By FELICITY LENEHAN
Princess Kate has Hyperemesis Gravidarum which is more commonly referred to (especially by the media this week who have become obsessed with what Kate is going through) as “acute morning sickness”.
Acute morning sickness? Pfft.
Hyperemesis Gravidarum is HELL.
A week or so before your period is due, waves of nausea interrupt your day, and one evening you start to vomit. By the time you do your pregnancy test, you are vomiting a couple of times a day – you know you must be pregnant before that little blue line tells you.
But instead of being a joyful celebration of a much longed-for baby, the moment is fraught with fear about how you’ll cope with this level of nausea and vomiting for the predicted 12 weeks. Little do you know Hyperemesis Gravidarum bypasses this magic number completely, often lasting for at least half the pregnancy, sometimes the whole nine months.
You start being kept awake at night with nausea – no position you lay in will ease it, even rolling ever-so gently causes you to vomit and the only thing you can do is cry. This is not “morning”, it is the middle of the night… morning is much worse. You try and get out of bed and carry on with your life as normal, but it causes violent vomiting, time and time again. After vomiting for the seventh time in an hour you start counting, in both disbelief and deep fear.
After a week, you find this devastating nausea never leaves, and the incessant vomiting is going on all day and sporadically throughout the night. You are crippled with sickness, rendered bedridden 24 hours a day. You’re desperately worried about your baby, because you have not been able to eat a morsel of food, and the thought of putting some liquid down your throat brings on a swell of nausea and more vomiting. Yet you’re so thirsty – you’re hot, you feel dry and arid inside, and all you want to do is gulp great glassfuls of some sort of liquid. You shiver as if with a fever, but it’s your body responding to dehydration.
You haven’t showered because the one time you tried, the raining drops were enough to make your weakened body so faint you had to lie on the floor tiles. Reaching up to turn off the tap was all you could manage until someone came and dressed you and carried you back to bed.
After three weeks of nothing to eat or drink you feel skeletal. Your husband forces you to go to the doctor. The car trip seems undoable, but somehow he gets you there, stopping many times for the relentless vomiting. The doctor looks at your grey face, your lips cracked and bleeding with dehydration, your dried out tongue stuck to the inside of your mouth, your weight loss of nine kilos in three weeks. He admits you immediately into hospital.
The hospital staff take seven attempts to insert a canular into veins which are so dehydrated they keep collapsing. Then they leave you, attached to life giving nutrients and fluids. The nausea and vomiting continues but despite this after a few days you feel as if you might not die. But they will not let you leave the ward until you can drink by yourself, and this is still proving impossible – small sips of room temperature water, flat lemonade, ginger beer, even sucking on ice cubes – you have tried everything the nurses have suggested but still it causes vomiting.
The doctor decides to administer IV anti-nausea medication. It finally provides a window of relief and for the first time in weeks you manage some small sips of apple juice. You are allowed to go home with an oral version of the anti-nausea medication. Doctors and midwives assure you repeatedly that it is safe for your baby; that the malnutrition and dehydration is far worse for both of you.
However, the oral version proves ineffective and you are back lying on the Emergency department floor vomiting. You are only eight weeks pregnant, and do not yet realise that this condition can last all pregnancy. You’ve started to lose the will to survive this, and there is no end in sight.
The doctors are calling this thing Hyperemesis Gravidarum. It is not morning sickness – it’s a different kettle of fish altogether, when your life stops, you’re bedridden and you cannot achieve something as simple as a sip of water. You read later in researching Hyperemesis that English novelist Charlotte Bronte died of the condition in 1855.
The implications of the condition are: Use of medication throughout the pregnancy to slow the vomiting and reduce the nausea – an anti-emetic used by Chemotherapy patients commonly. Then there will be regular hospital stays to keep rehydration up. If these things are not proving effective enough, then there are steroids, but like all options, there are side effects for the mother and baby in some cases. If this doesn’t work you are looking at spending the whole pregnancy in hospital, drinking via a drip, and receiving nutrients via a feeding tube – in some cases one inserted into the jugular bypassing the stomach.
And if none of this works? In rare cases, we have to look at saving both the mother and baby’s lives, they say, and deliver early – some cases as early as 26 weeks gestation.
All you can do is look at them in disbelief. How is it possible that pregnancy is so natural to most women in this world, and yet making this little life can have put you on a path that in the past has caused death?
Personally, I consider myself lucky. My Hyperemesis lasts for about seven months of the pregnancy, then changes to morning sickness – just one little vomit a day with all day nausea, til the end. I have taken the drugs, to the open disgust of some people, and most of the time I feel as if they’re ineffective because I still end up in hospital, and what I really want them to do is take the torture away altogether. But I cannot do nothing, because then I would feel as if I was just welcoming that dying feeling.
But you know what? This is the fourth time I have lived through Hyperemesis Gravidarum. And you know why? Because there is no prize more worth it. But until then, let’s not forget that Princess Kate is not suffering “acute morning sickness”: She is suffering hell.
