Today, as I surfed through the endless oceans of the interwebs, I stumbled across a study that said ‘Most Generous Men Live Down Under’. So, of course, I clicked.
Apparently, our home grown blokes are spending big bucks on first dates. Like really big bucks. We’re talking in the hundreds.
Date auction site, WhatsYourPrice.com asked its 850,000 members how much they would expect to spend on a first date and the results were, quite honestly, ridiculous. South Australian bachelors are the biggest spenders, shelling out, on average, $375 on a first date.
Three hundred and seventy five dollars.
That’s enough for dinner for two at your favourite cheap and cheerful Thai place every night for at least two weeks, or flights for two to Melbourne from Sydney plus spending money. I’m pretty sure I’ve never spent that much on anything, except overseas trips and the Marc Jacobs bag that I’ve used every single day for more than three years (price per wear is probably in the 30 cents range by now).
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1. Adelaide - $375
2. Brisbane - $289
3. Sydney - $262
4. Perth - $249
5. Melbourne - $239
But it begs the question, what on earth do couples do on these dates?
It's easy enough to answer. In an age where dating reality shows are splattered across our screens that yell subliminal messages such as 'the only way she'll be impressed is if I take her on a helicopter ride!' and 'the only way we can possibly go on a date is if it's in a private meadow with our own chef and personal decorating service', our dating expectations have simply inflated to the point of bursting.
With the introduction of online dating and dating apps, actual dates (as opposed to the now preferred 'Netflix and chill') are much less common. This generation has little but classic '80s rom coms to use as a standard, and flowers and flashy, expensive restaurants seem standard fare.
This price tag is not uncommon. A friend of mine once took his girlfriend out to dinner. The meal cost him $800. I bet he nearly choked.
It doesn't help that research says women (and yes, it generalises) value wealth over anything when looking for a potential spouse. Wealth means stability (well, a kind of stability, I guess). But it saddens me that a man feels like he has to flash his wealth to entice a woman. Honey, if we're going on a date with you, you've enticed us enough.
This brings me to my second question: what happened to the good old dinner and a movie?
It's a staple. A classic. You get to talk, play around with your food at some family-owned Italian place near the cinema, he pays or you split, and you settle into some indie flick that had great reviews on Rotten Tomatoes. And you bask in the silence, stealing glances, holding hands. It's magic. Total cost: under a hundred bucks, and much nicer than a private sea plane ride to view his gold-filled vault. Ditto for a picnic in a park or Sunday brunch.
You could even go to Ikea, like they do in (500) Days of Summer. Post continues after video.
Am I being frugal? Perhaps. Am I stuck in a generational gap, longing for days gone by where you took your gal swing dancing or roller blading? Definitely.
So here's my haiku to the fellas of Australia:
Put down your wallets,
They're not needed anymore.
We like you, as is.
Click through the gallery below for date scenes from classic films.