Hands up if you have ever felt judged by another mum? All of us, right?
OK, now hands up if you are guilty of having ever judged another mum?
If your hand isn’t up, I’m calling bullshit!
Can you honestly say that you have never had a single moment, even fleetingly, when you thought to yourself, “I would never feed my child that/discipline my child like that/put my child to sleep like that?” And as you had these transient thoughts, let’s be honest, you secretly congratulated yourself on your own parenting choices.
I am embarrassed to admit it but I am guilty of having judged other mums. I don’t do it often, and I never do it openly, but there you have it. I am a judgy mum. And I am willing to bet, that if you are honest with yourself, you are too.
I am not a perfect mother. Far from it. I have many flaws and, at times, I feel vulnerable and insecure. There have been times in which I have silently judged another mother, and used this moment to secretly bolster my own self-esteem.
Let me give you an example.
I was recently at the shopping centre and had stopped in the food court to grab a coffee and give my toddler his lunch. I couldn’t help but notice that the mother at the table next to me was doling out McDonald’s cheeseburgers and chips to her young children. With self-satisfaction, I appraised my son’s homemade, healthy lunch and silently congratulated myself on being a brilliant mother.
At some point during that lunch, around about the time my toddler was screaming and throwing all his healthy, homemade lunch on the floor, I noticed that same mother glancing my way. Perhaps she was secretly judging me for not being able to control my screaming, food-throwing toddler. And that’s OK if she was.