Felicity Lenehan is a writer and blogger on all things lifestyle (you can find her musings on motherhood here -) and has survived Hyperemesis Gravidarum four times.









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Thank you! I suffered Hyperemesis Gravidarem four times. I lost 20 lbs in 3 weeks. My weight was in the 1st percentile for my height and age when I was five months pregnant. Hyeperemesis Gravidarem is more than “just” morning sickness; it’s starvation and dehydration! The sufferer slowly fades away; mind and body. Eventually they lose the ability to speak coherently , to advocate for themselves, and to keep eye contact for more than a couple seconds. It’s hard, it’s real, but it is worth it.
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I know from experience what this feels like, although (bless) was not to the extent of above. It is horrendous. I am not sure what is worse the continued unabated nausea or the complete feeling of being overwhelmed as to when it will it stop. You wonder when you will get your life back. I had the identical sickness this year from totally different reasons. There was an immense difference as to how I was treated by not only friend and family but by the medical world. This year after being diagnosed with a molar pregnancy, following two curettes and finally a hysterectomy it was decided I would go through chemotherapy to bring my still high HCG levels down. Hyperemesis Gravidarum and the aftereffects of Chemo feel the same, having had both I think I can attest to this. Except everyone is very kind when you have Chemo, there is a lot of heads tilting down when people speak to you…it is an awful feeling- people feeling sorry for you- but there is a lot of help and understanding unlike with HG. When I was pregnant the attitude was just get yourself together, it really cant be that bad, as if I was putting it on. I trip into the hospital or ER when having Chemo people can not do enough for you, to try to make you feel a little better. Its a totally totally different story with HG. I know of people (as we all probably do) that have chosen not to do Chemo even if it extends there life by some time as it is just such an awful experience. Luckily I did not have HG it with my other children luckily only with the last. Had it been my first I would have been terrified to go through that again.
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I had your standard morning sickness with number 1 up til 12 weeks and expected the same for number 2. I was wrong. I started vomiting 4 days after we conceived him and it only got worse. Several hospital trips, permanently on maxalon, zofran and ranitidine (sp). Had to take the whole pregnancy off work. I couldn’t get out of bed most days so I am lucky to have a fantastic mother-in-law who moved in to help me with my then 1yo. My husband had to help me shower and get dressed. I passed out frequently which resulted in a lot of bruising from falling onto things so I decided it was safer to stay still. My own mother was little comfort as she never even experienced nausea while pregnant so assumes it’s just some conspiracy us “gen y” kids made up. Told me while at the hospital (by phone) that I should just harden up because I was just playing it up anyway. My HG lessened towards the end of the pregnancy, fluctuating between that and morning sickness. It lasted til my son was 2 weeks old. (was born at 41+4). I am now 30 weeks with my third and I think I have felt nauseous for a total of 5 days this pregnancy. Only vomited when I got gastro a few months ago. There is hope that it doesn’t repeat.
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Sandra there are no useful words….but i wanted to acknowledge the terrible pain you have been through and send some love x
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I am so grateful that now, at 25 weeks, the constant, 24-hour-a-day nausea and vomiting have finally abated to a couple of times a day. It just gets to the point where you never think you’ll be well again. I tried all the medication and it just didn’t work, so I gave it away. This is my second child and there’s no way I’m doing this again, it has been just awful.
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I suffered nausea and vomiting (not to the extent described above, thank God) for the whole nine months with my third, born three weeks ago. I won’t be going back again. The only good thing about it was that, as soon as she was born, the depression and misery I had suffered for nine months lifted. Even a bit sleepless and recovering from childbirth, I’ve been feeling the most incredible sense of well being I have ever felt. Every meal tastes amazing. I don’t think I will ever take the feeling of being well for granted ever again.
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You know when I read about Kate expecting I was happy for her. Good luck to her and her bubs. But I’ll tell you I was also rather bloody angry. Not at her mind you but at the health profession as it bought all my old anger up again.
For my second pregnancy I was diagnosed with HG. I weighed 58kg at the start of pregnancy and lost over 6% of my pre-pregnancy body weight within 8 weeks of pregnancy!
6% of 58kg is rather a lot of weight if you’re only 5’6.
I had ketones in my urine (apparently sign of starvation as burning muscle). I could not keep water never mind food down. The smell of soap and toothpaste or any food made me vomit. I could actually smell the water in taps…really. And that made me vomit. I had to change all my skin care to be fragrance free as I could not stand the smell.
Added to that I had no family and a husband who was travelling OS all the time (it was either that or leave his job and we didnt want to do that as I was pregnant) and then to top it all I had a 15mth old to look after and a 3 day a week job to hold down.
I had to drive to hospital every second day to be put on an IV for fluids and while I was fitted to an IV I had to chase my 15mth old around the hospital.
Once I was so weak I could barely stand. I was pushing the IV and holding a vomiting tray and I asked nurse could someone please please look after my child. I needed to lie down. They said there was no childcare and then she walked off.
Yes looking back now I can hardly believe it.
