'We're going overseas together, but he's not my boyfriend yet.' The rise of situationtrips.

That's it, I've had enough. I'm quitting. 

The commitment-issue daters have officially taken it too far. 

If you think I'm being dramatic — I can assure you, I'm not. 

I was having drinks with some friends when one of them informed the rest of the group that she was going on a two-week Euro holiday. Of course we were so excited for her (as well as extremely jealous). 

We assumed this was a solo trip for her until she said "I'm going with Jake*". 

We were thrilled. She met Jake* on a dating app and they'd been seeing each other for a while now... and that's when the ball dropped. 

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She told us they're not actually a couple. They had agreed to be 'exclusive' (whatever the hell that means) but they'd never had the conversation about being boyfriend and girlfriend.  

She is going on a Euro holiday with her situationship... she's going on a situationtrip. Yes, I just made that up and yes it's dumb but yes I'm copyrighting it. 

The situationtrip™ is the Godzilla byproduct of modern day dating. 

Most single people would have some type of experience with dating apps. They're a great way to connect with people, find people who has the same values and wants as you, and many relationships have been formed through them. But they're also the culprit for the phenomenon that is the situationship. 

Situationships are what happen when you're dating someone but neither of you confirm what you are to each other. You're not a couple but you're more than friends with benefits. 

The issue with situationships is that they can go wrong very quickly. Because neither of you have defined what you are to each other, you could be on very different pages. One person might think you're in a committed relationship and the other person might think you're dating casually and they're seeing other people. And the kicker is that you both prolong talking about it because you both know about the possibility of being on different pages and you both know that if you are on different pages, the situation could possibly end. 

Staying in the sweet unknown area of "I'm not sure what we are, but I'm having fun" is bliss. 

There is, however, a hack for turning a situationship into a relationship (if that's what you want). 

If your situationship wants to introduce you to their friends and family, it's a good sign that they're doing so because they see a future with you. And they have to introduce you in a way that shows what they mean to you. "Hey Mum and Dad, this is Emily, the girl I've been stringing along for fun," doesn't seem like something that would sit well with everyone in the room. 

Another way to confirm a relationship is when you go travelling. 

Going away together is almost always underlined with romance. You're in the same hotel rooms, you're having all your meals together, you're doing activities together, you're buying plane tickets together. 

It's pretty obvious that you are together. 

That is why when my friend told me she's going away with a guy who isn't technically her boyfriend, I became upset. Not because I think it's a bad idea, but because the situationship is evolving and breaking through barriers that had previously kept it in a place of temporary. 

Normalising going overseas with someone who won't confirm whether they're in a relationship with you or not feels like dangerous waters. It also formalises the situationship and gives it the power to be a permanent fixture.

Going overseas while you're in this middle ground will have you confused the entire time. 

My unsolicitated advice would be to go on the trip, enjoy your holiday and use that time to see if you really want to be official with that person or if you like keeping things the way they are. Then, ask them on the flight back home because they're trapped in a vessel in the air, so they have to answer... 

Obviously I'm joking (kinda) but if you confirm what you are before you hit home soil, you can come back to your life with a new understanding... while also not tainting your holiday experience. 

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