Today is White Ribbon Day.
Today, men across the country will swear an oath publicly that they will not be violent against women. They stand up and acknowledge that too many women live in fear of the people who should love them the most.
But today is also a chance for women to make a commitment.
This commitment is not loud, it is not public. There are no ribbons. There are no speeches.
It is a simple, private commitment we make to ourselves. A silent promise.
Because there are things that we know and things that we see. We know when our friends are hiding something. We know when she is trying to hide her pain. We hear warning bells when a friend tells us that her partner makes her write down every dollar she spends so he can check it, or he demands to know where she is, or he punches a wall when he’s angry.
We see it all. We sometimes pretend we don’t and we avoid it. We don’t want to embarrass her. We don’t want to dwell on unhappy things.
So we need to make a promise.