On one trip I was so weak and nauseous I could not get off the trolley. I could feel the staff annoyance at me (they knew me rather well by now) They finally admitted me – reluctantly I felt – when they were trying to discharge me after 4 hrs of IV and I just kept vomiting in the cubicle and couldnt stand.
They continued pumping me with Zofran (a drug used in cancer treatment and not tested on pregnant women so imagine how relaxed that made me feel).
Feeding tubes hovered over head.
So I have to say when i read about kate being admitted for a few days it made me angry.
Its clear now the hospital and docs did not take HG seriously at least for me. How blissful for Kate to be admitted for a few days rest. Looking back this is all I need. I would have done anything to have been admitted to hospital. My husband took as much time of work as he could but he couldnt take the 8 weeks I had HG off and so I had to soldier on.
If kates experience of HG raises awareness of this issue I think this will be good thing. Research into causes and more importantly more responsive and sympathetic treatment in Australian health care is sorely needed, something I clearly did not get.
Before I sign off I should say 6 months later I delivered an 4.8KG healthy baby boy – no pain relief and within 2.5hrs wo to go.
Obviously he wasnt affected by the HG!
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I had it nearly my whole pregnace and i felt the same alot of the time. like they were annoyed with me. there were a couple nice ones but not many. I never got admitted either they would hook me up with ivs n try to force me to eat something n then send me home
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Wow this story took me back. My HG began at 8weeks and continued to 6 months. My greatest worry was the fact that I had a demanding full time job and was already scraping the money together to cover maternity leave. I lay in bed that first week wondering would I have to choose between my baby and paying the mortgage on my house…an obvious choice but losing your home while pregnant and sick would be hard also.
After losing 8 kilos in a week, I was hospitalised with dehydration in a 40degree heatwave. Thankfully Zofran worked for me…I was still too nauseous to eat but could hold down water and dry toast. I managed work but only by napping on the floor of the boardroom at lunchtime and collapsing into bed at 6.30 each evening.
The issue is that this drug which is a necessity for survival for so many HG sufferers is frighteningly expensive and not covered by medicare. Maybe seing as Mia is now on close terms with the Federal Minister for Health she can help us out on this one.
Felicity how did you manage in subsequent pregnancies when you had to cope with the sickness and take care of your kids?
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Well written! This was me exactly three times over and such a misunderstood condition.
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Just a question for fellow HG sufferers, I had HG with my daughter, now almost two years old and we are contemplating trying for another now (call me crazy…) Was wondering how many of you had it again in subsequent pregnancies? Thanks
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I had it with my first. It was the reason we waited 4 years to try again. I had it again with my second. No more babies for us. I wish you all the best.
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Hi,
I have had it in all four pregnancies – the repeat rate is 95% – but each time I have dealt with it better. I think when you know what’s coming you can prepare, and dealing with it aggressively from the first signs, or even from the moment you know you’re pregnant, can really, really help. Also, surrounding yourself with people who know, who’ve lived through it, or just those who are understanding, is an enormous help. I found the Hyperemesis Gravidarum Australia Facebook page an enormous help – both in terms of information about treatments out there and good obstetricians who know how to treat the illness, as well as support from ladies living through it with you, or those who have in the past – there are even ladies preparing for another pregnancy who gain support and advice here. It’s been invaluable. I wish you the very best of confidence in another pregnancy, luck that it doesn’t visit you again, and strong will if it does. xx
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Thank you ladies xx
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I had it in both of mine, but like Felicity said it helps to know that it’s coming, I was still just as sick, if not sicker but I knew what was coming, and my Doctor knew to put me on Zofran immediately instead of mucking around with every other medication first.
We also organised for me to be at my Mum’s house through the week, so she could watch our little girl and so i would be around people and not at home on my own wishing I would die already.
Best of luck to you xx
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I had hg with both pregnancies but the benefit second time around was that everyone knew what was happening this time. My boss gave me two months sick leave, I didn’t delay going to hospital for IV treatment. It was still really hard but better managed the second time. Good luck!
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I was reading this and telling my fella over my shoulder, and I said,”It’s not just morning sickness, she vomited seven times in an hour!”
To which he replied,: “I can do that just by getting drunk.”
They just don’t get it, do they?
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Oh dear lord, Felicity, you are one tough chick! I felt ill just reading that article. I was super lucky to only feel a little nauseous at the very start of my pregnancy, and even that had passed by ten weeks. I have so much respect for anyone who does it tough – and by that I just mean your standard ‘morning sickness’, let alone Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I can’t even imagine doing it once, let alone FOUR TIMES! Wow. Amazing. I really feel for Kate and hope she doesn’t suffer for too long.
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When I was pregnant with my first, I felt like I was dying. I couldnt eat, couldnt stand the smell of food, couldnt drink anything…. everyone told me it was just morning sickness, everyone gets it, and not to worry about it. But it wasnt just nausea – it was “I’m just going to lie here and try really hard not to move any part of my body lest I throw up all over the place” sickness. Someone cooking something in the same house I was in was torture, because the smells were almost as bad as actually trying to eat something. Every shower I took was a two man operation – I had to have someone listening at the door, or in the room, because every time I got under the water I’d end up lying on the floor just so I wouldn’t fall if I passed out, and also because I was so dizzy I couldn’t actually keep standing.
