A lot of us remember when Jennifer Garner had a ‘Yes Day’ – one day when she said yes to whatever her kids wanted to do (within reason). It’s a great concept which lets the kids feel like they are heard, and helps parents understand their kids.
But a lot of parents probably already feel that most days are Yes Days – or at least, days where they give in to things or activities that their kids want, not out of enjoyment, but because it’s easier. Which is how many families struggle to find a balance between “me time”, “couple time”, and “family time”.
Sydney couple Sophie, 38, and Conrad , 40, were determined to avoid that cycle as much as they could when they had their two girls; three-year-old Ella and newborn Clara.
They’re now part of a new group called ‘Yes Parents’ – where the parents have reclaim their needs and prioritise them equally with the kids. They say yes to plans with friends, and outings they would otherwise be wary about.
Mamamia spoke to Sophie about how Yes Parenting has helped their family:
MM: What made you choose to become Yes Parents?
Sophie: It was given that we wanted to be parents who were social, and for us to be happy. A defining part of our relationship has always been our social life together. We wanted to remain connected to friends and family. And we wanted to try to be spontaneous as much as we could.
But more than that, I find I'm a better parent when I'm happy. I know I'm not doing the kids a favour when I compromise all of my needs to my detriment. I know I've been lucky because both I and my daughters haven't been stopped by health issues, and we can afford to do things like eat out.