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Melbourne student felt 'sick' after being added to a Facebook group where she was being chatted about.

A Melbourne University student has called out a group of her classmates who added her to a group chat without realising she’d be able to read their previous messages, which were all about her.

Eleanor Henry, 22, said her stomach dropped as she scrolled through the thread containing her picture, alongside sexist commentary from the four boys, two of whom she’d never even spoken to before.

University student Eleanor Henry. Source: Facebook

"I'd throw her on the bed," one of the boys quipped, while another suggested, "Show me where you piss from," could be an effective pick up line.

They also joked about inviting her on their holiday to Thailand because they needed "a bike".

"I'd just gotten out of the shower and I picked up my phone and it was blowing up," Henry told Mamamia.

"The best way to explain it, is that my stomach dropped and I felt really sick, humiliated and dirty.

"I never draw my blinds in my apartment and I just drew my blinds because I felt very vulnerable."

The Commerce student's usual confidence was shattered, she felt "belittled."

"I started crying," she said, adding that she immediately called her sister, Tiffany Henry, for advice.

Eleanor and her sister Tiffany in 2012. Source: Facebook

Tiffany was studying in the US during the now infamous Stanford rape trial and both girls are painfully aware of the toxic "rape culture" poisoning University campuses both in Australia and abroad.

"It didn’t become so much about what I felt but what I could do for other women who have had similar experiences," Henry said, explaining her subsequent choice to  post screen shots of the conversation on her Facebook page.

"Let's all wave hello to my fellow peers at Melbourne University," she accompanied the images.

"This is why I'll die a feminist. It's 2016... Let's get back to that conversation on equality."

Before the incident Henry had only met two out of four of the boys involved, and they rarely engaged outside the classroom.

Those two boys, with whom she completed a group assignment earlier this, reached out with "sincere" apologises.

The boy who made the most "most graphic" remarks also contacted her, but he told her to lighten up.

"He basically said, 'Well Eleanor, it’s a joke.'"

Henry, quite rightly, is refusing to accept the tired excuses and "boys will be boys" rhetoric.

"We talk about equality on a daily basis, we learn about it, but ultimately at a very base level it’s not permeating even our most educated demographic."

"It’s a much more deep-seeded issue and we need to educate ourselves about how we should be speaking, especially to women.

"You don’t speak to people like that. You don’t speak to women like that."

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