There are days when life kicks your arse. Even if you’re Elizabeth Gilbert.
I’ve had more than a few of them this year and if you are a sentient being living in the world, then you undoubtedly have too. This week, it’s R U OK Day when we’re encouraged to ask each other how we’re doing. To check in. To think about each other’s mental health and well-being. But often when I’m struggling, nobody can tell. Nobody would think to ask. Often, mostly, I have to find small ways to comfort myself, to soothe my anxiety or my stress or my frustration or my despair.
Tea helps. So does routine and exercise and distraction. And I do often reach out to girlfriends who never fail me, ever. And this little trick I picked up from Elizabeth Gilbert today is going to be one I add to my arsenal of coping mechanisms when life hurls some shit my way and I don’t have time to duck.
I quote Liz Gilbert a lot in my life, in my writing and in my head. I’ve interviewed her a couple of times and spent time with her in person and read her books and her words always settle deeply in my soul where I retrieve them often. So when I saw this photo on Instagram I immediately stopped scrolling. Liz has had the best and worst of years in her personal life. She married the love of her life, Raaya Elias a few months after learning Raaya had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
In the photo below, Liz is wearing a Love Warrior T-shirt as a gesture of support and solidarity with her friends Glennon Doyle (who wrote a book called Love Warrior) and her wife Abby Wambach who have been chronicling their own dramas these past few days, evacuating with their children from their home in Miami which was in the path of Hurricane Irma.