Well here we are at episode 19 and there are certain missteps everyone is making. I mean, it is MAFS.

Both Tyson and Scott have been talking before they think, but at least they never drummed with dildos. Poor Joel looks unlikely to ever live that one down, or perhaps it is Juliette and her refusal to see "the star" in him, instead repeating Bec's call to Gia about "evil eyes".

A shame.

But there is one phrase that makes us want to grab a carton of coconut water from Stephanie's hands, (why does she pour so many glasses of the stuff? Who can drink it straight like that?) and throw it directly at the TV.

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And before you ask, no, it's not Bec's repeated mentions of "a lack of sexual chemistry" in front of her own Dad. What's wrong with just saying "chemistry"?

Anyway. It's Danny; or Daniel, as Bec calls him.

Those pale, wet eyes remind me a little too much of Tom Wambsgans, that snivelling "good guy" from Succession who, because of his shrewd ambition and desperate need to play the game, ends up with the prize at the end, (and a very unhappy wife in Shiv).

Does the same fate await Danny? No, not inheriting a billion-dollar company, but winning through sheer cunning. Because Danny keeps repeating this phrase like a mantra – it's even on his 'get to know me' page: "ride or die."

Danny said in his vows he wanted someone to be his ride or die. He tells Bec that with alarming regularity, although when she mentioned it, he denied he did.

It's a phrase that originated with bikers but was popularised by Jay-Z to mean someone who would rather die than ride without you, presumably in a getaway car. I mean, this was the guy who once rapped that he and Beyoncé were Bonnie and Clyde and that all he needed in "this life of sin" was him, (well obviously) and his girlfriend.

It should be noted, however, that this was a pre-Lemonade era, when Jay-Z, by his own and his wife's admission, had a few, shall we say, "ride or dies" waiting in getaway cars, or at least, ladies willing to sleep with an attached man.

Why am I dragging Beyoncé's name into this? Because the dudes who say "ride or die" repeatedly, the ones who demand loyalty no matter the cost, have usually not done the required shadow work to realise they are talking about themselves.

I refer you again to Danny's "get to know me" page, on which it is written: "Having made many mistakes in his dating history, Danny admits he has lost a lot of great girls because of his player ways…"

Look, we all change. With that caveat out of the way, we now need to ask why, when he was confronted by his wife, Bec, Danny said:

"That comment, her being my type, is just ridiculous anyway, because let's say I did say it, which I categorically did not. I feel like we've gotten so lost in who's right and who's wrong that the comment has actually been forgotten."

What Danny? Babe, that did not make any sense!

Even the crew knew something was up, filming the GAS STOVE and the wilted roses as the couple talked. That's right, Danny is gaslighting, acting like he's more concerned with his "name being dragged through the mud" and Bec's reaction than the issue itself. When Bec admits the comment has stuck with her, Danny makes her feel small for expressing her hurt.

He then digs in further, telling her he was embarrassed by her behaviour at the dinner party. Which, sure, was insane, but it's something she has already apologised for. And if you were her "R or D" Daniel, you wouldn't care!

The question was then asked again by Bec's Dad: "If what you said – that Gia was more your type – isn't true, why would they pick you out?"

Here's where Danny, looking like Tom Wambsgans in a congressional hearing, flips the script. 

"It's a complete lie," he says, followed by this absolute clanger: telling Bec's dad that he had zero SEXUAL CHEMISTRY with his daughter. Great!

He then resumes gaslighting: "It was a tough situation because I've never had someone lie about me like that before."'

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Danny backs this up with another pearler, telling Bec: "I wish you had told me how upset you were."

Yeah mate, she did? A few times?

But Bec swallows the pill, says she wishes she wasn't so angry and then, when Danny says to Bec's Dad that he didn't like her comments or swearing (??), he agrees with Danny.

And Bec now feels in control, by taking the blame for the entire situation and placing it on her own shoulders. Sure, she acted out. But she was never disloyal to Danny. If anyone wants to talk about "ride or die" they should check themselves. 

Feature image: Nine.