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'Why I'm glad I'm not friends with anyone from my high school anymore.'

If I’ve learnt anything in my 33 years on this earth, it’s that not all friendships are built to last.

When I first heard about Netflix’s new show Friends From College it sent a little shiver up my spine. The thought of a bunch of people who met in college – still hanging out 20 years later – made me weirdly uncomfortable.

It felt instinctively wrong – shouldn’t these people have parted ways years ago?

The show itself is extremely watchable, it’s very likable and it’s a great way to binge away a few hours of your time (also the kid from The Wonder Years is in it, all grown up and super cute). But the basic premise scares the sh*t out of me. I’m in my 30s now and the very thought of spending time with the people I met in high school and university unsettles me.

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"I'm not the same person I was 10-15 years ago," Image supplied.

Don't get me wrong, I still have some friends from high school and uni - but I don't have groups of friends from these periods of my life. Over the years, those groups have disintegrated or morphed into new groups as we've all moved through the different stages of our lives, and that's completely normal (and honestly, a good thing).

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My high school and uni years were pretty bloody great, I was surrounded by big groups of friends and we had the kind of intense friendships you have when you're young and you think they're going to last forever.

We practically lived at each other's houses and uni dorms, we shared thousands of personal jokes (and cartons of goon), and we joked about growing old together.

But things change - I'm not the same person I was 10-15 years ago and I can't imagine connecting so deeply with those people anymore. And I think if we were still in each other's lives, we'd be horrible to each other.

And that's exactly what Friends From College does so well. It shines a light on these kind of friendships, and through a series of awkwardly funny and emotionally fraught scenes, it proves that some friendships are not meant to last.

The characters in Friends From College are actually horrible to each other - nice to each other's faces but unsupportive and judgemental behind each other's backs.

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They question each other's life choices, criticise their friends' careers, and even sleep with each other's spouses.

After years of knowing each other, their relationships have morphed into these weird passive-aggressive competitions which no one actually ever wins. They might be long term friendships, but, in my opinion, they're sh*t friendships.

Once I had binged my way through Friends From College I felt an enormous sense of relief. My high school and university friends might not be in my life anymore, but I get to hold on to the memories of the good times and - from afar - wish them nothing but the best.

And I think that's so much better than still being 'friends' and making each other miserable.

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