Please tell me someone else agrees?
I completely understand that for some people, wedding rings are very important. But we’ve never really been the traditional types, and that’s the way we like it.
My fiancé flat-out refuses to wear a wedding ring.
And you know what? I really couldn’t care less.
In fact, it had never even occurred to me that I was supposed to be NOT HAPPY about this until it came up in conversation with some friends recently.
I casually mentioned it to them, and they were shocked. Appalled. Aghast.
“How will women know he’s off the market?” one asked.
“Won’t you be worried everyone will be hitting on him?”
“Wedding rings tell people to ‘back off’. Won’t not wearing one make cheating that bit easier?”
And me? I was pretty bewildered.
Because how could my partner’s decision to wear a piece of metal on his finger – or not – have any deeper meaning? How could a ring have any serious effect on our relationship?
My fiancé’s father has never worn one, and his parent’s marriage is just fine.
My partner’s decision not to wear one is partly based on that family tradition, and partly because he is the handy and crazy-active type (so the ring would get in the way while he’s scuba diving or rock climbing or building furniture).
But the biggest reason of all? He just doesn’t feel comfortable wearing a piece of jewellery (this is a guy who wears thongs year-round and who considers cologne to be strictly for Special Occasions, after all). And I absolutely respect that.