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Sometimes sex can, in the hallowed words of John Mellancamp, hurt so good.
Other times, sex can hurt in an ‘oh God make it stop right now’ kind of way, which isn’t so good. When penetration causes you stinging pain, all the other positives of sex — the fun, the hilarity, the intimacy — can be overshadowed quickly.
“For any normal couple, sex can be a little bit painful sometimes, that might be because people jump in a little too quickly, there’s not enough lubrication, they go a bit more hard and fast than they normally would, it might be a new position, or the woman might be stressed so there can be muscle tension in the pelvic floor,” Sydney GP Dr Sam Hay explains.
“Those things can come and go or occur once or twice, and that’s completely normal. It’s when you’re getting those problems continually, most or all of the time, or you notice a change … you might want to look into whether there’s an underlying problem.”
Here are nine of the most common causes of painful sex.
1. Not enough foreplay
We know you know foreplay is important to get everyone in the mood, but you mightn't realise just how vital it is in physically preparing your vagina for comfortable penetration.
"When we get properly stimulated, messages go to our brains to say, 'Hey, we need some space for a penis to enter in here'. There is a tilting of the uterus - it comes a bit straighter up on top of the vaginal canal, because it needs to take in sperm, and creates a little more room in the vaginal canal. There's also a secretion that occurs to allow a penis to go in and out without hurting us," relationship expert and sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein explains. (Post continues after gallery.)