Do you sometimes sit there wondering whether our own parents were as stressed and overwhelmed as we are?
No, you don’t, because you don’t have time.
But if you did, you might think that the stressed-out, anxiety-inducing whirl of your life and the lives of all your parent mates feel new. And really, really exhausting.
Jane Martino, for one, is over it.
Jane is the founder of Smiling Mind, a meditation app that makes ohmm-ing accessible to the masses, on their smart phones. But she’s no laid-back hippie. Jane started her first company at the age of 26. Then she had three sons, now 11, nine and eight. And since then, she’s been building businesses, writing books and advising other companies on how to be awesome. And, as the founder of A Shout For Good, how to give back.
Yeah, she’s pretty kick-arse.
So it was no surprise that when Jane came on the I Don’t Know How She Does It podcast, she gave us a few excellent pieces of take-home wisdom.
1. Don’t do it all. Get the kids to do some of it.
Get your kids to help you. It’s very, very good for them. It’s called Mastery.
Listen to Jane explaining what Mastery is here:
Apparently, although 82 per cent of us had to do chores growing up, only around 28 per cent of us are insisting that our own children do the same.
But Jane and her husband Matt get the boys to make their own school lunches, and it’s all in the name of something called Mastery.
“There are five of us in the family and we all take a day to make the lunches and do it the night before,” says Jane. “With three under three the boys became quite independent quite early.”
But the Mastery movement encourages the teaching of your children to ‘master’ little things as they grow up so they become more independent.
“It’s so important to build our confidence and self-esteem, even if they’re really small things… even buttering bread.
“It was a need that eventuated from a fairly chaotic initial period as parents,” says Jane. “I was building my PR agency and was back at work within weeks of having each child… it was extremely busy whether I was there or not. The more I read up about Mastery and how important it is to encourage independence, the less guilty I felt about dishing out the jobs.