I began working in a sex toy store three years ago. I’ve learned so much in that time– more than I ever thought possible. Sure, I can tell the difference between a butt plug and a plug tail and a butt jewel in my sleep, but there are some really vital things I’ve discovered. Important things.
When I began my journey into the adult toy world, I knew only a little about vibrators and dildos. While I’ve always been a sex positive person, I’ve learned that sex is more important than we ever give it credit for.
Sex – solo or with a lover, or even with a few friends, is a powerful connector (not like that) it has a way of healing you, growing your confidence, and celebrating yourself and others.
Here are some of the most important things I’ve found to be true in my time working at a desk piled with vibrators and dildos.
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1. Orgasms don’t come easily to everyone
A Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy study in 2017 found that nearly 37 per cent of women required clitoral stimulation to orgasm – the truth is, few are getting that. Only 18 per cent of women can climax during penetrative sex. That study was one of the largest studies on women’s pleasure available, and other smaller studies have found the same. An analysis of over 30 studies performed over the past 80 years, found only 25 per cent of women are consistently climaxing during vaginal penetrative sex.
I hear this a lot from my customers. Women who think they’re broken because they love their male partners but they can’t orgasm.
Few heterosexual women know that the penis isn’t really designed to make you orgasm easily. I feel proud to be able to steer them toward a toy that stimulates the clitoris like the Satisfyer Pro 2.0 – a device that has had women contact me crying with happiness!
There are so many toys designed for people with vaginas to be used during penetration that will absolutely get you to where you need to be. Nobody is broken – sometimes you just need a little help. Help with a rechargeable cable.
2. Sex toys are for everybody
Some of my customers are in their 80s, others are buying their first toy to celebrate or commiserate a break up. There’s no one type of person who buys a toy. They truly are for everybody. From little bullet vibes to dildos, to clitoral stimulators and wand massagers – butt plugs and strap-ons and beads and sleeves and clamps – I’ve seen joy sparked from them all.