When you’re planning a wedding, there’s about eighty-hundred decisions that need to be made.
One of them is the ol’ Dad Walking You Down The Aisle To Give You Away trick.
The historical significance of the father bringing the bride down the aisle to “give her away”, of course, is that he owns her.
Today, generally speaking, women aren’t owned by men, they are not the property of men to be traded off from father to husband, and most of us can walk our own-damn selves down our own-damn aisle.
Right on, bride-sister.
Except, weddings are a minefield of sexist/outdated stuff that happens under the auspices of tradition.*
Like how brides wear white to symbolise their worth as pristine virgins.
Good one. via GIPHY
Veils fall under the same virginal association. The ‘lifting of the veil’ by the husband symbolises the breaking of the hymen (a thin membrane he gets to remove….geddit?).
Oh, and you thought the wedding cake was for dessert’s sake? Sorry. Traditionally, it used to be bread, and it would be broken over the woman’s head to symbolise – once again – the breaking of the hymen.
It’s also “tradition” that women aren’t expected to speak at a wedding; the speeches are reserved for the fathers, the best man, and the groom. And don’t start me on the bouquet toss: the display where a married woman literally turns her back on all her single friends and throws them a bone as they eagerly grasp at the chance to be married next.
Here’s what you can do with that idea:
Like all traditions, though, a lot of us have plain ignored them off to make room for ones that suit us better and reflect what we believe a little more. And funny enough, recently I got to see one I hadn’t seen before:
My sister walked down the aisle by her own damn self:
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