I am the keeper. I am the keeper of schedules. Of practices, games, and lessons. Of projects, parties, and dinners. Of appointments and homework assignments.
I am the keeper of information. Who needs food five minutes before a meltdown occurs and who needs space when he gets angry. Whether there are clean clothes, whether bills are paid, and whether we are out of milk.
I am the keeper of solutions. Of bandaids and sewing kits and snacks in my purse. But also of emotional balms and metaphorical security blankets. I am the keeper of preferences. Of likes and dislikes. Of nightly rituals and food aversions.
I am the keeper of reminders. To be kind, to pick up their trash, to do their dishes, to do their homework, to hold open doors and write thank you notes. I am the keeper of rituals and memories. Of pumpkin patches and Easter egg hunts. I am the taker of pictures, the collector of special ornaments, and the writer of letters.
I am the keeper of emotional security. The repository of comfort, the navigator of bad moods, the holder of secrets and the soother of fears. I am the keeper of the peace. The mediator of fights, the arbiter of disputes, the facilitator of language, the handler of differing personalities.
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This is called emotional labor. Women are generally expected to do it, girls are more likely to be taught its value and it is very important in maintaining social and familial relationships with those around us. I remember reading that men that are widowed (from older generations) are more likely to become socially isolated after the death of their wives. This is because they don't have the ability or understanding to keep up with the social obligations and niceties. Birthday cards, letters, regular phone calls, remembering people's food preferences, colours, gifts, memory recall, even being sentimental and voicing that sentimentality strengthens friendships and family ties. It's work. It requires energy. We need it now more than ever, with technology being they way that it is. Both boys and girls need to be reminded about its importance. This is a great article.
Someone has to do it.