We had to move house when I was about 16 weeks, and I walked up the stairs to our new apartment for the first time, and promptly fainted six stairs up – luckily on a landing and not on the actual stairs. Thus began six weeks of never-leaving-the-house-ever for fear of having to go back up those stairs again.
Luckily for me, it eased off about six months in. I was still unbearably exhausted for the rest of the pregnancy (I only made it to 29 weeks though), but at least I could move and actually walk up the stairs without fainting or needing to vomit. Until I went into labour – as if it’s not difficult enough being in labour, and that early, I was nauseous and throwing up the whole way through.
I can’t even imagine having to deal with it all for the whole 40 weeks.
I was lucky – my second child I didn’t have any sickness at all, then with my third I found out I was pregnant when I went to the GP with what I thought was food poisoning, and they needed to give me a prey test before they could give me the anti nausea injection. A week before that I had fainted at the shops after going up the escalator – I should have guessed, huh?
Morning sickness my butt. I hope Princess Kate is one of the lucky ones, and it doesn’t last that long.
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I suffered terribly with hyperemesis gravidarum & was diagnosed & treated far too late. I was admitted to hospital, drip rehydrated with 8 litres with no need to urinate. There I stayed in hospital for months just getting worse until drs eventually sent me to ICU to insert a feeding tube directly into my heart(TPN) to bypass my sensitive stomach. I still vomited endlessly even though I wasn’t eating or drinking. I continued to lose weight. The Dr’s cont’d to medicate me with so many drugs that I lost count & they no longer knew what to do with me. Drs discussed termination on several occasions as my liver started to shut down & the risk of heart failure, blood clots & other serious side effects increased. Eventually the concoction of drugs caused me to have an excruciatingly painful siezure and my little girl’s heart stopped beating. My one an only little “Angel Grace” was still born a few days later. I was release from hospital about 10 days later in a wheel chair as I hadn’t walked for months and my muscles has disappeared. Having trained with the best athletes and raced for Australia on the World stage I am no softie. HG was the toughest marathon I have ever endured and HG is why I do not have any children to this day except of course my precious “Angel” in heaven. It is a life threatening illness and needs to be treated seriously. Comparing HG to normal morning sickness is like comparing the common cold to cancer.
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What you went through is unbelievable. I am so sorry for you. I really hope Kate’s pregnancy will spur some research into HG. It is life threatening.
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Oh Sandra, I’m so, so sorry that happened to you.
love Lottie
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Oh this is so terribly sad. I am so sorry for all you suffered, most especially your precious little Grace xx
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Finally there is a name for this tortuous condition (that I know of) and thank you so much for bringing it some much needed PR Mamamia. I really feel for Kate. I suffered severe ‘morning sickness’ and I have to say it really is pure hell. I don’t think I even had HG at it’s worst but it’s something you would not wish on anyone. Both my sister and I suffered similarly and she even had the guts to say to me she felt like committing suicide (how ironic) and I was so relieved she did say it, because that is how I felt some days as well (not that I ever would have). Not knowing when it was going to end and the thought that it could last the whole 9 months was the worst. Imagine having gastro constantly and knowing it will not go away in 24 hours. I was projectile vomiting 1-2 times every day, normal vomiting 5-6 times a day, during the night, every minute of the day I felt sick, the nausea was relentless and incredibly debilitating. The people at work thought I had a terminal illness as I’d told my boss (I had to) but asked him to keep it quiet till I was 12 weeks but I was so ill I could barely work, let alone get there. The only thing I could keep down for 3 and a half months (thankfully-I feel very lucky about the length of my morning sickness) were mandarins…they were the only thing that helped temporarily (I believe they are full of folate which is very interesting). I too suffered from pre-natal depression; a combination of things I think but definately co-factored by the severe sickness and a completely unsupportive husband. The smell of roasting lamb (which my husband continued to cook regardless {we are no longer together}) or our fireplace would make me instantly projectile vomit literally across the room…I’d try and run to a sink but often didn’t make it. I had never projectile vomited before this in my entire life. I remember walking on the beach with my husband at 6 months and just not being able to walk any further, I just couldn’t do it…I wasn’t still suffering the severe morning sickness at this stage thankfully but my beautiful daughter was literally sucking the life out of me. 5 weeks after I gave birth I was again in agony on the ground writhing in pain suffering from gall stones (up there with childbirth and morning sickness) which I feel were induced by the lack of fat/food in my diet (a cause) from the morning sickness. I changed my diet completely for a year and then gave in and had it out…soon after I discovered most of the enamel on my front teeth had disintegrated!! Pregancy was really hard for me and I remember seeing and talking to other women who were ‘glowing’ and ‘loving it’ & ‘I feel amazing’ and feeling so envious…it just seemed so unfair and the guilt at not feeling those things ‘like you should’ was cumbersome. All of the suffering was absolutely worth it as I now have the most beautiful daughter in the world (biased much!) but it has taken me 4 years to even think of ever having another baby…I would love to but it is daunting.
