I’m certain that women must wonder what is going on with their guy when he loses his erection. And also what to do about it. Understandable, because it can cause a lot of pain for both parties. I’ve lost my erection plenty of times.
But, like a typical guy, I pretended like it wasn’t a problem, like I wasn’t affected by it. I spoke about it to no one. It didn’t become a real issue until I was with one woman for a long period of time. The women I dated never said anything. (Curious, right?)
That is, until a particular woman came along. A woman is in a tricky place with this issue because she knows he feels shame about it and doesn’t want to rub salt in that wound, yet she also wants to get her needs met. Hmmm. What to do? First, you need to know what is actually going on. After years of busting my balls working on this issue, I figured out the root cause of erectile dysfunction. What is it?
One of the root causes of a man losing his erection is this:
When we men try to “read” a woman’s sexual needs (in a neurotic way) we subordinate to a fantasy of what we think our woman wants. We will pop into our upper head and try to “perform” love-making, instead of actually being ourselves.
In other words, we try to be someone we’re not. Knowing this is super helpful for a woman. Why? Because a lot of women take it personally and then care-take their man, then resent him.