever, but being a GOOD and responsible mother at any age is possible. She'll just have to grow up and mature. If she doesn't want the baby there is a lot of couples out there who would love her child and raise it in a home of love. She's not the only girl to ever be pregnant young. It's possible to get help, from the state in these cases. There are places she can seek online to stay at if her family kicks her out. The state also offers to pay for her doctor app and her delivery. There are options, abortion shouldn't be the only one crossing her mind.