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My sister-in-law had HG with all of her pregnancies for every single day of each of them. She was even vomiting whilst on the table during her CS for at least one of them. She also said that almost within an hour of giving birth and the placenta being removed she felt fine!
My own morning sickness (24/7 for weeks 7-11) barely rates a mention in comparison.
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Just reading that bought back the revolting reality of my pregnancies. First time was shocking, but the second time, I was hospitalised at barely three weeks along after losing 7 kilo in a week. I was barely able to stand up and could do little more than gag. Nothing would ease it, Zofran didn’t touch the sides. But almost worse than the nausea and physical part was the depression that kicked in after two weeks of being bed ridden. I was in and out of hospital until I 4 moths pregnant. (After the nausea settled the pelvic instability kicked in!) Not able to look after my 2.5yo was terrible. You know others are thinking, it’s just morning sickness, surely she could pick herself up a little. I feel terribly sorry for Kate and any woman who has to go through it, it is awful to feel this way when you think you should be thrilled. I hope it doesn’t last too long.
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I knew nothing about this condition before I read this article and the other comments. I’m really glad that I read this and now have some concept of how horrific HG is.
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Although not diagnosed with HG I had terrible all day nausea and vomiting for the first 16 weeks of my first pregnancy. The constant nausea is debilitating, depressing and relentless. I thought surely it would be easier with my second pregnancy, but as Murphy’s Law of Parenthood goes it was much much worse, and lasted not 16 weeks but the entire pregnancy. Oh, and just in case it wasn’t bad enough as it was…. because of my weakened pelvic floor muscles I would do a wee each time vomited! I worked out a good system to cover the output from both ends – where I would vomit into a bucket whilst sitting on the toilet. And the crazy thing is that my husband and I are talking about number 3! The prize at the end is just so so worth it
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I am 33 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child and so 3rd round of Hyperemisis. I cried all the way through reading this…. just to realise someone else experienced so much of what I did. This last pregnancy has been the toughest, for sure…. if it wasn’t for the support of friends and family I would not have gotten through it this far! As the author said, now at 7 months it’s a bit more like what I suspect regular morning sickness is like. Grateful to see a bit more awareness about it all being shared… though the unrelenting stomach-clenching nausea and vomiting (burst blood vessels all over your face from the vomiting, anyone?!) is something that can never be fully described. Before I even had my first I was sure labour could not be worse and I was right – give me labour and birth any day
Through all the bed-ridden months, I tried to keep in mind what a blessing it still was to be pregnant and that this precious little life was so worth the agony to get there… so worth it I have gone through it three times. I know those 9 months (though NEVER forgotten) are far outweighed by the years of love and laughter and life with that child!
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Thank-you for this post. I think it is great that women can share what they have often willingly endured for their children. As someone else commented below, every time I have severe gastro, I remember what it was like to be pregnant – except it lasted 18 weeks, not a few days. As many have said below, with the first child it is more manageable, you use up all your sick leave at work and then basically go on early maternity leave. It is damn tough but you’re not responsible for another human-being yet – not one outside of the womb. But as there is no sick leave with parenhood, the second pregnancy is pretty hellish. My husband and mother took over with most of the child-rearing. I couldn’t change a nappy or make my child food (the smell of her porridge sent me in a vomiting frenzy.) Some days passed in a blur in bed and I felt as though I couldn’t remember what it was like to an involved, competent parent. It was very isolating and disorientating. It was wonderful to slowly regain my energy, some semblance of appetite and a will to live midway through the pregnancy. I still always felt queasy and had the odd vomit but it was nothing like the earlier paralysis. So I absolutely feel for those women who have to endure it throughout. It is a physical and mental marathon like no other.
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I was disgusted yesterday to read some pillock from the British college of obstetricians being quoted that if treated with adequate hydratation that hyperemesis gravidarum was a relatively minor treatable condition, I deduced from that statement that the person who said this was either a man, someone who wasn’t actually a doctor or someone who has never been pregnant. I have been ‘ lucky’ enough to have only mild to moderate morning sickness in my 4 pregnancies which was incapacitating enough but I have friends who have had hg and that is another whole world of pain.i feel sorry for Kate if she has hg, and sad that she will be forced to live this pregnancy out under so much media scrutiny .
