"Feels sh*itty to even be asked." A man's upset over girlfriend's choice of name for their baby.

Choosing what to name your future child can be an incredibly tough job.

From ruling out the names that make you feel uncomfortable – think your nasty former boss or someone who bullied you in high school – to arguing over potential baby names with you partner, it’s not easy.

For one man, deciding on a baby name with his partner quickly became complicated when his girlfriend expressed her wish to name their child after her ex-boyfriend.

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Posting to Reddit, the man shared his awkward predicament.

“My girlfriend and I are expecting our first born son,” he wrote.

“The other night, when discussing names, she said she would like his middle name to be that of her ex, who died,” he continued.

“[She said] that it would mean a lot to his family who she is still close with.”


The man went on to explain that he told his girlfriend that he felt uncomfortable by the idea.

“I don’t want to tell people, especially my son, that he is partly named after another man who his Mum loved before me,” he said.

“She said, ‘why can’t you say he is named after my friend who died? We weren’t even together when he died’. I continued to say no to the name and that it feels pretty sh*itty to even be asked to name him that,” he added.

“Am I an a**hole?”

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Understandably, Reddit users were pretty divided on the man’s dilemma.

Some commenters said the man was right to be offended by his girlfriend’s name choice.

“That’s weird. You don’t like the name for obvious reasons, and your girlfriend should respect that. How about picking a name from her family or yours,” one person wrote.

“People have different grieving processes, but you don’t need to put the mark of that process on your kid,” another said.

On the other hand, however, some thought the father-to-be was being unreasonable.

“You’re upset about it now, but it has nothing to do with you. You have to understand that a dead partner is always in somebody’s heart and you are not second to them,” one person said.

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