There are some mothers who don’t have a night away from their child for years. Every night they bathe, cloth and put their babies to bed, tucking them in and wishing them a good night.
And then there are mothers who through circumstance or work, have to be away from their child for months at a time. No good night kiss. Perhaps a bedtime story read over Skype once a week is all they can get.
That’s the lot for our defence personnel on assignment away from their families, and particularly so for Navy mums.
Able Seaman Advanced Medical Assistant Sarah McLaughlan was apart from her three-year-old son, Connor, for eight long months after being deployed on a mission in the Middle East.
“I just told him that Mummy was going away on a boat for work,” she said.
“He didn’t really understand when I left, but he had a better understanding when I was coming home.”
The twenty-five-year-old medic has been in the Navy for eight years, but this year has been the most difficult.
“I was incredibly guilty for leaving, but I had to, because I have a career, and I love my job, and I needed to go to be able to provide for him,” she said.
Sarah's ship, HMAS Darwin, docked in Sydney on 16 July, after a seven-month operation in the Middle East and east Africa.
The mission was hailed as a success, after the crew seized $800 million worth of heroin off the coast of Africa and 2000 small arms weapons during the trip.
Training for the mission started six weeks before deployment, so the mother and son were separated for over eight months. It is the longest the pair have ever been apart.