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Thank you for writing this article. I had HG with all 3 pregnancies & the main reason I didn’t go for number 4 is the simple fact I couldn’t do it again to my husband. He was my rock each time. With our first pregnancy he kept carrying me into the GP’s rooms & the GP would tell him it’s just morning sickness, it will pass. After many weeks (that felt like years) it didn’t & when I started vomiting blood we went to the hospital – where I stayed for days attached to a drip & attempting to eat. With babies 2 & 3 we knew the routine better so we changed drs and were able to get to the hospital and the magical IV fluids a lot quicker. I guess I was lucky – my HG only last for about 4 months. During this time I would be in & out of hospital on a regular basis for rehydration but afterwards the the rest of my pregnancy progressed without drama. It was a horrible time for me but I still feel it was harder for my husband. Through all of this he had to work, look after me (to the point where he had to bathe & dress me), take me to & from hospital &, during the later pregnancies, look after our other kids. Thankfully we had some great family & friends who looked after them & fed them. I just hope that William & Kate have some true family & friends to support them during this – & not keep telling them to try eating ginger as that always fixes morning sickness
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I feel for the duchess.. I have been pregnant three times, and I have two beautiful girls (7 & 5). I tried for another but unfortunately lost it at 14 weeks.
OMG the pregnancies were HELL.. I started vomiting 5-7 times a day at about four weeks and went all the way through to the day of labour, I vomited in the labour room 4 times! It was a nightmare!! All day and all night!
Every single thing I would put past my lips would come out. I was afraid to brush my teeth as even the simple act of brushing teeth would make me vomit. I went to the hospital 4 times with my first pregnancy and about 6 times through my second, my husband had to carry me to the car each time, they basically told me to harden up and suck on some ginger. I tried, I really did!! I don’t think the hospital was very supportive of my ‘extreme morning sickness’ because I also had chronic bleeding throughout. (i guess they were more concered with the bleeding) But let me tell all the haters and people quick to judge pregnant women who have ‘morning sickness’ and should harden up! You try living with your head in the toilet, or in a bag, or in a bucket for 40 weeks and tell me how you like it?? It’s physically, emotionally, financially and enormously draining.. Have a heart. I saw somewhere on a blog today that the duchess “will be right she’s got the best doctors at her beck and call” if doctors could rectify the shit some of us have to go through.. They deserve to be the next king of the commonwealth! And if I hear the words “acute morning sickness” one more time I’m going to scream!! As felicity put it so eloquently it’s HELL
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I also suffered from HG with my daughter – 7 and a half months of nausea hell. It is certainly not morning sickness and is extremely debilitating. I was hospitalised once with dehydration and spent 8 months on zofran (the anti-emetic used with cancer patients) which cost $8 per pill – and I needed 3 per day just to make it through. Miss one and I was literally on my knees vomiting for hours. I suffered a lot of judgement for taking medication whilst pregnant but my OB was great – her theory, better to take in nutrients through food and hydration than to worry about the medication.
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Thank you Felicity, you captured it better than I could have ever expressed it. I was pregnant three times and lost all three. Each time I suffered this terribly and my husband didn’t want children so he was totally unsupportive. I could see my ribs sticking out at 8 weeks. My doctor was of very little help and I was only admitted once to hospital when terribly dehydrated. I couldn’t sleep for the dry-reaching and prayed at night for morning to come. I would pray during the day for night to come so I could try and sleep.
I tried to go to work daily and I would get off at every second bus stop to vomit. I felt it was so unfair that not having any support I should also have such severe symptoms (I lost my faith for a bit there). Calling it severe morning sickness does not paint the picture, and I thank you for making me remember why I couldn’t cope and that I wasn’t just ‘hysterical’.
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Oh Helen, it sounds like you have been to hell and back . I hope life has picked up a bit for you.
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This is the best article I have read on mamma Mia for a long time. Thank you. I feel incredibly lucky that I never had this debilitating illness but having had other unexpected upsets throughout my pregnancies I know the relief and gratitude I feel when someone brings the reality to light. Well written, well explained.
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My heart ( & stomach) goes out to the Duchess…. I suffered terribly with both my pregnancies for the first 20 weeks when finally I was freed from the grips of Hell!
The bundle of joy at the end of it does make it all worth it, but I have to say I truly admire you Felicity for bearing through it 4 times! Twice was all I could do!
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My decision to terminate was strongly informed by HG. It just wasn’t feasible for me to be in hospital or in bed for months on end.
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I believe this is a commen thing in severe hg.
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I was actually thinking that while reading the article. If you weren’t desperate for the baby then god it’d be hard to stick out, as terrible as that may sound.
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Frightening. As if I need another reason not to want to experience a pregnancy…
What I’d like to know is how is it possible to have a pregnancy like this and come out of it with a healthy baby? Don’t you need to be healthy throughout the pregnancy?
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Yeah in the truest sense of the word babies are parasitic, they will take all the nutrients from your body completely depleting your stores.
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I had severe morning sickness with both children and I was told that morning sickness is a sign that the pregnancy is going strong, as it indicates higher hormone levels. However I always suspected that this might just be to make women feel better about being sick …
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Holy moly. I feel nauseous just reading this post.
After hearing about Kate yesterday and reading this post and some of the comments today, I’m beginning to seriously fear my future pregnancies!
