The 29-year-old mother-of-one shared an emotional post on Instagram about the difficulties she’s faced and explicitly stated that Alex “walked away” from their relationship, three years after they fell in love on the first season of MAFS.
“I never thought that the man I love so much would one day walk away,” she wrote. “But he did.”
Zoe shared her struggles coming to terms with their split and says she didn’t expect it. She also said she’s currently taking care of their one-year-old daughter six days a week.
“I can talk about the strength it takes to accept the unexpected path that life unwilling drags you down,” she said.
“That people will hurt us, people will abandon us, and we must also acknowledge that we will hurt others.”
Previous to this, it was believed her separation with Alex was mutual, with both parents announcing that despite ending their three-year relationship they were both committed to co-parenting Harper Rose.
Since posting her touching message Zoe has received hundreds of messages of support from fans and women who have going through similar situations. Replying to her comments, she gave more insight into their breakup.
“I agree with you. Especially about how two people in the same relationship can have two different experiences. I’ve been thinking about that a lot in trying to understand things better,” she wrote, responding to one follower.
“I think slowly I’m getting my groove,” she said to another.
You can read her entire post here:
After the separation a lot of women have contacted me privately asking “how do you know when it’s time leave your husband?” The power of that question has weighed on me and I have thought long and hard for an adequate answer that these women deserve.
These exhausted women and mothers who have wearily walked their own relationship highs and lows, and who see me boarding a train, they think maybe they belong on too.
The divorce train. The separation train. Or even more terrifying, the single mother train.
But the unfortunate truth is, I didn’t choose this path. I never bought a ticket. I never thought that the man I love so much would one day walk away.
But he did.
I never thought I would be alone taking care of our child six days a week in a suburb that no longer feels like home.
But I do.
I never thought I would find myself single in a queen size bed. But I do.
So I can’t tell them about how I knew, or the courage it took to walk away. But I can talk about the strength it takes to accept the unexpected path that life unwilling drags you down.
I can tell them to accept that we all will face pain and adversity of one type or another.
That people will hurt us, people will abandon us, and we must also acknowledge that we will hurt others. Whether we know or intend to or not.
That often life will seem unfair and unjust (and sometimes plainly f*cking cruel) but we must learn to weather the storm. We must learn to hold on to hope. Even on days we just wish to end the pain.
We must learn to embrace our struggles and know that tremendous growth can come from our breakdown. In fact if we listen and take on the lessons, it can be a breakthrough.
I can only tell these woman, that there is no courage where there is no fear. And that whatever choice you make, after the storm has subsided, you will find joy again. Your life might just be different to how you dreamt it to be.
Have hope knowing that it’s not the end of the world if someone doesn’t love you anymore – it’s only the end of the world, if you don’t love you anymore.