Facebook has made it way too easy to track down old flames. If they aren’t on Facebook they’ll be on Instagram. If not on Instagram they’ll be on Twitter. If not on Twitter, try LinkedIn.
Not that I’ve ever done that before.
Okay, I’ve tracked down a couple of exes – one on Facebook and one on LinkedIn – but I didn’t do anything. Well, I did send one a private message saying “hi” and a few other things which he left open and when his wife saw it she wasn’t happy about it. I think I said, “Happy Birthday” to him. Apparently it wasn’t what I said but the fact I sent it privately.
I’ve since learned that when it comes to Facebook there’s a fine line between Facebook friendships, Facebook flirting and Facebook affairs, especially if you define “affairs” as both physical and emotional.
For so many women, affairs begin as emotional affairs and Facebook makes it so much easier to have one. There's something intimate about sharing private thoughts with someone you are attracted to or have a history with and before you know it, your Facebook interactions have crossed a line and you need to figure out how to pull back, or if you even want to.
It helps to keep a few things in mind before you even initiate any contact with someone like that.
Firstly there's the question of whether or not to "friend" your ex on Facebook. If you do, should you tell your partner about it? Even if they are okay with it, is it a good idea?
What are you hoping to gain by having them on your list of friends on Facebook?
Will you be communicating with them directly or will they be just one of the many Facebook friends you come across when their stories appear on your news feed or they "like" one of your photos?
What is the biggest lie you have told your partner? Article continues after this video.
Some consider the act of "friending" an ex on Facebook as cheating, if not cheating, at betrayal or disrespectful to your current partner.