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Me too Jane. both my mum and nan suffered throughout their pregnancies, a reason why my nan stopped at 2 kids, even tho she wanted more. My mum lost 10kgs with me. I’m too scared to ask if it was HG…
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I suffered HG with my second pregnancy which came as a complete shock as I didn’t have even mild morning sickness with my first. 14-23 weeks and it was horrible, with my medication I could sip 5ml of water every 5 minutes as directed by my Dr and that kept me away from hospital. The HG (combined with a traumatic birth) was enough to keep me away from attempting pg #3.
It’s amazing how few know about it, even those recently pregnant.
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thanks for sharing this. i’ll now share it too.i haven’t suffered it, but i’m sick of facebook keyboard warriors saying that kate needs to “toughen up”. how would they know what she’s going through? it shits me to tears.
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Holy shit, it took you three weeks of that to decide it might be a good idea to go to a DOCTOR not even a HOSPITAL!? What in the hell!?
That’s seriously the only thing I got out of this article.
(But also, holy shit Kate, if this is really what you have…good luck D8)
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I thought same thing lol
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Yeah, I don’t understand why it would take three weeks of vomiting so much to even think of going to the GP…
Of course some women might think it would go away in a few weeks and wait it out because it’s *just* morning sickness and they don’t recognise that it’s more than that?
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Thank you to all of you who have come forward and told your stories and all the many post-implications of this heinous condition. A great support I have found is the Hyperemesis Australia Facebook page – there are women who had an HG pregnancy years ago, those TTC subsequent HG pregnancies, to many right in the thick of it. It has been a saviour for me, and I plan to remain a support on there for all others when I’m done. Which is definitely after this baby!
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My goodness ! I seriously would not wish this to be inflicted on my worst enemy. I’m so glad that you got through this.
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HG combined with severe depression (which I had pre-pregnancy but pregnancy hormones exacerbated it) meant that I was very sick throughout my pregnancy. I was hospitalised for both conditions, more so for the depression after the HG abated around 20 weeks. I was induced at 37 weeks so I could be put onto a new antidepressant. I was in a mother-baby unit for 4 weeks following my son’s birth having ECT and being stablised enough to go home.
Because of the nightmare of my first pregnancy, it was recommended by a specialist that I do not go through a second one. So I didn’t. Instead, we adopted our daughter six years later. I can say that the long, complicated adopted process was easier than what I endured during my pregnancy.
PS Off topic, but I thought it was odd that the Duchess of Cambridge only a few days ago was having a hit of hockey (in high heels no less) and now she is so ill. If I either knew or thought I was pregnant I wouldn’t have been undertaking an activity like that!
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i enjoyed this article…. i have a friend who suffered from this and while i knew it was rougher than morning sickness i didnt fully understand just how awful it is
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I had this for all 3 of my pregnancies. With my first, I only stopped vomiting the day after the birth. In a 5 year period I spent 24 months with my head in a bucket.
I’d do it all again because my kids are absolutely worth the misery, but I do mourn for my per-HG damaged teeth.
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yes the teeth! I went to the Dentist a few years ago and he said to me “ahhh bad morning sickness was it?”…. the damage it caused was bad!!
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Urgh yeah…my teeth are completely F*d…but people don’t understand how “morning sickness” is the culprit.
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I had HG for 30 weeks and as a result pre natal depression. If anyone else ends up in this leaky boat I cannot recommend a call to PANDA enough!!!
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I had HG for 30 weeks. Waking up every hour to vomit was not fun and led to pre natal depression. Maxolon helped but made it difficult to work. At least I didn’t have to go through this in front of the whole world! Poor Kate!!! I now have the m
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I too suffered from HG. In and out of hospital more times then I could count. After giving birth to my first child, I found myself pregnant again just a few months later. I found it very hard to stick with the pregnancy but I did. Having HG when you have no children is bad enough, but when you have another baby to take care of, it is pure hell. There were days (many days) when I would have to call my mum to come and get my older child out of his crib because I had not been able to drag myself off the bathroom floor. The drugs help, but at approximately $10 per tablet (and you need three per day), the cost is a heavy burden. My husband had to shower me, dress me, brush my hair and teeth. I doubt I moved for nine months. There are no words to describe how something to beautiful and natural as pregnancy, could be horrible that you would not wish it on your worst enemy. I finally did go back for baby number three (after four years). I knew it would be bad, but it was worse. I was sick from 6 weeks to a week AFTER giving birth. I have three happy and healthy boys. I would have wanted just one more, but mentally, I know I could not cope.
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Thanks Felicity for writing such a great piece. I suffered severe hyperemesis gravidarum. It is the reason my children are so far apart and why our family will only exist of 2 children.
It was the worst time of my life and very little people had any understanding of just how bad it was. Article such as this help to educate and develop compassion in others. It is the reason why I told my story about HG on my blog http://www.geeyourebrave.blogspot.com.au/2012/12/i-really-hope-kate-middleton-has.html
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My sister suffered from Hyperemesis Gravidarum during her 3 pregnancies. She was hospitalised and put on a drip for her 2nd and 3rd pregnancies. So even though I had bad morning sickness I knew that I shouldn’t complain too much. It was nothing compared to what she had to go through.
