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'After my husband told me what he wants to name our baby, I'm considering a divorce.'

Choosing what to name your future child must be a tough job.

But choosing what not to name them might actually be… quite easy.

Even someone far from the stage of child birth would have a few big no-nos come to mind, automatically weeding out the bad from the good.

For example, you often hear stories of teachers blacklisting names of troublesome children they’ve had in their classrooms.

As for the rest of us – you probably wouldn’t lean towards any name associated with someone you feel negatively towards; someone who bullied you in school, a nasty former boss, a well-known politician you dislike… an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, perhaps?

Well, according to one woman expecting a baby this year, her husband thinks not.

In fact, he wants to name their child after his ex-girlfriend “so he has something to keep reminding him of her”.

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The woman, who has been married to her husband for two years, posted her predicament to Reddit.

“Divorce on table because husband and I can’t agree on baby’s name,” she said.

“Ever since we found out its gonna be a girl my husband wants to name it like his ex’s name.

“It’s not any ex but the one he dated for long period of time and loved the most.

“In the beginning of our relationship we had many problems because of her but she moved away so the problems went away.”

She continued: “When I asked him why does he want that name so badly he said just because he and his ex didn’t work out doesn’t mean he doesn’t want something to keep reminding him of her.”

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Um. Whoa.

To make matters worse, when the woman explained how hurt she was by his reasoning, he told her it was “just the hormones”.

Concluding the post, the woman asked the forum whether it was “normal” that he wanted to name their child after an ex.

Of course, the responses were largely on the side of the poster, condemning her husband for his insensitivity.

“I’m more concerned about his lack of respect for you as his partner, his number one, his wife. You might try relationship counselling but I suspect his disrespect extends beyond the baby naming issue,” one said. Ouch.

Another called it “creepy”:

“Why is this so common?? I keep reading story after story about dads who named their kids after their exes! CREEPY, DUDES. CUT THAT SHIT OUT.”

One sympathised with the unborn baby, for when she grows up and questions the origin of her name:

“When your daughter gets older how do you explain that to her? ‘Oh honey, daddy wanted to name you after an ex girlfriend because even though things didn’t work out with them, that doesn’t mean he didn’t want to be reminded of her every single day.’ I mean really?”

Mirroring the sentiment, another poster actually had her own similar experience:

“I’m a girl who was named after my dad’s lover (mum had no idea) and I ABSOLUTELY DESPISE my name. He just casually told me on one occasion. In general, the name is beautiful but when I think about the reason why was I named like that it makes me puke.”

While one simply said: “That’s actually really gross”.

Yeah, we kinda agree. It’s a no from us.

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