If you’re an educated adult who has willingly chosen to enter into a lifelong union, you, sir, are a fool.
Marriage is for idiots.
I say this as someone who has been married and divorced all barely before hitting 30. (So yes, call me out on my bias if you like.)
Personal opinions aside, research into human relationships overwhelmingly indicates that, try as we might, we’re simply not built to stick with one person for life. And, I’m going to go a step further, by saying what many of us have contemplated but avoided voicing for fear of judgement: it’s not natural to have sex with the same person over and over again.
Studies show over one third of marriages are affected by infidelity, and one in five of us are cheating on our current partners, like, literally RIGHT NOW.
It’s not because we’re cold, unfeeling creatures incapable of love – conversely, human beings have the capacity to form incredibly meaningful, complex connections with one another – it’s simply that fidelity, at least not the kind that lasts decades, isn’t in our DNA.
I’m not saying this to excuse cheating. There is no greater betrayal than to deceive a loved one – it’s something I’ve personally been guilty of in the past and am still coming to terms with forgiving myself for – but to point out the incredibly insane odds of making it through a lifetime with someone, unscathed by infidelity. There’s literally a greater chance you’ll die in a plane crash than succeed in making it to your deathbed without having had at least one partner play around on you in the course of your life. So why on earth would you do it?!
The institution of marriage doesn’t even align with our modern values. We spend tens of thousands of dollars (some of us – *gulp* – more) to tell a bunch of family, friends, and people we barely know but whom Aunty Sharon insisted we invite, that we are going to let another human own us?! Have you ever truly sat and listened to traditional marriage vows? A priest, likely of a church you barely even attend, tells you to repeat after him, “I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward”.
Read that again. “to HAVE and to hold”. The very idea that any one of us should be able to possess another person is archaic nonsense. It’s where ideas like a man being able to have constant access to his female partner for sex, or decide what she’s allowed to wear when she leaves the house, come from.