I love how the news is reporting that Kate is receiving treatment and will feel better in a few days time. Like it’s something that’s going to be cured.
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After experiencing the same as above my baby will remain an only child. I will never go through it again. I thought I and my little one were going to die it was so bad.
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Until now, during many conversations held with pregnant women – from those who glow and those who don’t – if I’d dared reveal that I had hyperemisis during my pregnancy, they’d look at me with blank expressions and no idea what I was talking about. I find it amazing (but also good in some ways) that when the sufferer is a “celebrity” – or a royal for that matter – how quickly a condition experienced by so many of us normal folk becomes a household word and becomes newsworthy.
Do I feel Kate’s pain? Hell yeah! Along with the pain of all the other women who’ve experienced the same. While pregnant with my second child, I spent 2 weeks in hospital with hyperemisis and it sure ain’t no fun! Now, some 20 years on, I suffer from another type of hell with all-too-similar/familiar symptoms but no reward at the end (i.e. no gorgeous little baby to hold). I have gastroparesis (a paralysed stomach in layman’s terms) and on bad days/weeks at a time am transported back to how I felt when I was pregnant and laid up in hospital attached to that bag of fluid. Oh the memories… I just wish that’s all they were still!
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Alison, that is so unfair. HG should be all a person is given to struggle with in this life, not more. I really feel for you.
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I too have gastroparesis!
People have no idea what I’m talking about when I tell them LOL.
I have a 10 week old baby and due to supply issues am back on the Motillium (which helps the gastroparesis) and man I suddenly eat lots!
Wonder if the gastroparesis was why I had all day sickness throughout my whole pregnancy? (wasn’t HG though)
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I didn’t have hyperemesis, but I did have mornings sickness so severe with both my pregnancies that I would have to rate it up there with the most horrendous experiences of my life.
Unrelenting nausea to the point where I struggled to stay upright let alone drag myself to work, regular vomiting, dry retching so frequently that I spent many hours curled up in the foetal position on my bathroom floor alternately retching and crying and an inability to stomach or stand the smell of anything other than cheese jaffles and coca cola for weeks and weeks left me feeling absolutely wretched. Anti nausea medication, which I hoarded and saved like a junkie, took the edge off long enough to get me to work, where it would promptly resurface and send me off to the toilet bowl for half the day.
This lasted for 22 weeks with my first son and the whole 40 weeks with my second. With morning sickness as my primary reason, there will be no more children. My career suffered, my marriage suffered and my friendships suffered and although the rewards have been well worth it, I cannot go through it again.
Hyperemesis sounds a whole lot worse than what I experienced and that was bad enough. I remember a colleague telling me she wanted to throw herself down the stairs to escape it. Kate – and any other women who endures this through pregnancy – has only my respect, empathy and very best wishes.
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Sounds like a mild case of it?
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Probably, but because – with help of maxalon – I was able to keep some food and fluids down, I remained reasonably hydrated and managed to put on a little weight. Life was a misery but as I didn’t need a hospital I really didn’t get much sympathy from my obstetrician. Getting through a pregnancy when you are that ill, constantly, everyday,is one heck of an endurance test!
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I vomited every day from 7 weeks pregnant until during the birth. It was very unexpected as I never vomit (I haven’t vomited in 3 years since my baby and prior to that not since I was a child). Stemitil, zofran, lemonade, saladas and a very small bland evening snack saved me from a drip. every time I get a stomach bug it takes me back to the nausea. My experience was awful but i could still function to some degree. I feel so bad for princess kate and the other poor pregnant ladies who are so ill they end up in hospital or completely bedridden, it must be hideous.
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I can’t believe you waited 3 weeks before going to the hospital!!! 48 hours of that and I would have been in that emergency department inserting the drip myself!
Sorry you had such a hard time battling Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I hope I don’t get it. *fingers crossed*
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It’s so good to read this story. I thought I was the only one who had a horrible pregnancy (and yet I feel guilty even saying that when I ended up with a lovely, healthy baby), and I know many women – like Felicity, had it worse than me. I vomited every morning from 7am until around 11am – including in the car on the way to work and would have to have a little nap in the car park before I could face my unsupportive, male boss. I changed my work hours to 10 – 6 but even that was impossible for the final months when I started projectile vomiting (like The Exorcist) from bed whilst I was asleep. I vomited every day of my pregnancy from 6 weeks upto and including her birthday. I ended up sleeping 18 hours a day and was profoundly depressed – all of which lifted the morning I woke up 5 hours after my daughter was born. I felt fantastic – and my partner was soo relieved – he thought happy me was gone forever. Certainly has put me off having another child – I can’t believe Felicity has 4 – truly dedicated mothering.
Sorry for the tirade, but it brings buack such a wave of emotion even thinking about it.
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I’ve been there too with shocking all day nausea and vomiting during pregnancy. My obstetrician prescribed Ondansetron which was a godsend and meant that I could function until 26 weeks when I could manage without it. Trying for number two now and am hoping for an easier run this time!
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