A couple of days ago I came home early from work to find a man I didn’t know outside my house with a ladder propped up against the roof. Probably, it was the roof guy, I thought. Nothing to worry about.
But what if it wasn’t? Should I just trust that it was?
What followed was an experience and internal dialogue every woman has probably had at some stage; many times most likely. It stayed with me afterwards – not because it was a particularly frightening incident or very different to the hundreds of similar experiences like that I’ve had. Had I not decided to post about it on Facebook I would not have given it a second thought.
But because in explaining it to my husband, it made me realise how all women and girls exist on this level and most men have no idea that we do.
In less than 48, it was shared 1500 times, received 10,000 likes and reached 700,000 people. There were thousands of comments from women sharing their own similar thought processes and protective behaviour they are barely even conscious of.
Many many women tagged the men in their lives so they could understand how we feel on most days of our lives.
Some commenters missed the point and were angry that I was accusing tradies or all men of being murderers or rapists. No, no, no, no, no.
Not all men. And not all tradies! This was not about any one man and certainly not about any occupation.
I was simply articulating the vulnerability I felt as a woman who could be physically overpowered by pretty much any man who chose to do so at any time if there was nobody else around.
Scroll through to see the responses to Mia's post from women across the world.
Yes, 99.9 percent of men are good guys. But we can't tell who the .1% are just from looking at them or when they're walking behind us in the street.
And it's not just tradesmen. It's cab drivers. Uber drivers. Men in elevators or carparks or parks or empty train carriages or the streets around our homes and schools and the places we go to work and have fun. Anywhere that we're alone in an enclosed space or, in fact, any space with a man we don't know and nobody else around. It might be a stairwell. An empty beach. A unisex bathroom. Our own home. Violence against women does not discriminate. The men who rape and murder women do not look a certain way, they don't wear signs or glow in the dark. If only.