A 26-year-old woman has approached the Internet to ask whether or not it’s time to end one of her longest friendships.
The woman, who has not identified herself but we will refer to as ‘Sally’, posted to the thread Reddit Relationships; “I’m kinda done with this relationship but wanted to check if I’m out of line first.”
“I’ve been friends with Laura for fifteen years now,” she explained.
The pair went to high school and university together, and now live in the same suburb.
“Basically, we were single for a while together but after about a year of working my new job, I met a boy and we fell in love. Yesterday, after three years of dating, he asked me to marry him!
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“I was so excited so of course I went to tell Laura right away, and so I texted her a pic of my hand with the ring.
“She sent back: ‘That’s cool. Relationships are trash.'”
Sally was very much taken aback.
“She can definitely be rude, especially when someone else shares news that she doesn’t have (like when I got my job she was still unemployed and told me that my job was a crappy temp one anyway (it wasn’t temp at all), but when she got HER job we had to have a big party to celebrate “the start of her career!”)
“Anyway, I’m thinking of pretty much ghosting her after this. I don’t have very many friends so for my best friend to crap on my special day made me really angry and sad,” Sally concluded.
Ah… yep.
Angry and sad seems like a completely valid response to your friend trivialising your engagement.
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Ok, two things. One, 'Sally should ignore what others think and just focus on what matters to her, and makes her happy. Your fella decided to go to the next level of commitment and 'put a ring on it'? Awesome. Fantastic. Good for you. It's a wonderful feeling when the love of our life makes that decision and proposes. But understand that you don't need external congratulations to be happy about this moment. Other people are going through crap that you don't even know the half of, and/or desperately want to have that same connection to someone that you have, but have constantly failed at it. Don't be a heartless bitch if this happens. Your friends have their reasons for reacting the way they do. Don't take it personally.
Two, 'Laura' could have definitely chosen different words to use in her message. The best option is to just be honest about how you feel, in my opinion. Be polite and let the engaged friend know that it isn't her fault for the way you feel right now, but you honestly can't share in the excitement because of ...............
On my last note, I think the friendship may be on its last legs. Seems like there's a lack of empathy and communication in the friendship.