You’d expect Meghan Markle’s New Year’s resolutions for 2018 to look something like this:
- Be royalty
- Learn names of Queen’s dogs
- Teach George swear word when no one is looking
But according to her blog The Tig, which has since been shut down, Meghan Markle doesn’t do New Year’s resolutions.
And not because she’s already perfect and engaged to Prince Harry. Not because of that.
But because every single year she’d make exactly the same ones, and fail at them. It’s an experience she wrote about in January 2016.
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“Run a marathon. Stop biting my nails. Stop swearing. Re-learn French. These make my New Year’s resolution list nearly (AKA actually every) single year,” the then-34-year-old wrote.
“The marathon hasn’t happened. The swearing comes in lulls triggered by being overworked or feeling mighty cheeky after a couple drinks,” she added. “Then there’s the French – a language I studied through high school and then lost as I immersed myself in speaking Spanish with the Argentinians during my stint in Buenos Aires. I have put my little Rosetta Stone headset in my eager ears every year, resolving to do interviews en français, but much to my chagrin, it hasn’t stuck.”
“And when it comes to the biting of the nails – well, it still happens with a turbulent flight or a stressful day. It’s unladylike. But then again, so is the swearing. Dammit.”
So she decided to change her approach. “This year, I resolve not to have a resolution,” she wrote.
“For this new year, the only thing I aim to do is to approach life playfully. To laugh and enjoy, to keep my standards high but my level of self-acceptance higher.”
“My New Year’s resolution is to leave room for magic. To make my plans, and be okay if they sometimes break. To set my goals, but to be open to change.”
This is where we pause for a moment.
Because it was mid-2016 when Markle met Prince Harry, which probably wasn’t part of her plan. And while it’s impossible to know what she personally values in her own life, many might say the romance is ‘magic’.
Regardless of whether Markle’s new-found philosophy had a tangible impact on her 2016, it’s likely a good one to remember.
Many of us have distorted thinking patterns about changing our behaviours, taking an all or nothing approach and being hard on our shortcomings. But leaving room for magic, being okay with broken plans, and being open to change, is an anti-resolution we can all take on board.
Cut the crap.