If you’ve grown up in a family that cooks, no doubt your mum or dad has taught you the techniques and dishes that are tried and tested. The most flavourful lasagna, the perfect curry and the puffiest pavlova that’s been perfected by generations over time.
I’m about to compare sex to pasta here, and I need you to stay with me.
As Kim Nguyen, a Sexological Bodywork expert and GP from Queensland explained to Mamamia, the lack of sex education in our society is almost as though we’re asking our daughters to start with bread and butter again, instead of passing on our fine tuned four-tiered perfectly ratio’d lasagna.
For example, there’s a big majority of women out there completely clueless to the fact that 2 o’clock on their clitoris is the most sensitive point and therefore key to unlocking their orgasmic potential.
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“It’s funny that sex has been around for as long as time, but when teenagers all reach a certain age they start from scratch,” Kim told Mamamia.
At Kim’s practice, she teaches women and couples how to pleasure themselves. Her clinic looks a little bit like a massage room, and clients can be as naked or as clothed as they want as they explore their sexuality in an open, safe space.
The biggest age group that Kim sees is women aged between 30 and 60. She says we’d be surprised how many middle aged women still don’t know how to pleasure themselves, or alternatively, just aren’t.
“Everyone’s education level when it comes to sex is so bad. There’s a huge gap in what we [society] know,” said Kim.
“The truth of it is, everyone is going through some kind of difficulty when it comes to sex and sexuality because the truth is it’s the doorway to our mind,” she explained.
Kim has had women orgasm for the first time in her clinic. Sometimes with her help, sometimes just with her direction.
“It’s not on the first session, it’s as they get more comfortable with themselves and me that it happens. It’s amazing – it’s really special to be a part of it,” Kim told Mamamia.
So how does she teach them?
“We often start with something called a robot massage. Normally when you get a massage they do it all for you. Here they tell me what they want, and they create their own massage. So I’ll do the same stroke and the same movement until they tell me they want something different. That could be slower, faster, or a different stroke altogether.”