When was the last time you did a wee in front of someone?

If you’re a mother of a young child, it was probably today. If you’re the stay at home mother of a young child, it was definitely today and every day since they were born.

Weeing in front of another adult? Different story.

Toddlers and pre-schoolers aren’t familiar with the concept of privacy. They have no need for it and they don’t see why you would. Weeing in front of your kids is not something that I’ve ever seen divide a room. Whatever.

“ You know you’re a parent when…”

But weeing in front of another adult? Different story. This week I discovered that I work with a group of women who are fairly polarised on this topic. What we all had in common however, was our fervent belief that anyone who behaved differently to us was a goddamn freak.

Of the women in our office aged 18-45, we fell into three main groups:

1. The frightened.

“I will never pee in front of anyone. I would almost rather get a UTI than have to pee in the bush. And I’ve NEVER pee’d in the ocean.”

2. The moderately comfortable.

“Poo is never alright. Nor are tampon removals.”

3. And the bold.

“You can absolutely pee in front of your friends and your partner. Pee with the door open share that toilet space.”

But it’s the one who had never ever weed in front of a friend that most of us found the most baffling – and she us.

It was like tampon-gate all over again. You can read about that here.

This person – who we shall call Gladys – is in her 20s but says she grew up in a very private family. She doesn’t remember seeing her parents naked ever and hasn’t seen her sister nude since they were at kindergarten.

When she moved in with her boyfriend a couple of years ago, the mad scramble to get ready for work every morning combined with the single bathroom in their flat meant that things quickly got awkward.

Does moving in together change everything? For better or worse?

He told her she had to get over her problem with not weeing in front of people and that it was perfectly normal. Eventually – after many months of feeling too shy – she got used to it.

‘He told her she had to get over her problem with not weeing in front of people and that it was perfectly normal. “

If he was shaving or showering and she was busting, then she would use the toilet in front of him.

This horrified many of us who insisted we would never wee in front of their partners. I was one of those women, even though my husband has seen three babies come out of my vagina.

“The embarrassing vagina story I never tell anyone.” Six women reveal all.

We discuss this at length on this week’s Mamamia podcast and I have to say, it was hilairious and enlightening both.

You can listen here.

Take a listen to my reasoning – and the counter argument. And weigh in because you KNOW YOU WANT TO.